Coming out of the closet...LONG
It has seemed like there must have been something metabolic going on from the beginning, when you started saying something was not right, which does not make it less frustrating, or ease your mind about the money you spent or the chances you took.
I am not sure that any other doctor, aside from a doctor who did/does a DS, could have been helpful and that stinks a lot.
I have encouraged you to say your piece from the beginning and I am still saying to you, you have to say what has been true for you.
Not everything works for everyone. Folks who assume that it does, assume much, and to the detriment of the folks that needed something else, something more.
Sorry for the situation. Any words I have to offer will not do any good though, because it cannot fix anything or undo anything or make anything different.
I agree BrandiLynn - something must be wrong. The crazy thing is...I cannot figure it out. I have had bloodwork, all was fine. I tried to get my doctor to refer me to an Endocrinologist, but he said he couldn't find a reason to refer me. They require a referral, which really sucks!
Something has to be wrong with my body or surely I would have lost more.
Maybe I needed RNY...would that have made a difference...who knows???
I haven't given up. I keep hoping if I continue to do my best that something will happen and my body will grow weary of fighting against the weight loss and I WILL finally began to see results.
The truth is at nine months out, if I wanted to, I COULD eat more. Everyday, I remind myself of all the things you have said and how Frisco always says, don't eat until full, just eat enough.
I do fall of the wagon sometimes, but not like some folks who continue to lose.
I think I saw a post from FatGuyinaLittleCoat where he admitted he ate a half gallon of ice cream. He immediately got back on program and continued to lose.
Having said that...please know that I didn't use that as an excuse to eat ice cream or anything.
I watch folks on you tube. They have the occassional cracker with their tuna. It may slow their rate of loss, but it certainly does stop them in their tracks.
I have eating very low carb, Atkins like for the last couple of months. I was able to lose some, but not anything like I would even have lose prior to surgery.
This is the most frustrating thing I have ever experienced, but I gotta keep hoping.
Something has to be wrong with my body or surely I would have lost more.
Maybe I needed RNY...would that have made a difference...who knows???
I haven't given up. I keep hoping if I continue to do my best that something will happen and my body will grow weary of fighting against the weight loss and I WILL finally began to see results.
The truth is at nine months out, if I wanted to, I COULD eat more. Everyday, I remind myself of all the things you have said and how Frisco always says, don't eat until full, just eat enough.
I do fall of the wagon sometimes, but not like some folks who continue to lose.
I think I saw a post from FatGuyinaLittleCoat where he admitted he ate a half gallon of ice cream. He immediately got back on program and continued to lose.
Having said that...please know that I didn't use that as an excuse to eat ice cream or anything.
I watch folks on you tube. They have the occassional cracker with their tuna. It may slow their rate of loss, but it certainly does stop them in their tracks.
I have eating very low carb, Atkins like for the last couple of months. I was able to lose some, but not anything like I would even have lose prior to surgery.
This is the most frustrating thing I have ever experienced, but I gotta keep hoping.
I wanted to ADD one thought.
STOP comparing yourself to anyone.
Imagine you are in a car on a 5 lane freeway [that is a bit like what it is to be on a forum].
You are in your vehicle [your body] in the center lane [wanting to be center of attention] and everyone is passing you by on both the left and the right of you. This ticks you off, so you start paying attention to the guy to the left of you--that is all you do pay attention to the guy left of you.
What happens when you are on a busy freeway and you are only paying attention to the guy next to you? When you take your EYES of you YOU and put them onto someone else, you forget about what you are doing in your own LANE.
Could it possibly be that this is a life pattern? How hard would it be for you to be super committed to yourself?
So what if a guy ate 1/2 gallon of ice cream???
ONE-it is a dude and dudes lose alot faster than babes.
TWO-who cares what HE DID--all that matters is what YOU DO.
Please come read my blog post on O.H. titled: I left my stomach in Mexicali, this month I am writing about Self-Esteem and weight loss. I write this for myself to remind myself that I am responsible to my program--but if my blog helps you, then let me know.
You can only drive your vehicle [your body] and you can only stay in your own lane [your program] to get you where you want to go. Yes you may pass others, Yes others may pass you, but you will get where you want to go only when you have a MAP of where you want to go, when you use the RIGHT FUEL for your vehicle, when you pay attention to the road signs [your scale].
IF it means you have to go to zero-carb, then please consider the Iso-pure products at GNC. Your day is EZ with a shake which I drink 1/2 in the morning and 1/d in the afternoon and then I drink one of the zero carb drinks in the day and I make my own lemon-lime ade with stevia as the extra liquids I need for the day. When I am doing this, I dont even think about food.
Try it for 1-week and let me know if it works for you.
ALSO I want to acknowledge that after I RE-READ your post, I had to put my head around the fact that you are dealing with 9-month post-OP, not 9-weeks as I originally digested. I do feel for you even more. I stand by the fact that you cannot compare yourself to others--even though that is hard to do.
This may be WEIRD to you, but go to www.tapping.com and TRY dealing with the emotional-mental-physical-spiritual aspect of this situation. When I look at a problem, I have only ME to deal with it, for me, ME means Mental-Emotional. For ME, I have found that when I address the ME part of the problem, and often I have to add in some Spiritual work too, it is then that the physical part responds.
IF you want the name/number of a good therapist who is $50/hour who can work with you over the phone on this, email me at BusinessOfHope@aol.com.
STOP comparing yourself to anyone.
Imagine you are in a car on a 5 lane freeway [that is a bit like what it is to be on a forum].
You are in your vehicle [your body] in the center lane [wanting to be center of attention] and everyone is passing you by on both the left and the right of you. This ticks you off, so you start paying attention to the guy to the left of you--that is all you do pay attention to the guy left of you.
What happens when you are on a busy freeway and you are only paying attention to the guy next to you? When you take your EYES of you YOU and put them onto someone else, you forget about what you are doing in your own LANE.
Could it possibly be that this is a life pattern? How hard would it be for you to be super committed to yourself?
So what if a guy ate 1/2 gallon of ice cream???
ONE-it is a dude and dudes lose alot faster than babes.
TWO-who cares what HE DID--all that matters is what YOU DO.
Please come read my blog post on O.H. titled: I left my stomach in Mexicali, this month I am writing about Self-Esteem and weight loss. I write this for myself to remind myself that I am responsible to my program--but if my blog helps you, then let me know.
You can only drive your vehicle [your body] and you can only stay in your own lane [your program] to get you where you want to go. Yes you may pass others, Yes others may pass you, but you will get where you want to go only when you have a MAP of where you want to go, when you use the RIGHT FUEL for your vehicle, when you pay attention to the road signs [your scale].
IF it means you have to go to zero-carb, then please consider the Iso-pure products at GNC. Your day is EZ with a shake which I drink 1/2 in the morning and 1/d in the afternoon and then I drink one of the zero carb drinks in the day and I make my own lemon-lime ade with stevia as the extra liquids I need for the day. When I am doing this, I dont even think about food.
Try it for 1-week and let me know if it works for you.
ALSO I want to acknowledge that after I RE-READ your post, I had to put my head around the fact that you are dealing with 9-month post-OP, not 9-weeks as I originally digested. I do feel for you even more. I stand by the fact that you cannot compare yourself to others--even though that is hard to do.
This may be WEIRD to you, but go to www.tapping.com and TRY dealing with the emotional-mental-physical-spiritual aspect of this situation. When I look at a problem, I have only ME to deal with it, for me, ME means Mental-Emotional. For ME, I have found that when I address the ME part of the problem, and often I have to add in some Spiritual work too, it is then that the physical part responds.
IF you want the name/number of a good therapist who is $50/hour who can work with you over the phone on this, email me at BusinessOfHope@aol.com.
Here is another thing, that is just a thought.
You are ONE month out. One. She is NINE months out with 4-5 of them being with NO weight loss. NONE.
Your not thinking about food and your frustration level isnt even in the same ballpark as the one she is in, not even close.
I get that your heart is to be helpful - my heart is that you understand how it is 1 month out, 2 months out, 3 months out - is not the same as later. Your hiccup of a stall doesnt even nearly compare to her situation and what she has put herself through emotionally because she paid X money for this surgery and has only lost X pounds.
Book learning is what it is, but the experientially, ESPECIALLY experience that defies what "should" be very often is a whole different animal.
You are ONE month out. One. She is NINE months out with 4-5 of them being with NO weight loss. NONE.
Your not thinking about food and your frustration level isnt even in the same ballpark as the one she is in, not even close.
I get that your heart is to be helpful - my heart is that you understand how it is 1 month out, 2 months out, 3 months out - is not the same as later. Your hiccup of a stall doesnt even nearly compare to her situation and what she has put herself through emotionally because she paid X money for this surgery and has only lost X pounds.
Book learning is what it is, but the experientially, ESPECIALLY experience that defies what "should" be very often is a whole different animal.
Well said Brandi Lynn - my emotion gets in the way of my post sometimes. I DO feel stronger since I have gotten so much support from this post. I am beginning to feel a trace of hope.
"IF" I could just find a reason for the madness, then I could make a plan and attack the situation. It's the not knowing what to do that makes me crazy.
I tried everything that everyone else said worked for them without getting the results.
I am working hard on my mental state, so I can find a solution.
All prayers are welcome...good thoughts, good vibes...whatever you believe...send good things my way.
I really do need some change to encourage and strenghten me to keep fighting the fight. If I could see at least "some" results, it would be so wonderful.
You're the best!
"IF" I could just find a reason for the madness, then I could make a plan and attack the situation. It's the not knowing what to do that makes me crazy.
I tried everything that everyone else said worked for them without getting the results.
I am working hard on my mental state, so I can find a solution.
All prayers are welcome...good thoughts, good vibes...whatever you believe...send good things my way.
I really do need some change to encourage and strenghten me to keep fighting the fight. If I could see at least "some" results, it would be so wonderful.
You're the best!
You are just a human, it gets wearying to feel like you have to defend yourself all the time. Folk have good intentions its true, but when that's the same answer that has gotten no results, then the intent isnt what shows up as much as frustration.
A wise man said "the road to aggravated assault is paved with good intention."
Okay, fine. Nobody said that but me. :}
But, you know it COULD be true!
I do encourage you to stick around, if nobody ever speaks up then nobody else knows they arent alone. Unfortunately trail blazers get a little cripsy around the edges. :}
Blaze on baby. We've got your back and know you are going to tell us when SOMETHING WORKS!!
A wise man said "the road to aggravated assault is paved with good intention."
Okay, fine. Nobody said that but me. :}
But, you know it COULD be true!
I do encourage you to stick around, if nobody ever speaks up then nobody else knows they arent alone. Unfortunately trail blazers get a little cripsy around the edges. :}
Blaze on baby. We've got your back and know you are going to tell us when SOMETHING WORKS!!
Thank you--I had to go back and re-read her post. You are right 9-months is alot different than 9-weeks which was in my head when I read her post originally. Funny how we read things at 3:30 in the morning. Thank you for the clarification--that was good.
Bless her heart--she has to do more to get more out of this for herself. There is a reason that she has to fight a little harder for what she wants. God has a good plan for each of us.
Bless her heart--she has to do more to get more out of this for herself. There is a reason that she has to fight a little harder for what she wants. God has a good plan for each of us.
Oy! I understand about 3:30 comprehension!
You have excellent information to share and I am glad that you do!
He has a most excellent plan, and I find that often in the middle of the proving ground it just looks like a huge stinky fly ridden pile o poo.
On the OTHER side is glorious. But somedays are just poo trudging days. :}
You have excellent information to share and I am glad that you do!
He has a most excellent plan, and I find that often in the middle of the proving ground it just looks like a huge stinky fly ridden pile o poo.
On the OTHER side is glorious. But somedays are just poo trudging days. :}
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