VSG surgery next tuesday.. do I back out?????

Oh.... such a mess right now! I'm scheduled to have my surgery tuesday of next week. We are paying cash (12K) and its in the bank right now but as of this morning my husband and his father closed down the construction busines that they own. I'm scared that the sale of the land and bldg wont be anytime soon and we might need that money to live off of for a bit. Buttttt... I think that if I dont do this now then I wont do it! I've been doing my pre op diet and have lost 7 pounds this week but I'm just scared that I might put a burden on my family if I go ahead with it. I'm out of college right now for the next three weeks, which I figured would give me a good break since I only work from home and 2 days a week and if I wait then I need to wait until next summer where there is a big enough gap in my school to be able to have time off...

On top of that I'm scared that something will happen to me, and we dont have insurance so that may put even more of a financial burden on us as well and the thought that I could possibly( yea I know not likely) but possibly die from this ELECTIVE surgery is crazy to me! Am I really that desperate to risk my life and to have my kids not have a mother becuase I never took care of myself and have to result to surgery???? I'm lost and scared.. opinions anyone??

no words of wisdom but TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND and see what he thinks

sending you prayers for peace regardless of your choice
Danni

That is a big decision!  I agree that you need to talk to your husband.  If he is anything like mine he will be honest and have your best interest and the families best interest in mind. 

I'll keep you in my prayers!

Jennifer

I am so sorry to hear about your struggles.  It sounds to me like you need to sit down and talk to both your husband and Dad and see what they think.  Your Dad probably has a good idea about the sale of the business and if there's any equity left in it.  If they both encourage you to go ahead then I would.  If they are really hesitant due to financial reasons, then it might be best to postpone it.  You could alwys reschedule if the land sells quickly. 

We all experienced the FEAR of going through the surgery and having the unexpected happen.  What you are feeling is normal.  I even had it when I went through my plastics.  Try not to let that fear interfere with your decision.  Put your trust and faith in your surgeon's hand and reputation.  Please let us know what you decide.  Even if you postpone it you can still try to lose weight through diet and exercise and we'll still be here for you.

Thank you all for responding.. I've talked to my husband and he's the open minded kind... he tells me just do whatever is going to make me happy.. money comes and goes and if I dont spend it on the surgery then it'll be spent somewhere else.. I think I'm just trying to convine myself that I need to go thru with it... lol

You have to do what you are comfortable with but if hubby supports you then if it was me I'd go for it.  Your hubby is right if you don't spend it on YOUR HEALTH you'll definitely find somewhere else to spend it and you may not get this opportunity again.  You look young, just imagine what the future holds for you if you take control of your health right now.

JMHO but I say go for it! 

I was self pay for my  VSG surgery in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.  This has been one of the best decisions of my life.  We are not rolling in money but I considered it an investment towards good health.
Listen to your inner voice that is so powerful.  Talk and talk some more to your family.  Ask for total and complete honesty.  You'll find your answers to this very personal decision.  Best of luck with your journey!

Janet

I am sorry to hear about your financial concerns, that is something you need to discuss with your husband. As far as your fears of the surgery, we all go threw that and think those things. You have come this far and will be able to care for your family better once you start taking care of your self. This is a stepping stone and you have just begun. You could die tomorrow from health issues or in a car wreck, stop thinking so negative. You will love yourself more after you take this step and can do more things with your family. Think all things threw before throwing in the towel. Good Luck and Best of Wishes. Angie

Since he's so supportive, I say DEFINITELY go for it!  It's the best thing I've ever done for myself - and I'm cleaning offices two evenings a week to finish paying my VSG off.  It's totally worth it.  Best of luck!

Bless your husband, how lucky you are to have a man who puts you first. 

As far as being scared, I was petrified.  I wrote "goodbye" letters to my sons and my husband and was so scared.  Stephanie calmed me down - and now I am so glad that I didn't bow out ... this surgery is a life changer...and you will be a stronger, happier wife, mother and woman for it!  Good luck, God bless, and I am praying for all good things to come your way.