To those that feel offended, don't belong, etc.
First of all let me say I have meet a good portion of the ladies and gentlemen from the TMB and in no way has anyone ever made me feel like I was not part of their families. I was never an outgoing person when I was obese and have came out of my shell a Little after losing 115 lbs...But like it has been said many of times on here you have to speak too and learn that approaching someone sometimes lets them know you want to talk...We are not mind readers...oh and I read a statistic in a book one day a few months back that said not everyone will like you so GET OVER IT... So with that being said WHAT IS DONE IS DONE..LET IT BE...MOVE ON
Linda
Has Put on Her Big Girl Panties and is Dealing with it
RNY 1/8/09
298/168/175
lost 11 lbs on 6 days worth of pre op diet
Has Put on Her Big Girl Panties and is Dealing with it
RNY 1/8/09
298/168/175
lost 11 lbs on 6 days worth of pre op diet
LOL Kris you crack me up sometimes !!!! You are TOO funny and yeah....I agree with do ALL need friends in our lives who have been there and done that. Guess that is why we are all like family. Sometimes we step on each others toes but don't mean too. Love you guys !!!
Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian
Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS THAT I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE !!!! THIS IS MY DAILY PRAYER.
Vivian Prouty Obesity Help Support Group Coach "LOSE IT 4 LIFE"
First, let me say - I love the TMB! I couldn't have done it without you guys!
But - in a social situation, I feel really left out. I don't know if it's because I'm older than most of you, or because I don't smoke or drink, but I never feel welcome. I've tried coming up to people and trying to talk to them, and most of the time I get blank stares. There are a few who are very nice to me, but most act like I'm imposing.
And now I've probably fixed it so NO one will talk to me. ::::sigh::::
but I do love you guys.
But - in a social situation, I feel really left out. I don't know if it's because I'm older than most of you, or because I don't smoke or drink, but I never feel welcome. I've tried coming up to people and trying to talk to them, and most of the time I get blank stares. There are a few who are very nice to me, but most act like I'm imposing.
And now I've probably fixed it so NO one will talk to me. ::::sigh::::
but I do love you guys.
Lynne
Lynn,
It does take effort and I know you are quiet and shy. I guess the best thing I can say is 'fake it till you feel it', as in, be upbeat and outgoing and POSITIVE and just try to say positive things about others, if you can't say them about yourself just yet.
You have done an awesome job with your weightloss and you are a great mom and grandma. Maybe you can share pictures or something, but remember, keep it positive and smile!
that last line you posted with the ::::sigh:::: , that's Eeyore talking and Eeyore is not happy.
Try for some Tigger time. And if that's a stretch, try Winnie the Pooh.. lol. I know it sounds silly, but it's a learning thing.
You have a great smile and I know you are a very caring and loving person. Just have to figure out how to show the BEST in you.
And remember, we love you too. Now smile!! = )
It does take effort and I know you are quiet and shy. I guess the best thing I can say is 'fake it till you feel it', as in, be upbeat and outgoing and POSITIVE and just try to say positive things about others, if you can't say them about yourself just yet.
You have done an awesome job with your weightloss and you are a great mom and grandma. Maybe you can share pictures or something, but remember, keep it positive and smile!
that last line you posted with the ::::sigh:::: , that's Eeyore talking and Eeyore is not happy.
Try for some Tigger time. And if that's a stretch, try Winnie the Pooh.. lol. I know it sounds silly, but it's a learning thing.
You have a great smile and I know you are a very caring and loving person. Just have to figure out how to show the BEST in you.
And remember, we love you too. Now smile!! = )
Becky
forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different
LYNNE-I'm old, I rarely drink, I don't smoke and I sincerely hope I've never caused you to feel "left out"-If I have it certainly was NOT on purpose. I think you are a beautiful, entertaining lady, who has alot to offer. I have only seen you IRL a couple of times, but still consider you a FRIEND-and that's a word I don't use lightly
RNY 4-22-02...
LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:155
We Can Do Hard Things
Wow - I don't even remember that. All I can think is that you approached me when I was already on people overload - I am a true introvert and cannot stand large groups for any length of time and I may have been in the process of fleeing for some alone time. (Which may be a part of my problem with talking to people.) I am truly sorry and would love to talk with you.
Lynne
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