Hints needed

Husband got laid off on Thursday. We knew it was coming so were semi-prepared for it. (Except that the bank seized all the money of the company so the chances of getting his last check are slim, but owner is willing to give him a computer and some furniture that our son can use in his apartment since he is not living in a dorm this school year.)

That said, I am beginning to sweat the thought that hubby and I will now be together 24/7 - as I don't work and my classes won't start until 8/31. I have no idea how we are going to handle it as I have a very set routine for my time during the day.

Any hints or suggestions from married couples (who don't have children at home) who spend a lot of time together and how they do it w/o killing each other will be appreciated.....

both my husband and i are disabled and spend a lot of time together.  we have learned to give each other their own space. go where they want to when they want to, but be considerate about it.  it helps that he is my best friend, we also do a lot of things together.  if you pray, praying together can help bring you closer.  good luck to you. vick

I was laid off nearly 3.5 months ago and Michael works from home when he's not traveling. He has his work routine and I've implemented my own routine for my job search that usually lasts through the morning. It helps that we've got a big house and Michael's office is upstairs. I do my stuff downstairs to give him his space. I try to have lunch with my mom or a friend at least once a week so I'm out of the house a couple hours while he's working and I need to get back into my gym routine, so that will help, too.

So far, we're doing really well. Considering we both used to travel a lot for work and only see each other on the weekends, I was really worried what it was going to be like being together so much, but right now, our relationship is better than it has been since I started traveling regularly. It is very different when men lose their job because they sometimes find themselves more paralyzed by the loss than I probably have, but I hope you have the same positive experience we're having.

I am so sorry to hear about your news! I hope things get better! I wish I could offer advice but my husband and I are inseperable... we love to spend every minute together. (I know, we are boring) and we have great communication. We also have 2 kids. 
I remember when my dad got laid off from work after 30 years at the same company, he went crazy being at home. He sat in front of the computer 24 hours a day applying for jobs (he was 52, not quite ready to retire but still needing money. He worked for compaq for over 29 years when they laid him off) and my mom quit her nursing job due to health reasons. My dad would get upset easily over things because he was stressed and he needed to keep busy or he would snap. So my mom learned to give him space and back off, they pretty much do their own thing now (3 years later) and they make sure they eat dinner together. He stays in his office and mainly comes out to eat breakfast and lunch. He takes time out to go to the gym either in the morning or after lunch. They learned to accept each others routine. After dinner, they sit and watch tv together until bed time. It is almost like they are both working but in the same house- they keep to themselves.
Good luck to you both! I hope things get better! 
Michele

As a stay at home Mom and a person of a hubby who was on strike for 6 weeks....it IS a problem when you are not use to them being home 24/7.   He majorly cramped my days.   UGH....it is pretty difficult but your hubby may be better than mine.   Mine does NOTHING around the house.   He won't even put is dishes in the sink after he eats.   That really annoyed me plus the fact that he took over the main TV and our desk top computer too.   I would just tell you to try to keep busy and give him space till he finds another job.   I am sorry that this happened to you.   We also went to the movies every week.    That helped out too and I really enjoyed that.   My hubby usually does nothing everyone that knows me knows that so it was nice going to the movies every week.


Hugs and blessings ~~ Vivian

If you want to keep your set routine intact then you will probably need to be very up front with your hubby about it and stress how important it is to you without appearing that you are not supporting him in his time of stress over losing his job.  My experience is it is usually the wife who does most of the accommodating and compromising when home situations change.

Good luck!
Sarah

when Tim is home we love spending time together but we have to know our limits - for example the last week has been very stressful with him getting ready to leave for a month but we wanted time together - solution was he sat in the living room with his laptop and I bounced all over the downstairs decorating - I don't sit still well - so knowing yourselves is a big plus - you both need to know what you need - go places alone and together both - make sure you both have the space you need - hope that makes sence

peace
Danni

Wish I could help, but Mary and I are sickening.  Married 35 years, and cherish every moment of every day that we can have together.  I have been know to go to scrapbook conventions and do volunteer work, just to be with her.  She goes to Rangers games, and even works there as a volunteer, even though she could take or leave baseball. I know, gag me.  The only time we are with each other 24/7 though is when I am off work.  And I did it for a week straight a month or so ago.  No problem, did a lot of stuff together.

That being said, I agree with the comment that was made about men losing their job.  I will pray that things go fine for you, and he finds gainful employment shortly.

 Ahhh, Georgie ..  I wish the "sickness" that you and Mary share was just more contagious!  

As to his last check, you should contact a local atty or the Texas Workforce Commission and ask to talk to a Texas Payday Act specialist.

  The State of Texas has very strong laws (fortunately) on paying workers, that give priority to same.  In some cases, the State takes the money out of the co.'s Workforce Commission (i.e. unemployment insurance/benefits) account and pays the worker(s), then gets that money back later from the co.  In some cases the worker(s) are authorized to go into the co. registers and even take the cash out for their pay!   

  Good luck and hang in there ..  They say the economy IS improving, it just takes some more time ..  Be sure DH also applies for TWC benefits while he's at that office ..

   What kind of work does your DH do?   Maybe someone on here has some job leads/ideas/suggestions ..