To those that feel offended, don't belong, etc.

Paige,

I remember meeting you as well at the conference. I have told you that you startled me at first because of your resemblance to my BFF, but I also saw that you were a bit reserved and shy.  I decided to just step back a bit and let you get to know us and feel more comfortable.  I have to say, you have blossomed into such a sweet, good friend and I am just tickled to call you that. 

Your point here is exactly what I have been trying to say for over 2 years. You and I, along with Karla and a few others, have to make an effort to 'belong'.  But we do because we know it's our responsibility to do so.   This business of 'I went to something and was ignored' is beyond my comprehension.

I was at the point this morning of just leaving the board all together because of the whining and negativity about being politically correct.  But ya know, I have been here far too long to let negative nellies and trolls get in my way.

Thanks Becky!!!  Some of us do have to work harder at this then others that is for sure!!!  I had so much fun at Karlas and can't wait to make a trip your way soon!!!

I try to hold my tongue and stay away from the drama... but today I'm just pissed!  Enough is enough... I just can not comprehend how ANYONE can defend him in anyway and that's it's unacceptable to call someone FAT but okay to use the C word????  WTF????

You are so right, Dana!  I came to the boards 2 years ago and lurked for months.  When I decided to “come out" and play with y’all, I found myself welcomed by most all people here. But if I had sat at home on my tushy and not put myself out there, I’d still be lurking, unsuccessful and probably miserable.  Don’t wanna do that, don’t wanna go there and I DO want to play!!!!  So I do!  But there again…if someone doesn’t like some of the things I say…..

 

As Dr. Seuss said…Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

 

I just love all you guys, you keep me real, focused and I feel accepted!

Hugs Mari

Dana,

I second what you said.  I lurked here for 2 years during my journey and never put myself out there.  There are a million reasons why that I won't go into now, but I never took the step to connect with people. 

Then one Sunday, I decided I would just do it.  I drove from Allen to South Fort Worth to Kathy B.'s house, knowing absolutely no one and not exactly sure where I was going.  It scared the hell out of me.  But you know what?  I found my "home" that day - people that brought me into that house and made me feel welcome and then didn't let go of me, even during the times that depression kicks in and I start isolating from them, they just come after me lol.  This group has made me feel loved and supported, has kicked my butt when necessary, made me laugh more than I ever thought possible, and given me a whole new family that "gets" me.

So if you are new out there and lurking but really want to make connections, just jump in one day with both feet and don't let yourself turn back.  I promise you will find your "home" and wonderful people to fill your life.

Where did you see this again I ask?  Kat, you seem to have issues with us for some reason, I don't know why but I'm not getting is a ******g match with you either.  Either you want to become a part of our family or you don't it's your choice.

If you don't like us that's fine......it's your choice and your decision.  I'm not going to coddle you to make you feel accepted, period.

Ok I told you yesterday I understood that but why did you feel it was necessary to bring it up again in my post today?  I've been there, ridiculed and laughed at as most of us I imagine have sometimes in our lives, if we've experienced obesity for any period of time.

I didn't post this tread to start another war, I posted so that people would realize that ALL of us at one time had to join in this group to become a part of the group.  It wasn't easy, we've all had those moments of feeling shy, but each of us have to put ourselves out there; it isn't someone elses place to make us feel part of the group.

I don't believe anyone missed your point yesterday, I did I understand you were offended by a comment made.  I listed 4 things yesterday I didn't believe in on this board or any other board or even in real life and one of those what what upset you.

You cannot keep dwelling of what you felt yesterday, it's over with we must go forward.  Kat I really don't have anything against you personally and I'm sure right now you aren't liking me too much but I've had enough of the "woe is me" I see posted on this board and the vile crap that certain poster continues to post to everyone.  The TMB folks are my family and I will defend them with everything I've got.

I've been slammed by Paul before and told some really negative things, until you are in that place you won't understand how he is and what he continues to do to others on OH.

I hope you have a nice day, really I do.  Try to let what you feel from yesterday go.....you are only harboring anger by keeping it inside you.

YOU are pointing out the word FAT when the scumbag called a lady a CU**?????  OMG! 

Over 27 years ago,  after losing 50 pounds, I had some guy say to me,"that sure is a log of bacon (butt) for just two eggs (boobs)."

Do I remember it, yes, of course.  Is it going to ruin my life, NO.  Am I going to let it HURT me everytime I hear the word FAT.. lord no!  I have enough self respect to know they are idiots and not waste my time with them.  Good LORD, get over it and move on. If you can't, then it's time for some therapy.  Seriously, if you can't get on with, find some help to deal with it!  You don't want to get past the pain?  That just boggles my mind!   Okay, now I am done.

Kat,
I try my damnest to stay out of all the drama and mud slinging that goes on from time to time... but hey now I'm just getting pissy and enough is enough.   I'm not really sure where your anger is coming from.  I really think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.  You have totally taken something out of context and made it your own issue.   We have all been FAT!!!!!  FAT, FAT, and FAT!!!!  You, me... and everyone else on this board.  People have laughed at us, teased us and made us feel like ****!!!   Nobody knows better how that makes a fat person feel then us.  But you took what was said the other day and misunderstood where it was coming from... freaking let it go!!!!!   How long are you going to beat that dead horse???  I have never met that slime ball... but after reading a few of his post there is nothing nice I could ever say about him.  He is disgusting.  If you feel it is your mission to defend his actions so be it.   Although I imagine he is probably more then able to take care of himself and sling his own one liners around without your help.  If TMB is not the place for you...then so be that as well.  There are many forums around here... maybe you will feel more comfortable somewhere else.

I have said my peace on this matter.... just let it go and move on Kat.