Friday WLS Express!

Good morning TMB

up and running as normal today - super excited, went to a meeting last night and met a local nut that specializes in WLS peeps -will actually set an apt with my pcm so I can go see her, she will run labs, evaluate vits etc and KNOWS WHAT SHE IS DOING - her first question to me when I asked her if she saw wls patients was am I taking good care of my vits and getting plenty of protien?
I have not seen my surgoen since we left Ft Bliss when I was 5 or 6 month post op - have not seen a nut except when pg and she was concerned with keeping my blood sugar under control way more than my vits - anyhow hope to see miss joy in a month or so (her hubby is coming home on leave so not seeing anyone the next few weeks LOL)

regular day here - school for all - no clue what we are doing this weekend - getting the hosue under control from rearanging everything

dog sitting and my cat (Alma Annettes Cliffy's brother) keep walking up to the dog and smacking him for breathing, can't see any thing else the poor dog is doing - hope that quiets down soon

be good to yourself - you had your surgery to be HEALTHY so move your butt, take your vits, drink your water, chug your shake and BE HEALTHY already - it's a hell of a lot to go though to not take good care of yourself and your tool afterwards

peace
Danni

Good Morning My TMB Family,

Thanks for getting us started this morning Karen.  Also thanks for the song.  You have been spinning some good ones these days.  Well this is my last day of vacation.  Will be heading back to Dover tomorrow. (if I dont get snowed in)  Went and saw my Uncle yesterday.  He was in good spirits and witty as can be.  Flirting with the nurses.  Still not eating.  I think his body will shut down before his mind does.  I am glad he was lucid yesterday though because I was able to say my goodby and he was able to know it was me and what I was saying.  Looking into his eyes was very hard.  He and I were both crying but I had read something on the wall in his Hospice room that it was important to say I love you, ask for forgiveness if needed, and to say Thank you.  Last night my cousin came for dinner, and my Mom had made one of her famous chicken pie.  It was so good, and I loved every small bite I took.  Today we are going to have lunch with some of my Mom and Dad's friends and then to see my cousin Mike.  Will be a full day!  Did Dallas get snow over the last few days?  It looked like they were getting it on the weather report yesterday!  Ok prayers this morning for all that were asked and for all those silent ones as well.  Have a blessed day.  Love you!

P.S.  Gina, can you give me any insite as to what my family should expect with my Uncle?

MICHELLE--honestly, I could tell you a million things, and all of them may or may not happen. There are thousands of books on 'Death and Dying"..but, believe me, EVERY person I have ever had the honor of being with during their transition (and there have probably been 1,000+ over the past 30+ yrs) writes their OWN book . I have NEVER had 2 deaths be exactly the same, but they can all be beautiful and dignified, if allowed to be.

It sounds like (and I say SOUNDS, cuz I'm not THERE, and my only info comes from you) your uncle is in his "last hurrah" stage...my fave stage....people who may not have talked for years will sit up and have full conversations. It's WONDERFUL-I think it is God's gift to the family and gives them things to remember besdies the fact their loved one was sick solong, etc. The "not eating" part is ABSOLUTELY NORMAL and should be respected. His body KNOWS what it does or doesn't need. Force feeding would make him nauseated and uncomfortable. Just tell your family to continue to love him, support him, tell him OFTEN that they wil take care of his other (and esp that they will take care of his wife), and that's it "okay to do whatever you need to do". People sometimes need our permission to leave us. But you can't GIVE that permission and then wail and scream over the body-that nulls and voids that permission, and totally confuses the patient...

Okay..that's y'all's Hospice 101 lesson for today...I could talk about it all day...but I guess y'all KNOW that...

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What a beautiful description of 'transition' time!  I am going to save this and send to my siblings :-)  Love you my BB sistah!!  and thank you for all that you do!!!

TA-for YOU, my BB Sis, the "lessons" come in person, ya know--FREE--well, except for the promise of a lil salt, sand and waves...

Awww..........you are such a sweetheart and you KNOW my door is always open!!

Thank you Gina.  You are such an Angel, and God has put you in these peoples lives because of the person you are.  I am going to pring your reply and give it to my Mom.  I suspect it will just be a matter of time.  Was going to try and stay but because we dont know when I need to go back to Mark and Eric.  Thanks again for being who you are.  Love you!

MICHELLE-the Hospice people there will know what to do and say-it will be okay.

Thanks. They are meeting with the immediate family today.  Will be anxious to know what they said.  Love you!

 gina 
 You can be so eloquent, And I do so Love you.
Sherry