Let's make the TMB great - Follow-up

Yes I've stepped back because some of the same people day in and day out post about woe is me.  Sorry I am not going to fake my opinion of those constant whiners, suck it up it's life and WE ALL have issues to deal with.

I'll come back here more often because I DO miss the board (the old board and the people that have left too  because of the constant bring down of others )  and I miss helping others that really need help and support, encouragement and I WANT to PAY IT FORWARD.

I didn't abandon the TMB for FB, I do post on FB but more than anything I play Treasure Madness of FB , my new addiction.  I also post on several other OH boards (Hi Karen, KWIM LOL).

This is what I'm going to do if I continue to feel pulled down about the woe is me people.  I'll use the BLOCK button so I don't have to see their post.  It may upset some, I'm sorry I'm doing what I need to do to be happy, healthy and supportive of those I want to support.

If y'all want to see how many of your friends have left OH, check out your friends list that are lots and lots I miss tremendously.  It makes me sad as those people where there to answer my questions and help me when I started my WLS journey.

Hugs,

I see you over on R&R lots girlfriend, and I'm over there for one the same reasons you might be... because the TMB just ain't what it used to be.....

I totally understand the whys.....

This post wasn't meant to point fingers or upset peeps.....

It's just that if we all miss the old stuff.... it's only US that can change it.... and staying away because of one or two posters isn't going to change it.... it will only make it worse.....

Hugs,

Karen, I hope I didn't offend you that is not what I want to do.  I know you "get it and get me", I do.  I just wanted to state my opinion for what it's worth and why I have somewhat left the day-to-day of the board.  I had to do it for me, because I found I was being dragged down with some of the post here.  I have to take care of me first, right?!?! :)

You are right we/I do miss the "old stuff" so I need to bring the "old stuff" back along with others.  If we want to pay it forward and we should as each of us know how important the grads were for us when we came to OH then WE have to make it happen.  I PROMISE to do my part, small or big, to bring this board back to life in a positive way.

Again, I do reiterate I may block some people if I deem it's best for me.  I'll bypass those post that irritate me first and give that a whirl again. 

I know the importance of supporting each other.  Many of us don't have the support or understanding at home that is important for our continued success with WLS.

Hugs,

I read the board every day - just don't post all the time. Sometimes y'all are talking about people or things I don't know, and I'm old and can't' remember who just had what surgery, or who has which family issues. But I do read and enjoy.

I had a lengthy conversation with someone yesterday after Stephanie did the QOTD post and we all got to responding.

I've come to realize that I need to come back here and "pay it forward" with the same support I received in the beginning of my WLS.  There are so many times when I see a newbie post or someone reach a milestone such as losing even that first 10 lbs and I think I'll get back to that in a "minute".  The minute never gets here and I never go back and send them congrats, welcome them to the board or celebrate their achievements.  Sometimes it's because I'm just swamped, other times I just don't get back to the board and JUST DO IT!

Like Dana said above, the block button is there.  I've not blocked anyone - not even everyone's favorite person - on the off chance that they may actually have something to say or advice to offer that I can use or a question I can answer.  I'll read the first few lines of a post and if I don't like it, need it or want to read some whiney BS I just scroll right on past the rest.

Beginning today, I will make a definite effort to post on The Weight Loss Express (even if I strongly believe it should be started in TEXAS, no offense to our temporarily transplanted posters) on a daily basis - it may be late night, but hell I don't mind bringing up the caboose.

For everyone who is new WELCOME!!!  For everyone who has celebrated a milestone lately CONGRATULATIONS!!  I owe this to YOU because I got it when I came here two years ago!!  Accept my apologies for not "being there" when you may have needed support the most.

Wow guys, I'm so sorry! I have no idea how I misworded my post, but I am not pregnant!!! LOL I'm sorry!

We are going to try later in the year for one more... I know, we are super crazy, but I just love my little ones... Again, sorry for the confusion... I was just explaining how our family grew so quickly. When we got our oldest boys 3.5 yrs ago, my 5 yr old was 18 months old and an only child. We found out that Friday we were getting the two older boys, and that Sunday that we were pregnant with our now almost 3 yr old.   :-)

okay, my two cents, for what's it worth -

1 - FB is a whole lot easier to post pics on.

2 - FB can share news good or bad with friends in ALL aspects of our lives, not just WLS.

Now, with that - My main point is that the TMB is not and should not be back completely as it was and that's a GOOD thing.  When we are newbies and in the honeymoon period we need this place. But as we move on with the WLS and into maintenance, we MUST learn that the WLS is not the all consuming part of our lives that it was. If we don't start moving on to focus on the other aspects of our lives that didn't get the attention it needed during our honeymoon and newbie stage, we could lose it for good. 

Folks, think how much each of your lives has changed in a years' time. It's just how things go.   There are more folks that are NOT going to be all consumed in WLS and exercise as a fulltime obsession than there are.  If a person wants to have that much time of their lives on WLS and eating and exercise, so be it.

So many of US are struggling with Maintenance and how much we hate to have to think and plan and prepare day in and day out to make sure we ate right most of the time.  That's enough for me, and I bet for most of us. 

We have also found other ways to communicate and support each other via FACEBOOK, but also via text or a phone call.   Our lives can't be all about the TMB, it just can't.

That being said, as oldtimers, no matter how far out we are need to be here to support the newbies.  If it's once a day that's good.   We also have to be willing to share our cross addictions and frustrations and continue to remind the newbies that the fairy farts dissipate pretty quickly at about 18 months.  We can all make that effort and we should Pay It Forward.   I also feel that those oldtimers that are more visible in other areas of OH, whether they are from Texas or not, need to be on this board for support as well.

You know, I'm still here, but lurk more than post these days because frankly - little sympathy from folks when I do feel like whinning...   since it's really not in my nature to whine much anyway, I just stopped posting unless it was to offer support or say something nice.

But, I do enjoy reading posts when I have time.

Personally, I spend 10 hours + each day sitting on a computer at work.  When I get home, I spend 20-30 minutes on Facebook catching up with family and close friends and then get off.

So, in some respects, I guess TMB has taken a backseat in my life.  Not that I don't need it and not that it isn't important, but simply I run out of time and energy to devote to it...  Not a great reason, but simple facts.   When I do have time, it's the very first place I go to on the web.   As I'm in the peak season at my job however and 10 hour days are more normal than extreme (12 yesterday...), I have to try for some balance.

I'd totally agree that I've almost abandoned posting here.
Since the site redesign, I swear they added "layers" to ensure they get their click thru stats for advertising.
Half the time for me, it takes me a good five minutes to get to a point where I can post, between the dismal load times and the fact that the default editor is a piece.

I totally understand that OH has a profit motive. Completely. However, you don't have to sacrifice functionality for advertising.

I also agree with those that can't take the whining. After the major trauma in my life, my bs threshold has gotten pretty low.
I use the block button for a few people, some that just consider this a place to post their news links (not even the text, just the link) or to pontificate (sorry, i'm probably doing a little bit of that now)  or to antagonize other people.

I have access to both FB and OH, and even as unstable as FB has been lately, I get more information more easily there than I do here. Just a preference.


I do still read almost every weekday. Additionally, OH moves slow enough that it doesn't satisfy my work ADD. oh look, something shiny!

R.

Hey Karen - I don't have time to read all the post yesterday - I read the first page and ran out of time - but I do love the support I have always gotten here - sometimes it is as simple as Steph asking me what the hell is going on when I go off in a zillion directions

I love fb b/c it has hooked me as a military wife back up into poeples lives that I miss!! OH won't or doesn't do most of what I use on FB

I will try to get back to posting more - you know me if I read I post - just can't keep my 2 cents to myself half the time

but somedays I just don't get to it - I can do FB on the phone in the bathroom or in the carpool lane - and I am having more and more days where that is all the time I get for fun computer stuff

I will try to get it together to post on the train at least - but can we get it going by 5 central time?? that's 6 for me and by 6:30 my kids are up and I am running

my 2 cents
peace
Danni