Update

Just a quick one since I'm running out the door this morning for Eric's chemo and I have to be downtown before 7:30. Yikes.

Eric's been home for 3 days now and gone from looking really good to reaaaaaaally bad. He's drawn and sickly looking. Cheekbones - yeah, not so pretty on a man. I don't know if it's a matter of the chemo doing it's thing between day 5 and 9 but he doesn't look good. I'm quite POSITIVE a lot of it has to do with not eating or drinking anything. Bites of food here, sips of drinks there. BULL**** Cowboy the hell up and push harder. I know it's hard. No, don't tell me "I know". You have got to fight as hard as you can. And right now he's barely hanging on by a thread emotionally and physically. (We're getting to the break down stage of grief where the poop's gonna hit the fan. I'm thinking once his momma is gone, and Rhiannon is with my mom and dad, it's gonna be no holds barred. I'm prepared for it to be U.G.L.Y.) But if need be I'll ask the oncologist if we'll eventually have to do a PICC line or something. He's over 6 feet tall and less than 150 pounds. He doesn't have far to go before he's a skeleton. Actually, his shin bones are so pronounced it turns my stomach. So ya - I'm ready to open a can of whoopass and take names later if I have to. So bye bye mother in law tomorrow (a.k.a constantly crying enabler) the old sheriff is back in town!!!

Special thanks to the ladies and gentleman who came to Wednesdays meeting, and everyone who was there in spirit. Sounds like we have a fantastic plan in place and the wheels are gonna start turning. I'm so grateful for all the emotional support I've received through OH and know I couldn't have done it without you. Thank God for WLS that lead me to you wonderful people!!!

All my gratitude,

Jenny

u r heading down the right path n I think u r doing right by your man - mil none withstanding - hopefully!!! bsprint n ups willing u should have your phone today

talk to the doc or better yet (in MHO a chemo nurse ) today and see how much is resonable for him to be eating and what the min he needs to drink a day is - write it down and don't back down - elist his kid to get him to drink at least, the neighbors dog or whoever and whatever else is needed b/c hes got to get something in him

hang in there girl - love ya

Jenny, you are amazing woman!  Right on with making Eric push forward and do what he needs to do, the grieving process and fear need to be conquered and with YOU besides him he'll do EXACTLY what he needs too.

Sorry your MIL is being an enabler, yes send her home.

Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

Love you,

Hey girl.

I left a supplement drink mix with Debbi yesterday for Eric.  It's what Josh tried when he was trying to put weight on before he left.  600 calories a serving which 4 scoops is a serving, but loaded with carbs and fat.  Josh didn't fini**** so said you could have it.  Most of it's there.  Hope it helps.

Love ya, Annette

 You go girl! I am so proud of you for being so strong! None of us knows how we would react until we've walked a mile in your shoes, but I can't imagine being able to be that strong! Stick to your guns and yes, send Mama packing!!!

Our thoughts and prayers remain with you!

Hugz,
Gina L

Jenny,

You do what you need (HAVE) to do to make Eric eat and drink.  I've seen first hand the effects of someone allowing a cancer patient to "not feel like eating" .... I wish I had only known we had that enabler that allowed that activity and wouldn't let us come around for fear of bringing infection. 

Stay strong my friend.  You are remarkable!

 Jenny....I want you to know that you and Eric are in my constant prayers.    I know that God will not put more on you than you can stand.    You GO Girl !!!   Eric has so much to live for and he HAS to get his act together and get positive that he WILL do this....not only for you and your daughter but for himself !!!  He is WAY too young to give up on this.    Praying that all will be well with him very soon and he will be his old self again.   Love you and praying big time for a miracle for you guys !!!!



Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Thanks for the update Jenny.  Remember to take care of yourself so you'll have the energy to take care of Eric.  You are both in my prayers.

Jenny hang in there.  You have my number you can always call.  I am working on getting details in order for next weeks meeting.  Love ya girl!!!

Jenny,

I just want to tell you how much I admire you and the way you are handling Eric's illness and recovery.  I love your strength, determination and positive attitude.  And I like that you have a game plan and are willing to be tough when you have to.  You, Eric and Rhiannon are in my thoughts and prayers.