watching this show on TLC, big sexy- have you seen it?

on one hand they seem ok with being big, then they are complaining about their thighs rubbing, the sound it makes, being self conscious in a bathing suit..

i guess like anyone else there is conflicting emotion...

 I haven'****ched this yet, but I have seen the commercials because I watch a lot of four weddings and say yes to the dress. The one girl is all like "some girls don't want to be skinny, did that just blow your mind?" or whatever she says. That one scene is the reason I haven't bothered. Self-esteem is great and all, but if they had the chance to be magically smaller and healthier, without work, I doubt they would be passing that up.

I don't mean to be judgemental or whatever but I don't know a single fat person who would want to stay fat. It's not even about society and judgement  and all that to me. I know it plays a role but it's not what I'm referring to here. Being fat is UNCOMFORTABLE. It's heavy and stressful and hard to find clothes that fit correctly (and I'm not just talking about the numbers on the sizes.) It bothers me that the whole idea is "we like being fat." I love their self-confidence but they are kidding themselves if their desire in life is to not give a crap about being healthy.

Sorry if this sounds rude/harsh to anyone but I just know how hard I've struggled with my weight and all my health issues and it feels like they are giving people an excuse to "be okay" with being at an unhealthy weight and not caring about it. 

I guess I had better watch the show before I make any more comments but that was just the impression I got from the commercials/preview.

I totally agree with you! I remember when I was heavier I use to say I was P.H.A.T (Pretty, Hot, And Tempting) but on the inside I felt like a big blob! They are masking their true feelings..one chick was on there crying and whining about not being able to find a man..they are not fat and happy!

I'm sorry but I guess I'm in the minority because and again this was the ME before I saw what being fat could do in the LONG run (ie before my mother died 5 years ago), but I would not take you up on the offer to be skinny or anything lower then a 20 (at the time).  I didn't like it, didn't find those women attractive and never wanted to be them.  I was NEVER uncomfortable...I got hot, but so did my skinnier/skinny girlfriends.  My stress as it related to my weight was virtually none-existent.  In fact that only "pounds" I ever want to lose was no different then my skinny friends who wanted to lose 10-20lbs because of this body part or that.  I was more in love and accepting of MY body at 345 then my friends at 150, 180.

Now you mention "healthy" while NOW I realize fat can be UNHEALTHY but guess what being "skinny" doesn't automatically bring about health either.  With the exception again that I WAS a ticking time bomb I was healthier then all of my friends.  I had no pressure, sugar, joint, stress, NOTHING issues before I had my surgery, while they suffered at 150 from many things.

Sorry YOU struggled and others, but I for one did NOT.  And have been so sick of people like you and Oprah because YOU were miserable that every fat person MUST be.  There are NO absolutes in MANY things on this earth...

Ms Shell

 First of all - my intention was not to offend. Apologies if you were. I was merely saying what I got out of the commercials. A lot of the clips and monologue just sounded really insincere to me.

Second, it was also not my intention to relay that skinny = healthy. But normally when people are healthier, they just happen to weigh less than 300 lbs. I am very glad for you that you did not have any weight-related stresses and you have avoided having any serious health problems. Really, I am. I would not wish those on anyone. But a strong population of people who are morbidly obese DO have some health issues.  

I also do not have low self-esteem by any means and I am not miserable with my life whatsoever. I just want to be a healthier me. I was not claiming there were absolutes here, nor was I trying to be oprah. I was not trying to correct you or say you were wrong. I was just stating my opinion about a tv show, like everyone else.

Quite alright I was mainly referring to the 2nd paragraph in your original reponse that SEEMED to take it beyond the show.  IF you had known me when I was fat, then you would have known at least ONE person who loved it and loved it and had no problems with it....

MS Shell

Being a former big girl it is hard to see the way people treat us smaller girls verses the big girls, me an a friend( she weights about 400) went to the club last night an I had men buying me drinks straight thought the night I had to make sure they got for her even down to food I was offered she sat an no one asked her to dance but she got up an had her self a good time I like that about her but I am still glad that I choose the vsg would not change it for the world.

I agree Marisa.  I know lots of overweight/obese/fat women (family members, friends and work colleagues) and I can honestly say that I don't think a one of them is truly happy being overweight no matter what they say.  Who would intentionally choose the life of a fat person? No one!  Who would choose to miss out on fun activities because you can't fit in the amusement park ride; can't hike the mountain; are too embarrassed to wear a bathing suit in public; can't take the helicopter ride because of the weight limits; etc.....

There are so many things affected by being overweight such as health, mobility, clothing, social life, discrimination, and the list can go on & on.  Most of society views overweight people as weak.  I have heard in the workplace that sometimes people are not hired because some managers' unspoken opinion is that if you are unable to control your weight you are not strong enough to control the stress or workload required on the job.  Although I know oveweight people are just as productive as normal-weight people, weight discrimination definitely exists although no one wants to admit it.

Some overweight people may have the "I am happy as a fat person" attitude, but I never was truly happy until I started losing weight.   Just my opinion.
 

 
Yah mean the show that has a promo that says:

"Once you've gone BIG.....you'll never go TWIG"


frisco

I totally agree with Ms Shell! I've been skinny and I've been fat and I wasn't any happier skinny than I am fat. I have a healthy dose of self esteem and if someone didn't like me because of my weight, well their loss cause I'm an awesome person! I had the band in hopes it would improve my health and we all knoiw how that story ends! I don't havre bariatric coverage on my insurance anymore and no way can I afford to self pay so I'd better get used to being fat. I'm still a content person, I'm still very happy and have a great life so why snivel about being fat, it is what it is! Enjoy life no matter what your shape and size. Trust me it's not the end of the world!