What you really think of a fat friend-AOL
Just came across this article on AOL. I know that when I was heavier, I felt more comfortable hanging out with heavy people. I remember going out with my cousin to a sports bar about 4 yrs ago and we all took a group picture. I stuck out like a sore thumb! I was the biggest one in that picture and probably in that bar!
Read on:
90% report having an overweight pal --
and 27% admit hanging out with her
makes them feel more attractive.
What you really think of a fat friend?
Would you really give your friend on honest answer if she asked whether those jeans made her look fat? Do you ever reveal that you are on a diet to your pals? We asked That's Fit readers to give us the skinny when it comes to friendship and weight, and received nearly half a million votes sharing the honest truth about whether fat can come between friends. Here's what you thought:
90 percent of you think at least one of your friends should lose weight.
How many of your friends do you think need to lose weight?
None: 10%
One: 10%
Two to five: 64%
Six to 10: 11%
All of them: 5%
Of those that felt their pals could afford to shed some pounds, 56 percent thought their friends should drop 20 pounds or more.
If you do think your friends should lose weight, how many pounds do you think they need to drop?
Five pounds: 8%
10 to 15 pounds: 36%
More than 20 pounds: 56%
Mums the word when it comes to weight. Nearly half of you would never say anything to a friend about her weight – no matter how much she gained.
How much weight would a friend need to gain before you mentioned something to her?
Less than five pounds: 2%
Five to 10 pounds: 7%
10 to 20 pounds: 20%
More than 20 pounds: 23%
I would never say anything: 49%
For most of you, fat could never ruin a friendship, but 5 percent admitted they would stop being friends with someone if they packed on extra pounds.
Would you stop being friends with someone if they gained a lot of weight?
Yes: 5%
No: 95%About a third admitted that overweight friends make them feel better about their own weight, while 22 percent said that's only that case if the friend is weighs more.
Do your overweight friends make you feel better about your own weight?
Yes: 27%
No: 50%
Only if they are bigger than me: 22%
32 percent confessed they feel better about themselves when they are with an overweight friend.
Does it make you feel more attractive or have better self-esteem when you are with an overweight friend?
Yes: 32%
No: 68%
When it comes to playing match-maker, 70 percent said weight doesn't matter.
Do you set your overweight friends up on dates?
No. I'm afraid the other person would not find them attractive: 23%
Yes. If think they are a match personality-wise, weight shouldn't matter: 70%
Only if I am setting them up with another overweight person: 7%
39 percent reported that their friends sabotage their dieting efforts.
Do you think your friends sabotage your healthy eating?
Yes, by eating unhealthy food in front of me: 26%
Yes, by telling me I shouldn't diet: 13%
No, they support me: 44%
No, they support me and often diet with me: 17%
44 percent admit that they indulge when they're with a pal who whatever they want.
Do you find that you eat more or eat "bad" foods when you are with friends who eat whatever they want?
Yes: 44%
Sometimes: 48%
Never: 8%
Friends can be a good influence on weight loss efforts, though. 60 percent say they eat healthier when with a friend who watches what she eats.
Do you find that you watch what you eat more when you are with a friend who eats healthfully?
Yes: 60%
Sometimes: 32%
Never: 8%
Read on:
90% report having an overweight pal --
and 27% admit hanging out with her
makes them feel more attractive.
What you really think of a fat friend?
Would you really give your friend on honest answer if she asked whether those jeans made her look fat? Do you ever reveal that you are on a diet to your pals? We asked That's Fit readers to give us the skinny when it comes to friendship and weight, and received nearly half a million votes sharing the honest truth about whether fat can come between friends. Here's what you thought:
90 percent of you think at least one of your friends should lose weight.
How many of your friends do you think need to lose weight?
None: 10%
One: 10%
Two to five: 64%
Six to 10: 11%
All of them: 5%
Of those that felt their pals could afford to shed some pounds, 56 percent thought their friends should drop 20 pounds or more.
If you do think your friends should lose weight, how many pounds do you think they need to drop?
Five pounds: 8%
10 to 15 pounds: 36%
More than 20 pounds: 56%
Mums the word when it comes to weight. Nearly half of you would never say anything to a friend about her weight – no matter how much she gained.
How much weight would a friend need to gain before you mentioned something to her?
Less than five pounds: 2%
Five to 10 pounds: 7%
10 to 20 pounds: 20%
More than 20 pounds: 23%
I would never say anything: 49%
For most of you, fat could never ruin a friendship, but 5 percent admitted they would stop being friends with someone if they packed on extra pounds.
Would you stop being friends with someone if they gained a lot of weight?
Yes: 5%
No: 95%About a third admitted that overweight friends make them feel better about their own weight, while 22 percent said that's only that case if the friend is weighs more.
Do your overweight friends make you feel better about your own weight?
Yes: 27%
No: 50%
Only if they are bigger than me: 22%
32 percent confessed they feel better about themselves when they are with an overweight friend.
Does it make you feel more attractive or have better self-esteem when you are with an overweight friend?
Yes: 32%
No: 68%
When it comes to playing match-maker, 70 percent said weight doesn't matter.
Do you set your overweight friends up on dates?
No. I'm afraid the other person would not find them attractive: 23%
Yes. If think they are a match personality-wise, weight shouldn't matter: 70%
Only if I am setting them up with another overweight person: 7%
39 percent reported that their friends sabotage their dieting efforts.
Do you think your friends sabotage your healthy eating?
Yes, by eating unhealthy food in front of me: 26%
Yes, by telling me I shouldn't diet: 13%
No, they support me: 44%
No, they support me and often diet with me: 17%
44 percent admit that they indulge when they're with a pal who whatever they want.
Do you find that you eat more or eat "bad" foods when you are with friends who eat whatever they want?
Yes: 44%
Sometimes: 48%
Never: 8%
Friends can be a good influence on weight loss efforts, though. 60 percent say they eat healthier when with a friend who watches what she eats.
Do you find that you watch what you eat more when you are with a friend who eats healthfully?
Yes: 60%
Sometimes: 32%
Never: 8%
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VERY interesting info there, Meximelt .. thanks so much for posting this .. (I'm a That's Fit fan,btw, and yet missed this one!) 
I'b be curious to see what the gender breakdown was as to the respondents to the poll, though .. I have a hunch many more of them were gals than guys .. I wonder how their answers would differ from each other, esp. knowing how friendships between guys and friendships between gals have "differences" ..
One thing I've noticed in the past though, and this contradicts one of the findings of the poll, is that when gals play matchmaker for guys it seems like, IMHO, they often do try to match O. guys up with O. gals , whereas it seems guys generally try to match O. guys up with non-O gals.
Also, this reminds me of that interesting study that was in the news a few years back that found out that, if a person gains weight, their friends tend to do so, as well. I don't think the study offered any solid explanation for that phenomeon, but that seems to be in line with some of the responses to this poll.
I'b be curious to see what the gender breakdown was as to the respondents to the poll, though .. I have a hunch many more of them were gals than guys .. I wonder how their answers would differ from each other, esp. knowing how friendships between guys and friendships between gals have "differences" ..
One thing I've noticed in the past though, and this contradicts one of the findings of the poll, is that when gals play matchmaker for guys it seems like, IMHO, they often do try to match O. guys up with O. gals , whereas it seems guys generally try to match O. guys up with non-O gals.
Also, this reminds me of that interesting study that was in the news a few years back that found out that, if a person gains weight, their friends tend to do so, as well. I don't think the study offered any solid explanation for that phenomeon, but that seems to be in line with some of the responses to this poll.
Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "
HW/461 LW/251 GW/189 CW/274 (yep, a DS semi-failure - it happens :-( )
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