PISSED THE F*CK OFF!!!!!

Don't get sucked into the drama.  You don't have to defend yourself, just detach!

Well said! LOL 

Two things-

First, Jimbo is absolutely spot on.

Second, WLS is scientifically proven to NOT make people snobby. However, it can change people. And it might change you. That's not a bad thing. Don't be surprised if you move on in your life and away from this friend. Look at your list. Do you see her following you to Italy? Will she happily support you in meeting all goals on your list? Probably not.

Thanks! You're right. I'm just going to gracefully without drama pull away from her. Eventually the relationship will fizzle and we'll both go our separate ways. I don't want to hurt her further as I never ment to in the first place.  

 i noticed that the girls that i thought were my friends are jealous of the attention i get now from compliments and things said from other people. it's crazy to find out who your true friends are after vsg. 

Very true! You look amazing! Don't let anyone bring you down!! Stunning!!  

darling in my opinion ,she being your long time friend , knows your potential, and is now in some corner of her  heart scared of you, because you are going to be everything in your list 100% ,but she even if she wants something like this to happen for herself , is not willing to make an effort towards the change. so she is trying to put you down by saying such mean things to you. because we fat people have this tendency to revert back to food     in such cir****tances. it might be a plan for sabbotage ,  and even if it is not you are doing a great job ,
so keep it up , (now you know who all are jelous of your dreams.)

and always bear in mind "be what you are and do what you want, because people who matter do not mind and pleople who mind do not matter."

i love your list and here on oh every one loves you and respect your dreams. go on and make us proud darling .

hugs
p

Have you ever read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz?  If not, I highly recommend it... it came to mind when reading your post.

I can see why your friend thinks people who've had WLS get snobby.  I've actually lost a significant amount of weight before and got close to my goal... I think I posted about it in another thread a while back. 

Finally getting within sight of who you want to be is really liberating, especially when you arrive at a point where your new behaviors have become second nature and it's no longer so much of an effort.  When it becomes easy, you might find you have a tendency to try to impress upon your still-overweight friend how do-able it is for them to join you in your new life.  When they resist, that puts you in a position to... well... not look down on them, but there's definitely a certain degree of disappointment and frustration in realizing that they won't even try.  I could see how a confrontation could easily erupt where your friend could walk away from it feeling as though the friend who had WLS turned into a snob.

WLS does change people... she's right there.  However the positives for you are negatives for her because, as others have pointed out, your lifestyle is no longer the same as hers.  You will be leaving her in the dust in a lot of ways; she won't be able to do the things you can do.  She won't be able to travel to Italy and spend the day walking around without batting an eyelash.  She won't understand when you do get that new boyfriend and have more demands on your time than you once did.

The bottom line is, you need to do what's right for you.  You can't let sparing your friend's insecurities about her friendship with you keep you from expressing how you feel.  That's her problem to work through, not yours.

 
I'm all down with your goals..... wooh hooh !!!!!

Go for it !!!!!

The only thing I question....and keep in mind this is me.......

I'm so not down with the Facebook thing !!!!

I understand the whole social media thing.....I even manage a Facebook fan page for an athlete for promotional and business reasons.....

But for me.... I have seen many negative things come of Facebook...... again for me.....I choose to not be that "out there" 

I'd like to see you get those goals!!!

Don't let anyone or anything get in your way !!!!

frisco

Mandy, she is afraid and more than a little jealous.  All you can do for people like this is to just do what you are doing, be the same you  as always.

Hell, yes!  We are proud of doing this.  Some foolish people think it is the easy way,  It isn't/  It is just ANOTHER way.  I am so happy for you because you got to have this surgery so young and you are doing great!  I am 60 years old, you better believe I wish I could have had this done when I was your age.

Just keep on being yourself.   Don't let frustrated person accuse you of being fake and insincere cause you to be someone else.  When someone lies about you like this the best thing to do is to live your life in such a way that everyone knows what she says about yuo is a lie.

Some folks may walk away from us as we are losing, others may get closer.  Heck, I have seen posts from people whose husband or wife left them because they were successful at losing with wls!  Sometimes people just cannot deal with someone who finally starts really working to make themself better.

I hope she will let you be there for her, but if she doesn't there is nothing you can do. 

Hugs,
Sharon