Revision friends!!! Advice please!!

 
  Today I want to share with you about this fear that I have had for the lastlittle bit, being a revision patient. I know, that as a revision patient there is a good chance my weight loss will be slower and less than someone who has had WLS for the first time. I am even more than ok with this. I am and continue to be realistic about my weight loss both in regards to amount and time frame.

I have lost a nice chunk of weight relatively quickly, as far as I am concerned with my sleeve and I am very happy with it, but every time I stall, I can't help but to find myself thinking... AM I DONE?

I know stalls are part of weight loss and I don't expect to lose every single day. But I do "expect" "want" whatever you want to call it, to lose something every single week. Even if it is a half a pound. I expect to lose every week. This is probably not realistic as stalls DO happen. I know this. I just broke out of a two week long stall this morning. I was holding steady at 281.4 for the last two weeks! Literally, two weeks down to the day! This morning, BOOM 279.6! Awesome! 

TWO WEEKS!!! That is really a drop in the bucket of time... Why am I freaking out?  Because I am a revision patient. Because I've failed 5 billion diets... The Lap-Band didnt work out.... Dare I say it... WHAT IF I FAIL AGAIN??? *covers eyes*  *fingers in ears signing lalalalala*

So the thought comes to me... What if, this is it? What if I am done?? When is the other shoe going to drop?? After about 10 minutes of this thinking I have to wake up and knock it off! I AM NOT DONE! Can Anyone relate? Any suggestions as to how to make these thoughts go away??

I kind of live by the mantra that "today is today, enjoy it, quit wallowing in the past, and look forward to the future". I could have sat back and wallowed in my past dieting attempts and failures, the failed band that caused permanent damage to my stomach, or I could relish every single victory that having the sleeve brought. I chose the latter, I never once believed that I would lose any differently than a virgin sleeve patient and guess what; I didn't lose any faster or slower than anyone else.

Negative breeds negativity. Either choose positive, choose happiness, or choose misery. That's the only way I know how to get anyone to realize that they can be successful.

Kind of like when my mom told me for years "no one will fully love you until you can love yourself". She pounded that into me from age 12 on, and she encouraged me to believe in myself before believing in anyone else.

Focus on your goals, your victories, and quit beating yourself up for the past. You can't change it, it's done and over with so why relive it today? ? ? What's payoff are you getting by being negative and doubting yourself? If there's no payoff, stop doing it.

Maybe I'm too logical and too much a realist, but this is one concept that I could never wrap my head around. I just don't get all the negativity because there was never anything in it for me except more grief.

"Negative breeds negativity. Either choose positive, choose happiness, or choose misery. That's the only way I know how to get anyone to realize that they can be successful." 

You are SOOOO right! The end of that post (which came off of my blog) was tips on breaking a stall and me telling myself and anyone *****ads it to be positive and proactive. I was totally having a down in the dumps day when I wrote this and I posted it today as part of my "be proactive-ness" Looking for tips, mantras etc I guess to help pull me out my ruts when I get into them. 

Thank you for posting this. Sometimes i need to remember that today is today and I need to be more positive!