Good Morning, VA

Lois, I want to go to either Bedford or Roanoke. I am looking forward to being alone. Never riden a motorcycle but alot of our friends at church ride them all summer long. I hate to travel now because of the discomfort but hopefully after this surgery, I will feel more like going. I did marry my husband for what I thought was security...enough said about that..he was very controlling. Hugs, Betsy

Aww, Cory...Thank you for such an encouraging post. I am not emotionally attached so this won't be so hard ...If I had loved him like I did in the beginning, It would have been so much harder. Reading success stories such as yours, make me think that their may be a future out there for me. Where do you live in Roanoke? hugs, Betsy

Good Morning Betsy, I had an idea that something terrible was going on when you mentioned in several of your posts that you were going through a rough time. I'm here, as living proof, that your prince is out there... maybe a few of them! I made the marriage mistake twice, once for my baby (who is now 21) and once for financial security. I ended up first with a liar/cheater, and then with an alcoholic/abuser. I learned after all that, that I had to depend on no one but myself and become independent. And I was for 8 years, until this past spring when I married a truly loving man with no hidden adjendas. He's loved me from 220 pounds to over 300 pounds. His primary reaction to my WLS has been his wish for my improved health (all my co-morbidity stuff to be gone.) He has taken care of me 80% since my surgery, including all the housework, with no complaints. I also have my daughter and loving and supportive extended family that have helped too. Just from your posts and other's comments I know you are a wonderful lady and I'm excited for you and your butterfly!! Happy New Year and Happy New YOU!! Tammy

Thank you, Tammy for the sweet post. I know that my future is going to be what I make it and I intend to make it a wonderful future. I am ready for me...as soon as my wings are strong enough, I am going to fly..soar over this world and be happy. God has plans for me...I just have to wait and see...take my time and know that I am doing the best thing. I am positive that my life is going to be wonderful whether with someone special or alone. I am no longer going to be a doormat...I am going to be strong and learn to love me... Hugs, Betsy

Happy New Year to you Betsy and may God be with you with everything that you are being dealt. Keep your head held high,and let your butterfly wings keep you highspirited. HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!! A.Stuart

Thanks, Sweetie....I am going to do really great .... I have a future to look forward to ...Thanks for the positive post. Hugs, Betsy

Hi Betsy, I feel so bad for you! And yet, I am so happy for you! You will survive this! You are definately on the right road to freedom! You Go, Girl! I just have one piece of advice. Please, please, please make sure you take care of yourself physically! I know the emotions must be like a roller coaster. Just don't let them interfere with your health. Be sure to eat your protein, take your vitamins and start exercising when the doctor tells you to. That is the best gift you can do for yourself. If you are not physically able to move when "the idiot" wants you to,then don't! Please do not make the mistake of taking on too much physically too soon. You will regret it. Baby your body. Ask for help if you need it. We are all here to support you. Okay! I will get off of my soap box! Another WLS friend told me she looks at herself in the mirror every morning and tells herself something positive she likes about herself. What a great gift to give yourself! Hugs, Karen

Hi Sweetie...Yes, I will take care of myself...emotionally I am getting along just fine...physically I know it will take some time..I will take my time gettin this all organized...a little at a time. It is the only way I can do this. Things will work out for the best, I know it. I am not in any hurry to get out (well, yes I am but I know that reality wise, I have to take my time) but it will happen. Knowing that we are divorcing, maybe things will calm down. My regular dr has me on Clonazepam to keep my stress level down so I will be fine. Thank you for the positive post. I am looking forward to my future life...free from pain and healthy. Thank God. Hugs, Betsy

Dear Sweet Betsy, I am so sorry that this is coming so soon after surgery, but you seem to have a handle on things and that this is just the begining of a new transformation in your life. We will all be here to help and encourage you. My prayers are with you. I love you lots, Melannie

Sweet Melannie...how sweet you are. How are you doing? I appreciate all the encouragement I have gotten from this board...I have quite a few angels from here who are doing so much for me. I love you all. I don't know what I would do without everyone of you. I know I shouldn't have posted such personal things on here but doesn't obesity have other problems? We tend to settle for anything looking for love. I made a mistake but we can always turn the tables and that is what I intend to do. I will never be contoled again... Hugs, betsy