Main Girl's Club

There has been a WHOLE LOT of discussion lately regarding something called the "Main Girl's Club".  For those of you wondering, whining and complaining, this post is to inform you that the group will be officially disbanded tomorrow morning.

To set the record straight...The MGC was set up by 7 women as a forum where we 7 women with very similar interests could chat with each other on a daily basis in private.  It had absolutely NOTHING to do with the upcoming CRUISE.  (in fact 2 of the original 7 members aren't even going on the cruise).  After it's inception, numerous people asked to join, the group grew from an intimate circle of friends to over 20 members inside of 2 weeks.  It lost the intimate feel it had and no longer met the needs of the core group. 

After that, the whining and complaining started.  I have personally heard from 5 different people who were upset because they felt left out of the "club" or worried that they wouldn't be included in CRUISE  activities.  Let me make this perfectly CLEAR-the cruise has nothing to do with the MGC and the cruise is not an OH event where we will all do things together.  I made that perfectly clear in my original post about the cruise.  Will we all see each other onboard?  I certainly hope so because we all are part of this group but please don't expect me to dictate what you do on YOUR vacation.  I am here to answer questions and to help organize things but the entertainment part of the cruise is up to each individual person.

I truly want all of us to get along and to have a great time.  For this reason I requested that the MGC disband.  I don't want any hard feelings amongst us and I don't want anyone in particular to feel like they caused the break-up of the group.  It is because we value EVERYONE'S friendship and don't want any further hurt feelings that the members of the MGC made this decision.

Boy did this get some hits...it's kind of a shame that some people aren't allowed to bond on OH or FB.  Everyone does not have the same interests or personalities.  Everyone does not hit it off the same way or form the same kind of bonds or friendships. 

I wish I was in the Dallas area sometimes since you all have all kinds of nifty activities together but I'm not, so I have to just get over it and carry on.  Am I jealous a little bit when you have events or dinners I can't come to?  Heck yes, but I know it's just the way it is. 

Being once a MO person and then losing weight does not change our ability to bond with some more than others in life.

I agree, Karla.  I just wish that the people who complained about this would stop and look at the big picture. I don't tell them who their friends can be, how or where they can communicate or get together. I also know that there are other groups who get together and visit, without us. You and a few others know how much I wish I could be closer to take part in activities, but can't and now this happens. I just hate it all the way around. I don't know how many times Stephanie had to explain this to others, and I don't like it that she had to take so much heat about the MGC. Well it's over and done now...no use crying over spilt milk. But "it ain't over, til it's over."

Wow Karla, I couldn't have said it better.  I haven't said anything because it wouldn't be positive; I've about had enough of some people that just ***** and complain about every darn thing.

I WILL choose my friends and who I want to talk to about what and when.  There are some things I want to talk about with people I feel I can trust and feel comfortable discussing with.  Not all of it is WLS related but LIFE related.

I am not one to put my entire life on the internet, remember this is a PUBLIC forum and what you put out here is here to stay. 

I agree with all of you but the original intent was not ot hurt feelings was merely a place to get together with friends I barely get to see.  Not that there are other I would not like to get to know.....but anyway it is over it is done "POOF" MGC has been deleted!!  Makes me wonder why "THEY" get to win but oh well what is done is done!!!

Wellllllll, Steph......

I didn't know anything about it in the first place or I'm just POSITIVE I would have been included.....  But I'm kind of an old fashioned gurl...and I still like the darned telephone.

Anyway, I KNOW your dilemma.....I've got the Dallas Sistahs, yanno...and none of them live in Dallas.  It was a tough call on my part.

I'm not going on the cruise.. my choice.. there is another trip planned.  Sorry I'm going to miss the cruise.  I need something that someone else plans!!  And, I love seeing every one of you when I get the chance... so I understand the friendship thing.. and it's very hard to do when you find you bond.  I know!!!

Janet

This is a sad day.... but the bonds and friendships that we have will remain regardless of whether there is a MGC or not. We still have pm's and texting..... just saying!!!! I refuse to let anyone dictate who my friends can be.....I am sorry that feelings got hurt.....but I won't apologize or be made to feel quilty because I have bonded more with others.

and the one thing that gets me is this was never about the cruise.  I was the creator and myself and two others in the room  are not even going on hte cruise.  I would love to but cant at this time :(  Yes the Avatar was the ship and the name etc but that was to celebrate with my friends the fact they were excited that they had just booked their cruises.  So yes cruising was the first few topics but mostly just due to that excitment.  Just because I am jealous about not going on the cruise does not mean I can not support them and be happy for them.....so there you have it

Ditto what the very WISE wowmn said, but y'all know I've gotta have STEPH's back and say something anyway....

I was born in 1957

I graduated from high school in 1975

I got my nursing license in 1977

I had my children 1989 and 1991

I had my WLS in 2002

It is now 2010....By my calculations, I am old enough to decide who/what/when I choose to share the time/details of my life to....

Many of us have WLS in common...and there the "common" ends...and THAT'S OKAY....I think it's ALISSA who says "Not all the puppies in the box are going to get along"....I love that...But we can have our OWN interests/lives...or so I thought....

Good grief, people...I've been the FAT GIRL all my life too. Get over yourself...Not everything bad/good that happens is aimed at YOU....Events are not planned just because they KNOW you're working that night and "clubs" are not formed for the sole purpose of EXCLUDING you...I've had to miss plenty of events and probably wasn't even invited to several-but I have enough self esteem and GOOD in my life to shake it off and move on, without spoiling the fun for others, or trying to make them feel bad.

People often ask "Why are the old timers gone from OH?"...Why do people not stay here years later? Look in the mirror, some of you. I am in the exception-I am still here-all these years later-because I look past the ignorant actions of a few, and try to look past their insecure behavior.

Take from this post what you will...It was as much for ME as it was for anyone else-to remind ME why I would even want to stay here.

 

Sistah,
i been around here a LONG time as well... as i was around when yall all had Diva names... (and just for the sake of discussion, i did NOT have a Diva name.... yet im still here).
But i gotta tell ya.. between some of the drama here lately and some other things im seriously questioning why im hanging around.
Thanks for the call sat.. was great to talk to you. Miss you lots
Liz