Please Pray!

With tears in my eyes..... he has calmed down.  That is what makes it so hard to leave.  He keeps telling me how much I love him and that his world is going to fall apart if he loses me.... but I have to keep reminding myself that if that was true.... He wouldn't have ever let himself do it.

Unfortunately, these things seem to escalate during the holidays and when they do, they normally will worsen instead of getting better.  Rest assured that if it happens once, it will more than likely happen again given the opportunity.  I'm glad that you are OUT and hope you stay that way.  Unfortunately, men who batter get out of control when they can't control.  Watch the children carefully, as it is very possible that he can take it out on them as well, it does happen!  I know you said that he is a good father, but he was a good husband too, until this happened, wasn't he?  You are being smart by getting out and if you need to, call a battered women's hot-line and talk to them, get advice from trained individuals and make plans.  They can steer you in the right direction and can even offer you and the children safe haven if you find that you need one.  Sometimes it's not safe for you or your friends and family if you go to them in a time of crisis.  Men become very scary when you push back after an incident like you describe. And when you do separate, that is the time when they are most dangerous.  I'm not trying to scare you, but after 10 years of working as an advocate for women who are survivors, I've seen pretty much all of it!  Protect yourself and your kids the best you can, with knowledge and a good attorney!  Good Luck and let us know how you are doing, OK??  We do care! 

, Mari   

Thank you.  I already called the hotline today.  They gave me the number for legal aide.  I am calling tomorrow.  If they aren't open, I will call from work on Monday.  It is so nice to have friends here to support me.

-Kim T

You're doing all the right things!  Plus you know that the TMB prayer warriors will keep you close too!  It always helps to talk to family and friends who will give you unconditional love and support! 

Hang in there, Kim! 
Hugs, Mari

 Kim....I am SO SORRY that this has happened to you.   UGH Men !!!!  That makes me so MAD that he did this to you !!!!  NOT FAIR !!!!  Why is it that they do this !!!   Seems if they are that unhappy that they would just tell you and leave you alone !!!  I don't blame you at all for leaving although if it were me.....I would tell him that HE would be the one leaving the house immedaitely.!!!   Afterall you have children to think of and you don't want him telling a attorney that you abandoned the kids and left them with him.    Hope that you told the ER that your husband he threw your head into a wall and that they documented it.     I will definately pray really hard for you.    Wish I had gotten on the MB's earlier.    You shouldn't have spent Thanksgiving alone.   Hope your parents are back home soon.   Take care of yourself please and try to contact a attorney tomorrow to see what  your rights are.


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

OMG Kim, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this! As others have said, if he did it once, he will do it again. Glad you're getting legal help as well. I'm worried about your continued safety, especially considering he is losing not just his emotional tie to you, but also his "meal ticket"---please be sure you are safe.  And I pray he doesn't use the kids to hurt you further.

So sorry you ended up alone on Thanksgiving day.

Please PM me if I can do anything to help. And I will definitely be asking for help from above for you!!

KIM-I don't have any "sage advice", and have not walked in your shoes. I can only say I totally respect and admire the courage you are showing by the stand you have taken thus far. You and your children-and even your husband-will be in my daily prayers.

Thank you very much.  I am glad that you will be praying for my entire family.  My husband has been struggling with serious depression lately.  That is part of why he snapped. 
We have both strayed away from God.  We need him in our lives.  I know that I need to let go and let God.  I can not control the situation, but he can. 
We have already come a long way since this happened on Tuesday.  I am at my mother's house, and I plan on staying here for a long while.  He and I BOTH need some serious counseling to learn how to deal with problems within ourselves before we try to work on us as a couple. 
I have forgiven him for what he did.  I have not however forgotten.  If we EVER get back together... we have got to get help for our problems.  I am not a Saint in this story.... I have done a lot to cause problems.  I have been very selfish and down right hateful to him for the past three years or more.  I pretty much let him know that I did not care about his problems, he need to be a man and deal with them. 
We are BOTH in agreement that we need to get away from each other  for a very long break.  And I am praying that one day maybe we can be a couple again... but not at the moment.
Love ya'll and thank you for all the support.

-Kim T