very emotional please help

I just don't know what's wrong with me, I started crying today when my daughter told me that what I was doing on my computer seemed to be more important than anything else. And well yes it is, maybe I have become a little obsessed with this forum, but I am learning so much from all of you who have had VSG as well as those who are about to like myself.
I think I am fearing the unknown, and afraid to let go of all my friends (food). They have been my comfort for so many years in every emotion good and bad. I think I am in mourning on one hand and on the other just can't wait to begin a new phase of my life. I want to stop beating myself up for losing weight and then the yoyo thing, gaining it all back and then some and feeling like a failure once more. 

I hope I am not just rambling on here, just a flood of emotions going on before I embark on this exciting journey.

Any thoughts are appreciated. Thanks.

She is also in fear.  Take the day off and you two talk it out.  She wants to talk about something

I can relate, I was staying up till all hours of the night doing research and my husband said i was becoming "obsessed" I know you can't say to your daughter what I said to my husband, but it was along the lines of  "STFU! I need to do this so I know what Im getting myself into"  even now (With surgery in 9 days) Im still here, always learning =0)

To be honest, letting go of the food was the easy part. I was dreading this pre op diet and im on day 6 of it and doing really well.  Of course the lack of food has made me very emotional, but i think that might have something to do with "TOM" and being this close to surgery and scared out of my goard.

Best of luck to  ya,
Amanda

I actually mourned food. I also was obsessed with this site. I think your feelings are very normal. I'm 9 months out and I'm here to tell you that it's going to be ok. You will not miss the food--even if you use it for comfort. You will come to this site less and less. Breathe... It's going to be just fine. Hugs, Andrea

Thank you so much for all your kind thoughts and words of encouragement. It's good to know I am not the only one with these thoughts. I think I am really nervous, I had a band put in about 5 years ago and never gave it a second thought. Unfortunately it wasn't for me, so here I am on this new path. Thank you everyone for your support!

It is so good to see this forum! I can relate so much, I am now 5 days out, I can't say it has been easy but it is different for everyone. My husband would get so mad at me because all I talked about was/is WLS. But it is SUCH a huge change, I personally needed this site just to feel not so alone. It has helped a lot but now that I sit here without anyone around I find myself on here once more and looking for consoling somehow so thanks for sharing and I hope we can chat sometime. I am trying to meet new people on here and it has been hard for me for some reason. Friend me!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! I recently posted about the exact same issues. And yes, admittedly, I am obsessed with this board too and get a little grief from co-workers. My hubby doesn't really pay attention, I think he likes that I read/talk to the board versus sing annoying songs in my highest pitched cartoon voice while running around the house. Haha.

You have to give yourself a break and realize that you are going through one of the biggest, if not the biggest decision you have ever had to make and it's a process. Fear overwhelms me at times and I think "what am I doing!?!?!" and then I calm down and remember why I started this and why I want to see it through.

What has really helped me is going back to that paragraph in the "vertical sleeve gastrectomy information" box on the left side of this site under "advantages" that states that no one ever comes back asking for their stomach back, but they do come back asking if it can be made smaller. I realize that will be how I feel in time, along with feeling happy and energetic again!

Keep your head up :) We'll be celebrating in no time!

 First, how old is your daughter.  When she was about 22 my daughter made the same comment to me.  Young women from the ages of 13 - 28 are focused so much on their own lives they truly want you to be too.  Your spending time on the computer takes time away from her!  Even if she wasn't going to sit and talk to you anyway!  Go figure!  

It's also possible that she is a little afraid if she saw you go through the lap band and that failed, and now you're pursuing this surgery and it probably sounds much more complex and FINAL than a band to her, and she may have a lot of questions and concerns.

Time to step away from the computer and talk to the real people in the room.  

Don't worry.  We'll always be here for you.  After she goes to bed!  LOL