Enabling friend that doesn't get food addiction

Tell your friend that you only want her friendship and food is out.  I'm thinking she is "buying" your friendship with food.  At least thats how she is percieving it.  If she still brings cake over then slice off a tiny tiny slice, cover it with saran wrap and tell her your son will appreciate her thoughtfulness but she has to take the rest home with her as you can't eat it and your son will only eat one piece so the rest will up "going to waste".  If she doesn't take it with her say oh you forgot your cake!  and hand it to her.  If that doesn't work then throw it out.  She sounds like a co dependant type so unless you are willing to let her feed her issues by feeding you I think you will have to be very strict with her.

I just talked to her and let her know that I had to protect myself from foods that aren't on my program. I also said that it's my "sickness" and I will die if I start eating out of control again. She said, "Well try having cancer." nice. But, I still stood my ground and said she can't bring me anymore food. thanks for all of the support!!!

My mom taught me... "least said is least regretted".. so say little to her that will hurt her feelings.

If she leave the cake.  Freeze a piece for your son if you wish and put the rest down the drain.  I have found that food soaked with water is not very appealing.   It also is out of the house faster.  And if you wait to give it away, you will eat way too much. 

You don't even have to tell her what you did, just say thank you.

I don't understand her, I don't think you do either.  We are all at different places in our world.  It sounds like she is at a difficult place.  Treat her with love and compassion and you will be a better person for it.  It is ok to move away from people that hurt us.  But when they are killing us with kindness we can find a nice way to move away.

Good luck and God bless.

her illness is not a license to treat you badly...   just sayin'...

kick her to the curb - you don't need people like that in your life, regardless of their physical condition...  it's not like she's a life-long buddy or anything...

my 2 cents...

jeris