It has been a bad week

Good Morning Everyone,

I feel so lost and so out the loop these days.  I miss you guys so much.  Just seems these days if I am on the computer it is to look up side effects or research medications for Mom.  We have had a really bad week.  The Oncologist Radiologist decided to mess with Mom's medications on Monday.  Took her off 20mg Oxi's and doubeled it to 40, took her off the zanex and gave her ativan instead.  Stoped the Regland for her stomach and gave her nothing.  Anyway come Monday night she was acting a little strange.  Just not herself, sleepy, seeing things.  Very strange for sure.  On Tuesday I tried to rouse her for Radiation, and I could not get her to stay awake.  My sister came over and tried and she could not either.  We called my Aunt who is a nurce to come and take the vitials and then called the VNA.  They said she was overdoseing from the Ativan, but since then I have heard that it was probably withdrawels from the Zanex.  Will talk more to the doctor at Radiology when we see her on Monday.  Needless to say it has been a long sleepless week.  Still doing what I can to take care of me.  We only have 4 more radiation treatments and then we make a decision on Chemo.  She is not sure what she wants to do.  Being here with her has been an exerpience to say the least but I would not change it for anything in world.  I am here for the duration.  I manage to get out at least once a week to do something fun for myself.  Well just wanted to fill you all in.  Please continue to pray for Mom and for my family.  You are all loved so much.  Have a blessed day.  Michelle

I am so sorry you are going through this, and I have only one thing to let you know.

There are many medications for her stomach and thank God that she is off the Reglan.  Tom was on that one and it causes neurological problems that we are now facing.  She needs to be off that one.

The Ativan is superior to the Zanex if you can get the dose right.  What we found out with my Mom is that when we could not wake her, it was too much oxygen.  You may want to try and cut that down when she is unresponsive.  We could usually wake her in about 30 minutes on lessor O2.

Hang in there, you are doing a great job.
Que

Oh Michelle I understand how hard this is for you. But, I am really glad you are remembering to take care of you. I must agree with Que in being all for getting her off Reglan, it really started to mess me up too and I got off it pretty quick! Mom got really fatigued and slept most of the time the last two weeks of her radiation therapy so thsleepiness doesn't suprise me but not being able to rouse her does. Hang in there, you have a lot of strength and I know you can handle all of this. Truly enjoy this special time with your mother and know you are always in my prayers!

Meggie

Don't know anything about the meds but {{{{{{Michelle and mom}}}}}

Michelle, I'm sorry your mom had a bad week and I hope this next one is better.  I know what you're doine is hard, but you will be glad you did it.

Karla

 Michelle....I am so sorry that your Mom is having problems with the changes.     Life just stinks sometimes.     Please take care of yourself and even if you have to get out of the house and walk around the yard while your Mom is sleeping do that.    Stress can get the best of you if you let it.   We love you and you know we are praying for you and your family ( all of them ).   Take care and thanks so much for Mom's update.   We will be looking for more later in the week if you have time.   Remember.....God promises us that he won't put more on any of us than we can take.


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Michelle:

I can so feel your pain. My mother who is almost 91 years old had to sell her home of 50 years a few months ago and we are not going through the pain of sorting out her possessions, figuring out what she can and wants to take to the nursing home, what I and my sons want, and dealing with all of the grieving. (It is hard for me too as it was the home I was raised in and raised my children in.)

My mom has had a reoccurrance on breast cancer. And she made the decision to only have pallative care for it. She is not going to do chemo as she feels it is close to time for her to go. She also has Parkinson's and the symptoms have definitely worsened in the past few months. I know it is due to her having to go into a nursing home.

I will pray for your mom. As my mother told me, part of being a child is having to become the parent to the parent in old age. While I hating how things are going for her, I would not trade having the opportunity to help her with this change.