Struggling?

I am here - I don't post very often, but read daily - I truly need support - I am having major problem and have not shared it with anyone.

It is my eating, but not regain, it's pain. Everytime and thing I eat makes me hurt. I throw up at least once a day, --Oh, I can eat carbs and junk, but protein hurt, so I will snack on a few bites of junk, but basicly don't eat much else. No gain, but certainly not health. my clothes continue to be bigger and and bigger, so my size is decreasing, but, not the weight.  Again not trying to lose.

I am really bad about vitamins, I take them only several time per week.  The only thing good to say, it that I do get my liquids in!! (Yea for something).

ok that's my whine for the daily, Guess that I should go eat some cheese to go w/ it!!!!


i love you guys so much - Tx for the support

 Gaye.....PLEASE call Dr. Kim and go in and get checked out.   That is NOT normal what you are going through.  PLEASE get checked out !!!  Love and miss you !!!!


Hugs and blessings ~~ Vivian

Gaye, please call your doctor ladybug.  It's possible you have a stricture even, which is a very easy fix.  It can happen even this far out, don't let this continue on PLEASE take care of yourself.

Love you too!

I know exactly how you feel...  Have a couple of things to add on here.

Being honest:  I left for a while because I allowed someone to really **** me off...  I've attended some groups in person and the last one I attended pushed me over the edge.   I ended up sitting by someone who proceeded to police my food intake that day and tell me and the entire table, rather loudly that I was making bad choices, how "she wouldn't dare eat that"...  Now, I won't digress into a diatribe about what I ate, how little of it I ate (but it was bacon and eggs I might add), etc.   The point was, I didn't attend a support group to be criticized and might I add that I've been maintaining my weight for a year with only a 3 lb. swing any direction?

I also left reading/posting here for a number of months due to the negativity some people exhibited with their posts.   I thought this was supposed to be a support group - not a bashing website.

In the end, I lurk alot and occassionaly post nice comments to newbies or people seeking advise, but try to live by one simple rule - post positive statements.  Working hard not to be a negative nelly here.

As for something I would like to start posting - a weekly thread about what you're cooking.  I personally find that planning is my key to success.  Without a plan, I get all out of whack and eat a bunch of crap out and pay for it on the scale the following week.  So, a weekly post might be along the lines of what you're making for dinner.   Personally, I plan everything for the week on Sunday and spend the afternoon cooking and preping for the entire week.    Recently, on Facebook, I posted each day what the fam was having for dinner and was amazed at the responses from friends.  Everyone, and I mean all my friends wanted to know how that receipie turned out, what did they think and could I share it on-line.   Of course, I did.  Some were good, some okay and some are new family favorites.  All it takes is a little time and prep work to have a solid food week, each and every week.

What do you think?

Lisa, I'm sorry you were policed.  I would have been frustrated also; I don't view foods negatively I know what are better choices but I realize we will make choices that are better and some that aren't as good.  It's OK in the grand scheme of things IMO if we just make the good choices more often than bad, KWIM?

I like the weekly food thread.  I have been very much by the seat of my pants lately.  We've had lots of family drama and concerns this year, it's stressful and I've pushed out of my mind taking care of me as often as I need too; I have had some negative thoughts but I won't put them out here, it's between me and family and a couple of very close friends that I bounce my emotions and frustrations off of because I know I can and it isn't going to be shared elsewhere.

I also realize that we do have to have a place to vent our frustrations whether WLS related or not.  My problem is the continous woe is me complainers that bring me down and that I feel have moved the board in another direction that I do not wish to participate in.  I know I'm sensitive the those type of post so I just stay away, I need positive energy not negative energy.

I'll commit to posting more often to those I can help.

You know, I would also add that what works for one of us, might work for another, but just because it works for me doesn't mean it will or won't work for another.   I agree with you about not viewing food negatively.  My favorite word around food is BALANCE...   Without it we either gain weight or possibly become unhealthy by losing too much weight (not my problem yet).   So, some people will call a few of my food choices, bad but if they look at my food tracker and weigh out the entire day vs picking over a single meal, it's interesting just how healthy I eat.

Thank you for the kind words and I will try a new thread to see if there is interest.   You never know...  Nutrition has become one of my favorite subjects :)

Great idea! I look forward to your post!
Meggie

Now that I have had some pain meds I must confess. I almost left the boards at one time. I was told by a fellow WLSer that I "did not earn my weight loss because I did not exercise". I was so upset and hurt that one of us would treat another that way that I wondered if I really wanted to be here. Then I thought to myself about how many TRULY wonderful and supportive people there were on this board and how much I had learned not just about WLS but about life from so many. The good out weighed the bad and I decided I was not going to let this one hateful comment comment destroy a wonderful program. If some one is that way in the future just unfriend and blockj  them, they are not worth losing the wonderful people here for!! These people have stuck with me through thick, thin, sickness and health...yes it is like a marriage! I just hope I can pay it forward enough!

Meggie

Yes Ma'am.....I'll start posting more regularly.  I do watch all you vets and try to learn from your posts so I'm better prepared when I finally get to goal...just so ya'll know even your complaints and fears don't fall on deaf ears!

I'll admit the negativity does get tiresome when you're trying to stay upbeat and on track BUT I also think this is the perfect place to be venting those negative thoughts. Isn't that part of having a support system? Isn't the support here what keeps us here? Being able to talk about whatever it is that you're having problems with? Although we already have several 'daily threads'... what with the Train, Karla's daily menu plans, etc. Maybe we need one that's a place to vent all those negative thoughts and problems. I know, for me, sometimes it helps tremendously just writing it out, putting it out there, and I don't care if no one responds or not. Most of the time I know how to fix it but just need 'own' the problem first! That way if you are in a place yourself where reading negativity will bring you down you can avoid it altogether. On the other hand, if you feel you can offer some help and support you know that's the place to go. I usually hate forums that are so fractured into so many subjects but this is one time it may help to be seperated. We could call it "I've fallen and need a hand." or "Negative Nellie's"...ya'll get the idea!

Thanks everyone, I hope we can all work together to remain successful.  I need to get back to work and have a busy evening ahead so I may not get back to each of you.

I do want you all to know I do CARE about everyone and I love each of you for being you.