Need advice, Very Off Topic..Dealing with haters.

I need a little help because I tend to be very hot-headed and reactive and I dont know 100% the right way to handle the situation..

I have been invited to a party, with a date who is bestfriends with the birthday guy. i have known the party host and his family for several years and...the husband, wife, and teenage son all hate me. the teenage son sees how disrespectfully the parents treat me and feed off that.  im younger, the husband and wife are 40, im in my late 20's and after every get together or party they always call and 'complain' about my behavior, whether i wasnt polite enough, or some other ridiculous thing.
 
and i get surprised because who the heck has time to watch me at a party with 100 people there! i dont drink or get intoxicated. im just me. who i am. and i was raised with manners. and its even worse now with the weight loss, the wife wont even look at me, never said anything about the 112lbs ive lost, and can sit next to me and act like im not there even if i try and engage her in conversation. ive tried to be nice, helping several times when their pets needed things..

so..its a mind trip for me, how can i have so many people that love me and yet these people are so rude to me? do i go to the party and ignore them and put on a happy face? or do i stay far, far away from people who do nothing to enrich my life..

help!!!!!!

 I say go enjoy yourself and who gives a (insert whatever you want here) what they think or say.  They are small minded people and apparently very interested in you to spend all their time paying attention to what you are doing instead of enjoying the party.  On the flip side the husband might of been checking out the hot new you and the wife well is giving him hell and maybe their attitudes come from that.  Hey that's my thoughts anyways lol.  Screw what they think and go and have fun.  Kerry 

Stay Far Far Away!!! I think it is easier to move on and be productive when you are surrounded by people who love you and support you!!

 I say stay away.  If they're going to be blatantly rude to you for no good reason, why put up with it? Tell the guy that you're sorry and that the host's family go out of their way to make you feel uncomfortable.  Go out with him a different night.  If he puts up a stink about you not wanting to go?...That says a lot about what kind of man he is!  You deserve to be treated with respect and consideration.

 Exactly what I was going to post so I'll just say, here, here!

I would never wanna see their face again. 

One day my daddy was going to band practice,  his 2nd biggest love in his life was playing in the band.

One day on the way he had a headache, and said "I am just gonna sit down for a minute."  Next thing, he was on all fours.  3 hours later, he wasnt here anymore.  He was 59.

That to say - girlie, we have NO IDEA how much life we have left.  None.  If you went to that party to appease your fellafriend, and yall bit it coming home - how ****ty for your last bit of your life to have willingly placed yourself in a situation where you do have to deal with folks who just, for whatever reason, cant get their **** together enough to be civil. 

My rule of thumb is if a group of people dont bring anything to the table but trouble and bummers and they ARENT somehow involved in your job, your schooling, something that you NEED to deal with those folks to get past them and do the thing you want to do, then - life really is too short.

Your time is worth more than spending it on folks who do make you miserable, even if not actively.  There's no pleasing some folks, and its a fools game to try.

Those are my few pennies worth.  Life isnt even long enough to have to surround myself with ******** even to show something off - were I so inclined.  Meh. 

Have a good time when you can, suffer fools when you have to. 

DONT THREATEN ME WITH A GOOD TIME!   Those are my mottos!  :}

Edit to add another motto - Out assholing ******** just makes you an asshole too. 

So there you go.  Opinions and ******** you know!  :}

Agreed and well-said!

Personally I would stay away, I wouldn't need that negative vibe around me and neither do you.  However, another part of me says if you want to spend time with this guy go, ignore the ignorant ones and enjoy yourself.  By the sounds of it they are just completely jealous of your hottness!!