Just need to vent.....

Okay so I am really pissed right now... Yes I have taken this too personally, but if  anyone can understand I think you all can.... so here it goes.

Last year at work they started a weight loss group in January and I was not invited to join because I had an "unfair" advantage... I tried to laugh it off and joked about them discriminating against me, but inside I was upset about it.  This year they are doing the same little contest... where everyone weighs in once a week and pays $5, the winner each week gets the cash.  In the flyer this year they not only added this but made it #1 on the list... NO weight loss surgery allowed!!!!  Okay so the only person out of a staff of 100 who is affected by this is ME.  I have been fuming since Friday.  Yes  I am taking this very personally!!! Silly as it is... but it just hit a nerve.....

I was very verbal on Friday about being pissed.... and the "founder" of the group knows it!!!  She has steered clear of me ever since!!!!  She told me I didn't need to lose weight so why was I even upset about it... I'm like just because you don't think I need to lose anymore doesn't mean I don't still need support and the accountability of weighing in every week.  Trying to maintain the weight loss is a struggle!!!  Today someone asked what I was eating and if they could have the recipe...I was joking but in a snippy way and said "NO... maybe if I was part of the group I would share"... their loss!!!  They could have had a great resource in me... not to mention my $5 every week... since I won't ever win the weigh in!!!!!

I need to get over this... I am hoping this vent will help!!!  Just needed to get it off my chest!!!!  I think that fact that I am now at goal has me scared... losing the weight was the easy part in comparison to this!!!!  I have NEVER maintained a weight loss... granted I didn't have the tool I now have, but I am scared.  How do I maintain this?

I posted a thread awhile back about my word for 2010... this year I chose "Integrity".  I was looking for a piece of jewelery to symbolize my word and to celebrate making goal.  As soon as I saw this bracelet I knew it was perfect... it is a silver bangle that says...  I will never forget who I am, I will never forget from where I came, to myself I will remain true.   I just thought it summed up so much.... Anyway it came in the mail today and the timing could not have been better!!!!  I needed this!!

Okay so if you made it this far thanks for reading my vent... I will get past this!  I try not to be a whiner or Debbie downer....but this just got the better of me.

Paige, I don't blame you, I'd be upset too.  When someone has just had wls, it probably is an unfair advantage because it's hard to overeat by much.  the further out you are, the less of an "advantage" it is.  It is a struggle everyday and they obviously don't understand or they would have let you in.  If they understood much about wt. loss they would know you probably could never win at this pt. because you are at goal.  Try to blow it off...I sure hope the lady that started it doesn't have to have you as an evaluator...she isn't too wise if she does.  Even though you would be fair, it would be difficult to not nit pick!  Wear a bikini in front of them and flaunt your new bod...that'll pay 'em back.

Karla

Luckily I'm not her evaluator this year!!! hehehe  At least she's smart enough to stay out of my way right now!!!!  Thanks for the support!!!

Paige, it may not help but I'm sorry and do understand how you feel.   When people here I've lose 160+ lbs. they are amazed until they learn I had WLS and then, poof - no more respect.  Like "I" didn't do the work or something.   Point is, you can't fix stupid or prejudice.  And you're dealing with a lot of it.

Sorry for what you're going through and chin up, this to shall pass.

Lisa... that's exactly how I feel!!!

I can understand your need to vent and I can't say that I wouldn't be pissed either. It's hard to be singled out by those in your office, which is your "home away from home". Have you tried discussing this with the "founder" of this group?? It could very well be that he or she is just ignorant about WLS patients and what we really have to go through to survive post operatively.  You're right -- they could have a very good resource in knowing you and learning from you.

NOW on the other hand...personally, I think I would show up at their little meetings, weigh in and participate. You don't have to pay in or play their little games. What are they going to do?  Physically throw you out??? But then this is my "evil twin" talking.....

Thanks Mary!!!  Overall my staff has been very supportive along the way... and this is an unfortunate bump in the road!!!  I have not really tried to talk to her... but I know others have!!!  Most people thought she was saying you can't join and then have WLS... I'm like no she told me to my face I could not particpate!!!!  I know several have voiced their opinion about this to her, but I know me... and I'm not ready to talk to her yet.  I would be too *****y and snippy if I did... and I'm the boss so that would not looks good!!!  Need to cool off first!!!

OH CRAP!!! You're the BOSS???  What a dumbass move on her part..........OK, I may have to be evil here again....  because you can...  squash her like a bug!  You don't **** off the boss like that  -- how stupid can one person get or be???? 

Well I've always known she is the sharpest tack in the tool box.... but yeah stupid on her part!!!!

I went throught the EXACT same thing.  My work did a "Biggest Loser" contest and I was told I couldn't enter because I "took the easy way out".  At the time I was about 10-15 LBS from goal.  My BMI was MUCH lower than anyone participating  and even when I explained the "percentage of weight loss" reality to them they still wouldn't let me join.  It hurt my feelings more that they thought I had "taken the easy way out" than anything.  The awful thing was, after they flat out told me I couldn't join-they asked ME to weigh everyone and run the contest.  Needless to say, I delined with a big old HELL NO.

OH just today, one of my doctor's said the reason my lapband failed was I tried to cheat it at every turn.  What the hell does he know about my diet and what I did and didn't do?  I was SO PISSED.  Then he insinuated I would FAIL at this one too.  I was so angry I couldn't even respond.  He has been on every diet known to man and has successfully lost and regained the same 50 lbs over and over like the rest of us have done all our lives.  He has also told me before that the only reason he hasn't has WLS is because he has Crohn's Disease and is terrified of bowel issues.  So I wonder if the reason for his hateful remarks is because of his own insecurities.  All I know is he really makes me mad when he says stuff like that in front of other people.