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Thank you Rich! Once again, you give great advice!

You're welcome. Hope things get smoother at work and that your friend gets her head straight.

I am sorry, but I think it's ridiculous that she seems to think she can call the shots like that!
 
It's your flipping life!! Hello!!

She is probably afraid of you getting skinnier than her and/or her not being able to dominate you like that. When people lose weight and thus often gain confidence, they usually stand up for themselves more in relationships. Many people want their fat friends to stay fat, so they can continue to dominate them and/or be the cute one.

This is a huge, extremely personal decision that you alone have to make for yourself. It affects every day of rest of your life, good or bad. Please, please, please don't let ANYONE make that huge decision for you. If they like it, fine, if they don't, fine too. You HAVE to do what is right for your life.
 
You may adore her, but really she is a part of your life and you have much life beyond her. Please don't let her influence your thought process, or anyone else for that matter. You alone have to make your best guess what path is best for you.

Good luck on your journey my dear!

I am 8 days post op and doing so well. I have lost 8 lbs already and feel fantastic.

Don't let others talk you out of whatever you decide is best for YOUR life.

Good luck on your journey!

Thank you Crissy327 and congratulations on your WLS! I wish you all the best!!!

I myself work within law enforcement and I have found the girls get catty thinking about me getting thinner, and the guys are like WHOA BABY.  As said before if she were a friend, she wouldnt have said any of that to you.  I have to say my talk of my WLS has gotten some of the women to be super encouraging and most not so much so.  My theory is if you dont like it then go f*ck yourself.  If you dont want to hear what I have to say about my WLS then dont let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!  I wouldnt hide my excitement cause of one Debbie downer - forget her!  Keep being excited- and dont stop talking about it just because of her!

Nicole S., I like your way of thinking! It is funny how some women can get catty about the whole weight loss thing. In times like that, I am happy that I work in a predominately male environment. The guys that I work with don't care what I do, as long as I am doing my job and doing it well. Good luck to you and I hope you have great results on your WLS journey!  

I am so sorry that your "friend" is acting like this..I think she is jealous for whatever reason.  True friends don't behave like this....even if she doesn't agree with your decision that is one thing. but to try and be so unsupportive is another all together.  I would not talk to her about it again and do not let her change your mind..you are doing this for you!  I had a very dear friend try to talk me out of it..I finally had to tell her that I wasn't asking for her permission but that I would like her support. 
You don't need people like this as friends in your life...real friends don't behave this way.  Focus on the supportive people in your life and good luck on your journey!

Patty

You need to ignore that coworker trying to hold you back; remind her you are following intense health advise given to you by medical professionals. If she inserts herself into other conversations, tell her to leave the conversation, you've already explained that you're going to follow medical directives and she isn't welcome to restate her position.

This kind of thing was the reason I told virtually no one at work. In fact, I told virtually no one at all. I am divorced, I told my 85 year old dad the week before -- I didn't want him worrying about it for months; I told my 17 year old daughter who lives with me. I told 2 friends -- both of who I have known for over 30 years each; and knew that not only would they be supportive, but one has had wls.

What do you do and say now ? You take this new knowledge, and you no longer discuss your wls plans at work. You no longer discuss your personal issues with her; because you now know that if she does not happen to agree with your opinion, she will judge you as "wrong" -- wrong is different than "we are different, so we have different opinions" -- wrong is a judgement call. real, grownup friends don't make judgement calls.

I "get" the law enforcement thing. It's tough, and it's gonna get tougher.

I would just move on with your plans. When you return to work post op; don't share your woes about how ****ty you feel; Only share how great you feel, how happy you are, and refuse to discuss it any further.

She is trying to control you. Do not allow it to happen.

I totally agree with everyone here! It s your life! And anyone who doesn't want to encourage you isn't worth your time of day!
It isn't anyone elses' business how you deal with your weight problem. They should be encouraging you!
I havent told any of my family because of the same type of reaction they would give!
Good luck to you and stay on top of the plan. Push until you get what you want to from your medical!!
Also, we are your support group too! So here we are with our shoulders to share!!
In Friendship
Helen