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Topic: RE: Rocky Mountain Associated Physicians (RMAP) Patients
I left the following text message to Meggan (daughter's mother) at 10:14pm tonight:
"Meggan can we talk briefly about the summer schedule?"
I left it because I sent her my summer calendar showing the four weeks (2 uninterrupted) that I wanted for Faith and I this summer. Meggan sent hers back tonight giving me the two uninterrupted vacation weeks she wants but she also reworked mine -- basically saying "this is all I'm giving you." I thought I'd be nice and see if we could just talk briefly and figure things out. But of course not. So I had to rework the entire calendar (which took me forever) and send a revision over to her. *sigh* She makes things sooo difficult. Start at the bottom and work your way up.
lol. I have to get to bed now so I don't die of sleep deprivation tomorrow.
Sean
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From: Sean Joyce
To: Meggan
Sent: Monday, April 20, 2009 12:26:09 AM
Subject: Re: Your Text Message
Meggan~It was my intention to discuss with you briefly why, when you outlined the summer vacation weeks you wanted to take, you decided to change the summer vacation weeks I wanted and changed them. Rather than go down the path that we always seem to go down, I thought I would see if there was a middle ground. It was worth a try. I apologize for missing your 10pm deadline (which I didn't know about) by 14 minutes. I actually thought it was earlier.
Please keep in mind that you texted me not overly long ago about Faith not being able to have a sleepover with Nyla and wanting to know if I could set one up for her on a future weekend when Faith was with me. According to your definition below, that doesn't constitute an emergency either. It doesn't state anywhere in our decree that all communication about Faith has to be through email except for emergencies. However, our decree does specifically states that any request for a parent-time change will be responded to within 72 hours yet you recently waited until 4/14/09 to respond to a parent-time change request that was sent on 3/31/09 and, as subsequent emails demonstrated, your response was vague at best. This caused undue stress and a barrage of unnecessary emails. Your lack of communication regarding parental issues and parent-time change requests has become way too commonplace and in some cases you don't respond at all to emails that require responses. If you can't communicate through email then we're going to need to involve other avenues. If however, you provide timely responses to emails concerning Faith, I have no problem with communication occurring, for the most part, through email. The most important thing here is that communication regarding Faith happens.
Sean
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From: Meggan
To: Sean Joyce
Sent: Sunday, April 19, 2009 10:32:08 PM
Subject: Your Text Message
Sean:You are not to be texting or calling me. All communication is to go through email. You know this. I'll consider an emergency to also include when Faith's dance bag is missing and needed with 24hrs, or homework, in the same situation. Other then a true emergency, you should not be texting me.
As well, I really don't appreciate it happening after 10pm. Not ok. If there is something you want to discuss about the calender it needs to happen here.
Thanks!
Meggan
A Simple Text Message
In this case, I was distracted so much by the following issue that it actually helped me not experience any cravings. Yay! But I still thought you'd get a kick out of what happened.I left the following text message to Meggan (daughter's mother) at 10:14pm tonight:
"Meggan can we talk briefly about the summer schedule?"
I left it because I sent her my summer calendar showing the four weeks (2 uninterrupted) that I wanted for Faith and I this summer. Meggan sent hers back tonight giving me the two uninterrupted vacation weeks she wants but she also reworked mine -- basically saying "this is all I'm giving you." I thought I'd be nice and see if we could just talk briefly and figure things out. But of course not. So I had to rework the entire calendar (which took me forever) and send a revision over to her. *sigh* She makes things sooo difficult. Start at the bottom and work your way up.
lol. I have to get to bed now so I don't die of sleep deprivation tomorrow.
Sean
__________________________________________________
------- Forwarded Message ----
From: Sean Joyce
To: Meggan
Sent: Monday, April 20, 2009 12:26:09 AM
Subject: Re: Your Text Message
Meggan~It was my intention to discuss with you briefly why, when you outlined the summer vacation weeks you wanted to take, you decided to change the summer vacation weeks I wanted and changed them. Rather than go down the path that we always seem to go down, I thought I would see if there was a middle ground. It was worth a try. I apologize for missing your 10pm deadline (which I didn't know about) by 14 minutes. I actually thought it was earlier.
Please keep in mind that you texted me not overly long ago about Faith not being able to have a sleepover with Nyla and wanting to know if I could set one up for her on a future weekend when Faith was with me. According to your definition below, that doesn't constitute an emergency either. It doesn't state anywhere in our decree that all communication about Faith has to be through email except for emergencies. However, our decree does specifically states that any request for a parent-time change will be responded to within 72 hours yet you recently waited until 4/14/09 to respond to a parent-time change request that was sent on 3/31/09 and, as subsequent emails demonstrated, your response was vague at best. This caused undue stress and a barrage of unnecessary emails. Your lack of communication regarding parental issues and parent-time change requests has become way too commonplace and in some cases you don't respond at all to emails that require responses. If you can't communicate through email then we're going to need to involve other avenues. If however, you provide timely responses to emails concerning Faith, I have no problem with communication occurring, for the most part, through email. The most important thing here is that communication regarding Faith happens.
Sean
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From: Meggan
To: Sean Joyce
Sent: Sunday, April 19, 2009 10:32:08 PM
Subject: Your Text Message
Sean:You are not to be texting or calling me. All communication is to go through email. You know this. I'll consider an emergency to also include when Faith's dance bag is missing and needed with 24hrs, or homework, in the same situation. Other then a true emergency, you should not be texting me.
As well, I really don't appreciate it happening after 10pm. Not ok. If there is something you want to discuss about the calender it needs to happen here.
Thanks!
Meggan
Topic: RE: select health
I was trying for the RNY it was medically necessary, HR is not willing to add the rider due to the cost and that we only have 8 employees total,
Topic: RE: select health
Will they not cover any surgery or just a particular surgery?
I have SelectHealth and they cover a portion of the RNY and the LapBand. They denied my appeals for the DS.
Perhaps you can talk with your Human Resources department about having bariatric surgical procedures added to your company's insurance coverage.
Don't give up. Weight loss surgery is becoming more popular and available.
I have SelectHealth and they cover a portion of the RNY and the LapBand. They denied my appeals for the DS.
Perhaps you can talk with your Human Resources department about having bariatric surgical procedures added to your company's insurance coverage.
Don't give up. Weight loss surgery is becoming more popular and available.
Duodenal Switch 4/29/09
Loving my DS!!
Loving my DS!!
Topic: RE: Rocky Mountain Associated Physicians (RMAP) Patients
So....... I'm recommitting myself again. A drive to get under 230lbs before my plastic surgery that is coming up on the 23rd. I'm excited about it. To get the excess skin taken off but also because it'll be a welcome break from work -- one I wouldn't have taken if not for the surgery (I'm too committed).
Oh, and another source of stress. The ex who will just not go away. I emailed her on March 31st (23 days prior to my surgery) and told her that I could not take my daughter Faith on Thursday, April 23rd. I asked her to let me know if she could take her. Our decree states that email requests like that are supposed to be responded to within 72 hours. Last time I looked, 72 hours was 3 days. How long did it take her to respond? An extra email, two texts, a voicemail and 15 days. Unbelievable. And then she doesn't tell me she can't take Faith no. My email said I can't take Faith, let me know if you have problems taking her and I'd like to take her on the 21st instead. The response was "I can't accommodate your request." In the past that's saying no to the 21st. Kind of vague, don't you think?
Anyway, so I responded back to her and THEN she replies (we're 16 days past my initial request now) and tells me that it's my parent-time day so I'm responsible for figuring out Faith's care and she can't take her. Nice. Way to give me some warning.
On top of that, she wrote me to tell me that she is going to put Faith in summer camp and starts telling me about where she's going to put her. Okay. But she doesn't go to school and she doesn't work so while once she makes a decision it would be relevant to know where Faith is going to be, her ramblings don't matter because only work and school related care is split between us. So I tell her that I'm going to need summer work related care (because I work, right?) and that if she wants to "discuss" that, I'm willing but otherwise I'll put Faith where I want and then we'll split the costs (as outlined in our decree).
You'd think that would be easy but no. She's on a fixed income. Give me a break. Anyone with a brain can extrapolate an estimate on how much money she's bringing in for being on social security disability, supplemental income for her and Faith, as well as child support (all non-taxable). Under her definition of "fixed income," I'm on a fixed income as well. She makes as much as many people who work and just sits home all day or whatever she does.
Anyway, this payment issue for summer work/school related daycare is an annual fight. I bring it up here because it goes to show that we are affected by emotion. Stress, boredom, loneliness, etc. It affects us all. Be aware of your emotions and pay really close attention to the amount of water you're getting and what you eat during these periods of time. I have no doubt I'll be back under 230lbs by 4/23/09 but only because I know exactly what to do and have the ability to deal with the stress that's going on right now. I have to give kudos to my support system. Without them, dealing with the stress wouldn't be as easy.
Take care.
Sean
Stress/Eating/Weight Gain
Argh~ So today I weighed in at 232 lbs. Crap. Two lbs over my scary weight and 7 lbs over my goal (which I have reached several times before). The villian? Stress. Work is wiping me out and the fact that there is candy EVERYWHERE at work is driving me nuts. I'm finding that my self-control isn't what it's cracked up to be. Of course, if I had control over my eating, I wouldn't have needed the surgery.So....... I'm recommitting myself again. A drive to get under 230lbs before my plastic surgery that is coming up on the 23rd. I'm excited about it. To get the excess skin taken off but also because it'll be a welcome break from work -- one I wouldn't have taken if not for the surgery (I'm too committed).
Oh, and another source of stress. The ex who will just not go away. I emailed her on March 31st (23 days prior to my surgery) and told her that I could not take my daughter Faith on Thursday, April 23rd. I asked her to let me know if she could take her. Our decree states that email requests like that are supposed to be responded to within 72 hours. Last time I looked, 72 hours was 3 days. How long did it take her to respond? An extra email, two texts, a voicemail and 15 days. Unbelievable. And then she doesn't tell me she can't take Faith no. My email said I can't take Faith, let me know if you have problems taking her and I'd like to take her on the 21st instead. The response was "I can't accommodate your request." In the past that's saying no to the 21st. Kind of vague, don't you think?
Anyway, so I responded back to her and THEN she replies (we're 16 days past my initial request now) and tells me that it's my parent-time day so I'm responsible for figuring out Faith's care and she can't take her. Nice. Way to give me some warning.
On top of that, she wrote me to tell me that she is going to put Faith in summer camp and starts telling me about where she's going to put her. Okay. But she doesn't go to school and she doesn't work so while once she makes a decision it would be relevant to know where Faith is going to be, her ramblings don't matter because only work and school related care is split between us. So I tell her that I'm going to need summer work related care (because I work, right?) and that if she wants to "discuss" that, I'm willing but otherwise I'll put Faith where I want and then we'll split the costs (as outlined in our decree).
You'd think that would be easy but no. She's on a fixed income. Give me a break. Anyone with a brain can extrapolate an estimate on how much money she's bringing in for being on social security disability, supplemental income for her and Faith, as well as child support (all non-taxable). Under her definition of "fixed income," I'm on a fixed income as well. She makes as much as many people who work and just sits home all day or whatever she does.
Anyway, this payment issue for summer work/school related daycare is an annual fight. I bring it up here because it goes to show that we are affected by emotion. Stress, boredom, loneliness, etc. It affects us all. Be aware of your emotions and pay really close attention to the amount of water you're getting and what you eat during these periods of time. I have no doubt I'll be back under 230lbs by 4/23/09 but only because I know exactly what to do and have the ability to deal with the stress that's going on right now. I have to give kudos to my support system. Without them, dealing with the stress wouldn't be as easy.
Take care.
Sean
Topic: RE: Dr. Steven Simper
Very good choice! How exciting for you! It's a gnarly journey so enjoy!
Topic: select health
Well to no avail the powers that be at select health have denied me again, man this is getting old! Looks like surgery is out of the question for me, at least here in the states. Just can't afford 28,000.00.. Sorry to RANT just really frustrated!
Topic: RE: Dr. Steven Simper
LOL. Yes, he does have quite the mustache, and he carries it off well.
I finally got to meet him, he will be doing my surgery in 2 weeks. He is very personable, very intelligent and I found him kind. He has done relatively few DS surgeries, but he talked to me about his training process and that coupled with his years (decades really) of bariatric surgery, I feel very comfortable with him. I guess we will see!
I finally got to meet him, he will be doing my surgery in 2 weeks. He is very personable, very intelligent and I found him kind. He has done relatively few DS surgeries, but he talked to me about his training process and that coupled with his years (decades really) of bariatric surgery, I feel very comfortable with him. I guess we will see!
Duodenal Switch 4/29/09
Loving my DS!!
Loving my DS!!
Topic: RE: Dr. Steven Simper
If I was undecided about a surgeon before, I think this is the clincher! 
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