response to my complaint about the new "share" button

Like I said Becky, we can get together any time and anywhere to socialize - And that way, only have to pay for the room -

If you'll notice OH has a post about the new feature on the Main forum but none of the others.

T-you-and all the others- absolutely have to follow your heart and do what you feel you have to do. I would certainly miss your NEVERENDING wisdom-more than you can imagine, and I fear we will grow even further apart, and that would break my heart-and probably my scale...

I have mixed feelings on this. Mostly I think everyone is over-reacting, and the whole "posse mentality" of the Main Board makes me just shake my head...but the TMB is different..I KNOW y'all-so since y'all are upset, I made myself look deeper...

I still have to look at the "share" button thing as a sign of the times. It's been on other sites I visit for a long time. YES, it is a way for OH to make money, and I don't see anything WRONG with that. I thak God for Eric Klein every morning when I sign into OH. Without him and his vision I would never have found the info I needed, my surgeeon, lifelong FAMILY, etc. I first found OH thru an old timey search engine (before Google, even!!). I've been a  member since 2001, and feel a certain sense of loyalty, I guess. Sometimes I post alot..sometimes I stay gone for days at a time..but knowing it's HERE is a comfort for me.

All that being said, I never say anything I don't mind being shared to the universe (or the www). I don't have a powerful corporate job, I'm not going to run for president, cheat on my DH, etc or be sharing any other world shattering secrets here on OH. Where I talk about my day I never mention patients by their real names. Basically, my life is ALREADY a boring, open book and I'm pretty sure the FB peeps could care less about what I AlREADY post, much ess what may get "shared" over there from here.

All I ask...beg...if, if you "leave", please be sure you have my e-mail..and that you're on my FB!! But I can't get FB during the day...so I'm gonna stay lost.

I hear ya.  I guess the reason I'm torn is that if I stay on OH I will not ever again post anything remotely medical...not menus, blood results, weight gain or loss, not even about constipation.  OH for me will be just another social site.  In that, I guess, I'm grieving.  Because through my false sense of security this was a "support" site and not just social and it was through that "support" that I learned about my WLS from other OHers.  Without their "support" I'm not sure where I would be today.

Too, this absoiutely cemented my mind about being a leader.  I will not continue to spend my own time and resources for a "business."  If this is all about the mighty dollar, let them hire leaders.

And like has been said, I will not pay to go to another conference.  Instead, I'd much rather arrange and enjoy a social gathering with friends who share common goals.  I can't afford a cruise this year (or probably for the next few, until I'm out of school), but I am game for any day trips, dinners out, or walks in the park with friends. 

AMEN !!  EXACTLY WHAT I'M FEELING...........

WELL SAID !!


THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

I don't share anything that I would share with my coworkers............I am also an open book.

I have a ton of accountability at all 3 jobs............................my family know.................. i've been in hiding all of my life..........and my adult life..............is so much better int he past 2 1/2 years...........


LUV YOU ALL 

Gina, you are so right.  It is a sign of the times.  And I too feel people are over-reacting. 

Everything you post on the internet is out there.  This just makes it easier to cross-post.  I personally am not sure if it is a good thing or a bad thing.  For me it is good.  For some people, it is bad.

I am guilty of putting lots on the internet.  But nothing that I don't mind being out there. 

I do post some things that I may not have told my kiddos about at the time I post them.  But I feel they will not come to this site on a bet.  Also, they have no OH members on their friends at FB.  So, I am safe.  But even if I am not, so be it.

Most of what I am going to say has been said, ad infinitum.

I share(d) things (especially early out) that I would not share with my wider audience of FB friends. With the understanding of anything you post being "public" is one thing, but being "outed" not of your own choosing is a totallly different thing. I'm generally an open book, but don't trumpet the fact that I've had WLS to every person on the planet.
I've put up with the clunky forum software, the overabundance of ads,  slow-ass servers, and copycat conferences because I was genuinely getting something out of OH. I am being forced to reconsider the farther out from surgery I am and by the drama factor on the TMB as of late.
Rachel

 

Sorry, R.  Didn't mean to cause drama.  I just think we all need to be informed and until now I wasn't.  My fault at being uninformed/uneducated about the "public-ness" of OH till now.  However, now that I am clear it will not be the same. sad, but true.

T,

Hey girl, i'm totally agreeing with you. I'm not happy about the changes, and will likely be taking my business elsewhere as many of us are. I just feel like the relative "anonymity" that we had here is now gone. Probably perception vs existing reality, but I'm not going to be sharing anything I wouldn't share with a wider audience.

It's just disappointing that somewhere I considered "safe" is now easily exportable to somewhere "not safe" even for the non-technical. Copy/paste is a moot point.

The drama I'm referring to is not of your doing!  Just the trend with TMB since the middle of last year. You're one of the TMB-ers I like and respect.

 

Couldn't you just see the rude Paul taking a post about gas and BM's and posting it on his FB page?