So many different feelings.....

My surgery is Thursday 16th and I am sad, glad, and everything else.  I suppose most of my emotional rollercoaster may have something to do with the fact that my DH doesn't support my decision to have the surgery.  I feel like I am all alone.

Renee,
It is absolutely NORMAL to have that wave of emotions right before surgery!  I cried the night before just for the fear of the unknown!  Even though I DID have my DH's support, I still felt VERY "alone" after surgery.  NO ONE ate (well, drinking is all...) like I did after surgery, no one in my family was told "oh, you can't have that" like I was, no one else in my family took like two microscopic sips of something and got a feeling of having a concrete brick in my belly, so I definitely felt "alone" for quite a while.  Worst thing I did was climbed into my own shell.  Things DO get better, just not overnight.  Take ONE DAY AT A TIME.  If you don't have a support group yet, find one after surgery.  I swear they make SUCH a difference!  If you can't find one where you live or just can't get to them, USE THE TMB!!!  Everyone on this board who has had surgery has "been there/done that" and we know exactly what you are feeling.  When you are having a bad day, it's ok to vent!  When you need to ask a simple question, fire away.  Of course if you are having a major issue, first and foremost, do NOT be afraid to check with your surgeon!!!  They are not just your doctor only while you are on the operating table so they darn well should be there when you need a question answered!

Hang in there!!!  Now...do the important things before surgery...get some "pre-op" pictures taken from different angles as well as take all your measurements...arms, legs, waist, bust, hips, etc.  When you are melting away and the scale suddenly decides to slow up, that does NOT necessarily mean you've stopped losing.  Your body has to play "catch up" so it is VERY common to get a stall about three weeks post op!  The body is thinking, "oh man, what are you doing"?!?  But, if you take the measurements, you'll see you are losing inches!

Keep us all posted and good luck!  You'll do great!!! 

Oh Jill I can't thank you enough for your kind words of encouragement.  Thank you, Thank you.  I will keep everyone posted.  I go in at 7:20 am Thursday and surgery is to start around 9:20 am. Anxiety has taken over now.

I'll be just a couple days ahead of you so I know what you're feeling. But we're going to be just fine! I'll keep you in my prayers!

Thanks, Jill, from me, too!

Thanks Dee and I will be praying for you as well.

 Renee....trust me sweetie.....you are NOT alone.   When I had my WLS almost 4 yrs ago.......my husband did NOT support my decision either.    Let's face facts....their life is going to drasticly change also just as yours will.    Mine was morning his "all you can eat buffet buddy"....also he knew that I was not going to be that HUGE fat girl anymore.     My emotions were on a rollercoaster also before my surgery.    I was at total peace about the surgery....but just the thoughts "Will this WORK for me???"    I have been overweight ALL my life and I still fall in the overweight range !!!  UGH.....HATE that BMI chart !!!  LOL  Anyway....please try not to stress out over the surgery.   Let your husband know that you are doing the surgery for your health.    You will still be the very same sweet person after you loose all the weight and that your feelings for him are not going to change at all....only your size and health with change.    Good luck to you sweetie.     I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I know that God will give you total peace concerning your surgery.....He did that for me and I know he will do it for you also.

Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

 Oh Renee....by the way....don't want to stress you out anymore but wednesday is the 16th !!!! Don't want you to miss your own surgery thinking that thursday is the 16th !!!  Congrats on your date and it is almost here.    You will do fine !!!


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Hello, Just like everyone has told you. Those are normal feelings. I was crying like a baby while they were wheeling me in the operation room. Sounds like you have done your homework and ready to move on. Only you can make the final decision to make WLS. However, the support at home is very important. So, you will need to get support in other areas in order for you to be successful. You HAVE to have support. It is crucial to how good a job you can to in losing this weight and keeping it off.  Good luck and keep us posted on your journey.

You are not alone, girlfriend!!  I felt the same way.  You'll be having surgery on my one-year surgiversary.  I was about the same weight as you when I had surgery.  You can look at my profile page to see my progress pics.  Just think how much better you'll feel this time next year.  You CAN do this!!

Laura

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