Need Help!

I am struggling this week! This week is also my TOM and I have been craving sweets and carbs! Usually I have a lot of self control, but this week has been CRAPPY!

I've been following the back to the basics thread, and I know that I can not do that because it will put my body into starvation mode with as little calories and carbs some people are getting in.

I need suggestions, thoughts, encouragement, etc on how to get out of my old habits this week and back to where I need to be!

Jessica, you can do it girl.  Some of us do better lower on our intake, me for sure because I'm not an exerciser.  You on the other hand exercise allot.

I lurk more than participate on other WLS board and one of the ladies made this comment and it's stuck with me the past two weeks.  "Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail".  That is where I was at before I recommitted to make good choices.

Is it sweets you are craving or white carbs?  Sweet treats that I enjoyed periodically are things like ricotta cheese with splenda and blue berries, it's Paul in Dallas' recipe.

Usually, I do pretty well on my caloric intake- carbs/fat/protein ratio, too... This week though... I hate to admit it that I have EATEN a lot of white carbs and sweets!

I've have had the following POOR food choices since Monday:
10 oreos
6 donuts
30 pringles
1 cup of macaroni & cheese pasta
2 rolls
1 package of nutter butter cookies (4 cookies)
2 cups of Captin Crunch Cereal
1 Kellogg's frosted poptart

I have been extremely stressed, overworked and just lost focus..... I know that this is NOT what I wanna be eating and I suppose that is WHY I am posting tonight. I feel horrible, guilty, ashamed and embarrassed!  Again, normally you wouldn't CATCH me eating anything sweet or even white processed carbs... I watch what I eat, but this week-- I have just been "blah"...Something is going on because even when it's normally that TOM  I don't eat like this or crave food like this. 

Those days are gone, behind you.  You cannot change the past so go forward, learn and forget about your choices that aren't your normal and focus on making better choices this week; one day at a time, one minute at a time if necessary.

Guilt, shame, embarrassment only add more negativity.  It's ok to make choices that aren't the best sometimes; we aren't perfect, we'll make mistakes.  LEARN from them.  Believe me I've had allot of those same things you've eaten this past week.  I CANNOT have pop tarts in the house, my kids don't get them because I cannot say no to them. 

Hang in their Jessica, join the Back to Basics.  It's not about comparing yourself to others, it gives us ideas and helps each of us deal with accountability.

First off.....you have no reason to feel guilty, embarrassed or ashamed for anything You had a bad week, that's all. You've already said it's way out of the norm for you to eat this way so put it behind you and start fresh tomorrow.

You CAN do the B2B thing with the rest. You know the calorie count that works best for you so your plan doesn't have to be like anyone elses.

does sugar not make you sooooooo sick? OMG i cant even look at the stuff with out puking my guts up...You need to forget about the past and pick up and start over with a new day...Stress is hard on the body..Try walking or running when you feel over welmed ir stressed..I know this doesnt work for everyone caue if it did i would not have weighed 298 pre op but now that I have gotten my life back it has beun to work for me..Dont punish yourself..it will be ok..Or and I also had a hysterectomy so maybe thats why i dont crave sweets at that time of the month...Good luck and god bless...look forward to meeting at conference..

Brax,

Unfortunately sugar does not make me sick.... Although, it does make me very UNCOMFORTABLE.  I did not eat all that at one time either. The food list was since Monday, and I ate it in moderation throughout the day and skipped the healthy stuff because I had made the choice to eat the bad stuff. I knew what I was doing before I made the choice to put that donut in my mouth, but something in me and just said you deserve to be "fat"... I know that I have alot to work on still on my journey to a better a me-- physically, emotionally and spiritually. They fixed my stomach not my head! I had been doing so well with the emotional eating up till this week.  Part of it was also because people would always tell me not to "worry" about what I ate. I am also in recovery for an Eating Disorder. I am fully AWARE of my problems and I have taken the right steps to get in front of this, but this week something was just different. Thanks for the support and encouragement! I look forward to meeting you at the conference, too!!!

I'm sorry it was a rough week. I know most of us have had those kinds of weeks- I know I have. I'm so far from perfect that its not even funny. And I'm an emotional/stress eater as well. The important thing is that you've realized it-you've named it and you can claim it and go from here. I'm with you-I can't go totally back to everything perfect-the basics- all at once or I'll feel deprived which will cause me to eat more in the long run- I know it works for some. For me I try to make small changes and then add in more each week.
Hang in there-you can do this!!!

Alissa,

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply! It meant alot to me to know that others have and are going through the same thing that I am. If I go back to the basics which is limiting my caloric intake even "by choice" because that is what I wanna do-- then I'm signing up for my ED. For me that is my home plate, a sense of control and self-deprivation that makes me feel safe. Through my post over the last 2 years, its no secret that I have had years of an eating disorder, and that my life has not been perfect. However, I am working on things and creating the best life for me emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The surgery changed my eating intake, but not my head and it did not make all the trauma that I have been through disappear, although, I had hoped that being "skinny" would have MADE everything perfect.  I realized that size had nothing to do with it. You love yourself for what you are. I have always HIDDEN my emotions and just would stuff through binging or numb myself through restricting. I have NEVER had a healthy relationship with food, even since my birth-- if I cried my parents would just feed me a bottle despite if I had just had one.

I probably provided TOO much information...

Thanks for replying though and helping me see that I am not alone!

I am only 4 weeks post op, but have struggled with what I am eating - mashed potatoes go down really well...anyway, what I figured out was that I just have to start over--- sometimes that is after each meal or just each day.  I was stressing so much that I gained 2 pounds.  I just changed my thinking- replaced the negative thoughts about the food with more positive ones and have done MUCH better!

Good Luck Girl!