*****iness....I knew it was coming

I've learned to trust you Surgery Sisters so I believed you when you said friends would change. It's just sort of a shock when it slaps you in the face!

We have a group of diver professionals who get together once a month for dinner at local joints. It's really been a great group, we can vent about our problems with shop owners, bad students, etc. and have the support of your peers. Well, I've always been the fatty, the biggest one at the table...ya'll know that story. I'm also the only woman Divemaster, which means I work with all the husbands, sometimes out of town. Getting a hint?

It's been several months since I've seen Loretta, we've both missed a few dinners along the way, so last night was the first time we've seen each other since shortly after my surgery....about 80 lbs ago! I have to admit I made an effort last night....summer dress, makeup....I was feeling pretty and wanted to look it. From the time I walked in Loretta was shooting daggers! Her words were mostly friendly but definitely not their intent....know what I mean? I was sitting next to her husband...she always sits across from him at the table for some reason....so I got her full attention. I am NOT used to this! Snippy comments about the salad I ordered, what dessert was I ordering, etc.  I don't know if she knows about my surgery or not, I haven't made a secret of it. I know I told the instructors who were there because they needed to know why I couldn't lift tanks, but I never advertised the fact to everyone. The other ladies there were as nice as usual...they are also the 'skinnies' in the group. Beast told me on the way home that I am now smaller than Loretta. A-Ha! 'Course I don't see it but he swears it's true.

So even though ya'll told me it was coming, it's still sad to have it actually happen! I hope she can get over this. I acted like nothing was changed so maybe she'll take the hint and get over herself!

Sheesh....why can't women get over themselves?!?!

Dee, when you figure that one out please let me know too , OK???  Some women aren't happy unless they are tearing another one apart.  Sometimes I think it makes them "feel" better to demean another woman! 

I hear ya! That's why I prefer men to women...well, ONE reason!   They say what they mean, you always know where ya stand and they don't stab ya in the back at the first chance. So I really can't say I'm surprised, just sad it has to be that way.

Me too!  and for the most part that is VERY true! I'm still reeling from the drama on the TMB last night!

I missed most of it, only saw it after that 'person' edited her post. Even though you know to take stuff with a grain of salt, it still burns a cut!

dang it -  i missed all of the action again......if we didn't have drama on here..........it would be boring.........but frankly -  I'm tired of drama.........grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I wish I had missed it, too!  It does get old fast!

AMEN SISTER!!!  LOL... This is the VERY reason that I don't have very many female friends.... They get jealous over STUPID things, and talk about Gossip.  It is a very sad thing, but you will get more compliments than hateful people... Trust me on that one.

-Kim T

Dee, so sorry your were at the wrong end of the deal last night. Hopefully it will get better w/her. I am proud of you for being a respectful lady and remaining calm. You're honey is right, she is just jealous!

sounds like she feels threatened. Afraid you'll "steal" her husband. If she's secure in her marriage, which SHE'S not, then she needn't worry.
It ****** me off that it's always the other woman's fault. Men are never at fault. If he wasn't happy, he wouldn't be looking.
Me thinks marriage counseling is needed.