PLEASE PLEASE PRAY FOR ME AND MY FAMILY TODAY !!!!

May God Bless You & Your Family Abundantly!  I pray right now that God will help all of you!  Hang in there.  God will help you get through this.
Hugs;
Paula Joy

 Thank you so much Paula Joy.   I appreciate all the prayers I can get right now.


Hugs and blessings ~~ Vivian

I sent you a P.M.

Vivian you  have my prayers  and i will tell you the truth  seek help for yourself  there is a book  codependents no more  its is next  to the bible with me  it teaches how to let go and let god  in teaches how to love in spite of it teaches also how to stay healthy with addictive personality's and love in spite of GOD  LOVED US IN SPITE OF  ALSO IT TEACHES US TO CHECK  OUR MOTIVES AND ALSO HOW TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS MAINTAINING OUR  PHYSICAL  SPIRITUAL AND MENTAL HEALTH  ALSO GO TO A MEETING GET A SPONSOR AND WORK THE STEPS AND THE TRADITIONS   NA AND AA  ARE LIVE ON THE WEB  LIKE THE CHILDREN SAY DO YOU  IN OTHER WORDS YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND MUST COME FIRST IN ORDER FOR THEM TO HEAL   AND ABOVE ALL KEEP YOUR  EYES ON THE LORD KEEP PRAYING AND WE PRAYER WORRIERS WILL MEET AGREEMENT WITH YOU AND SLAM THE HELL OUT OF THE DEVIL   I LOVE A GOOD FIGHT MY SON JUST CAME OUT HEALED IN JESUS NAME

 Bonnie....Thank you so much for the prayers.      Who is that book's author?   I will go and get it too.   Thank you so much for sharing this with me.    I want my son....well all 3 of my son's to have happy lives and find a "good woman" who will love them and make them happy.   I also want them to not have any bad habits that can hurt them.    Please keep him in your prayers as he comes to grip with the life that he has made for himself !!!


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Praying for ya Viv.

Just a question - if you concern is over whether or not they are taking the meds are you not the one that is paying for them?  Call the pharmacy and see when the last refill was.  If it hasn't been refilled, your money went somewhere, right? 

And none of my business - but on God's green Earth is the unemployed, bad influence of a girlfriend still living under YOUR roof?

You know what you MUST do to make him "wake up and smell the coffee".   Like Jenny posted earlier - make it real and stick to your guns.

 Jodie.....I have paid for very few of them.   But with them living in my home and suddenly them acting weird I wanted to know that they were still taking them since they were living under my roof and basicly we were "totally" supporting them in every way except buying those meds.    We have had to help them pay for some from time to time.    They both left my home yesterday afternoon.    Still have to come get their stuff which I have all packed up in my entry hall.     Oh BTW.....the GF did finally show me the receipt for the drugs that she bought on the 24th.   LOL   Her loss !!!   That is ALL I wanted was proof they were still taking them.    Glad it happened this way though.   I feel stressfree today.


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

 Vivian,

I'm new here, and mostly just read....soaking in all the wisdom you all share!  :-)

Feel I must put my two cents in, though.

First of all - GOOD FOR YOU!!  It isn't called "tough love" for nothin'!

You've just done the best thing you could have for your child.  It doesn't matter if he is 15 or 35....he will always be your child. :-)

I have a daughter who is an addict.  She is also an alcoholic.  At one point, I had to permanently lock her out of the house.  I understand how difficult and heart-wrenching those decisions can be!!

Long story short - she had a child with her boyfriend/drug dealer.....and one year ago I adopted her (the 'baby').  She really only knows ME as her Mommy.  I am the only one who has ever taken responsibility for her and have had sole custody of her (legally) since she was only a few months old.  Adopting her required me proving both the bio-parents were unfit.....and that is no small feat in the legal system!!  Both had their parental rights revoked....almost a miracle (and took 4+ yrs!)!

Now my 'granddaughter'/daughter is 6 yrs old.....

My addict daughter has finally gotten her act together and is clean!!  She's been sober for almost a year!!  Whooo-hoo!!!  It had to be when SHE was ready and made the choice, though.  Nothing - including having her baby taken from her - made her clean up until she was ready.

Stay strong....and although it's hard.....it is the best thing you can do for your child you love so dearly.

If you'd like to talk with me - feel free to PM me and I'll give you my number.

In the meantime - get in a support group.  That will make all the difference in YOUR life!

I'm proud of you!!!
Julie

 Thanks Julie and welcome to the TMB.    My middle son ( this one ) has been doing drugs since he was 13....he is now 24.    I have asked him and his GF to take me to a NA meeting with them....they refused saying they were "closed".   I have since gotten on NA and know when there is open meetings.   Better than that though is there is a church nearby that has meetings for addicts of all sorts.    I may go check that meeting out too.   I do need knowlege of drug abuse.    I never knew my son was on drugs at that early age.    Oh by the way.....he is Adopted.   His biological parents were drug addicts.  No one else in my family does drugs period.    I love my son with ALL my heart but it was time for him to go.   I was under so much stress it was unreal and it all came out yesterday.   Wasn't pretty but I feel SO much better.     Thank you so much for sharing your story with me.....you "New" daughter is so lucky to have such a loving, caring mother.   Hope to hear more from you on the TMB !!!

Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

  Vivian,

I'm so glad to hear you're doing better today!  Yes - stress can really do some horrible things to our bodies.

Typed a response then my computer messed up and wouldn't send it......so I'll try again!  :-)

My daughter is the same age and had been using as long as your son, too.

Remember it's is a disease.  Certainly can inherit the trait, but many addicts come from families where no one else has done drugs before.  My daughter is one of them as is your son.

PLEASE start learning....read as much as you can.....about addiction!  It will really help you deal with things and you'll be more likely to 'help' your son - or at least will learn more about how to not enable him.

Join a support group..... you'll be amazed (and saddened) at how many of us there are out there trying to deal with their family members addiction.  More families than not are touched by addiction and/or alcoholism.

Lastly - never 'beat yourself up' over not knowing your son was doing drugs.  Addicts seem to have a built-in ability to "cover" their addiction/using - at least until it gets so out of control they aren't able to live life in any normal sense.

Take care and know you're not alone!  

Call me anytime!!!

I often think we go through things in life (in part) to be able to share and help others as they go through similar cir****tances. :-)

Hugs,
Julie