possible new passion - opinions needed AND welcomed

Becky.....As a parent of 2 adopted sons.....I would check it out if it were Me that was adopted.   It will be interesting to see if my oldest son ( who is coming home tomorrow ) if he will try to contact or see his biological parents while he is here.    They live about 45 minutes south of us.    My advice is proceed with caution.    I have heard wonderful stories of reunions...but I have also heard nightmare stories.     My son is wondering why his biological parents waited 27 yrs to contact him.     He may or may not ever find out why !!!!    That is his decision in the matter...not mine.    I love you too Becky and tell Emm....sometimes those "fairy tale" stores turn out to be nightmares. 

Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Becky, I really can't add anything to this post, except to thank you for posting it, not just for you but for others that may not be posting, but are having similar issues. 

God bless you and I hope you find what you want. 

George!  thanks so much for your commments.. you made me cry.  I knew that I wasn't the only one that was adopted but I had NO idea the extent that adoption plays in so many different ways in people I know.

I had to laugh a bit when you were telling your Nolan Ryan story the other day.  My brother lives and breathes that man and my brother is almost 50!  In fact, if my neice had been a boy, she would have been Nolan Ryan Hagens! 

Well when I was working for the United Way in Brazoria, Nolan would be at some of the fundraisers and things being from Alvin.  So I got to meet him a few times.  One time he was at my office and coincidentally my brother called me.  So I had Nolan get on the phone and my brother just flipped out!  Something I will always remember.. my brother speechless. !

take care

I had to write to this post before I give up for the night......I am not adopted although I may have occasionally wondered......My very bet friend was adopted.  She finally decided to search for her bio family and found them.  She has 4 half brothers and sisters (in another state) and is very happy I believe that she did look for them.  I don't think her bio mother wanted to connect with her and I believe the father is gone or she never found him.  I know she spent a couple weeks meeting her siblings.......

If you need more info on how she found them or how she felt about it, let me know and I will see if she wants to share the info.

Kat

Kat,

Thanks so much for sharing.  I will let you know as I go forward - IF I go forward.

Becky,

I too am adopted.  When I was trying to get pregnant with my first child (he is 15 now) I had to find out about my medical history for my OB/GYN.  I had a long talk with my mom and dad about searching for my biological parents.  They were totally supportive.  Well, I found out that my birth mother had died 4 years prior to me looking for her.  I met her sister and BIL and have stayed friendly with them.  They really want a relationship, but to me they are just nice people, not really family.  I did also find out that I have 4 older half-brothers.  All I found out about my birth father is that his name was Bob and he lived in Dallas.  I have wanted to meet my brothers, but never have.  I kind of think that since they know about me and have not contacted me, that maybe they don't want to meet me.  Then again, they may be thinking the same about me.  I know about them, why not take the initiative to try to meet them?  I would love to find out more about my birth father, but my records are sealed and I don't know his last name.  

Anyway, this is just my story.  Good luck in whatever you decide to do.     

julie,

Your story is an exciting as the rest and I really do appreciate your sharing and opening yourself to me.    I too originally wanted the medical records for my OB/Gyn and dealing with my PCOS.

I know it is much more difficult for those of us that have sealed records. I am sure at the time no one ever imagined anyone would WANT to know that information.

I hope sometime you do get more information on your birth father.  Oddly enough I have always felt more of a need to find my father than my mother.  But then, he may not even know I exist.

Oh the world of wonder and mystery.

It was very nice to meet you at Fish Tales and hug you.  Thank you for stepping out of your comfort zone and asking for friends.  That means a lot.

Hugs

Becky,
It's probably already been covered, but if you (and especiallly Emm) put yourselves out there, you're best off trying not to put any expectations on it.   That way,if it doesn't go well, you're not overly hurt, and if it does, it'll be a wonderful suprise. 

Personally, I'd probably do it just to know that I'd tried, and I think it might be that big unknown that you've been running toward.

Try it, be careful, and know that you are loved regardless of the results.

 

Becky,
Having been adopted myself, I can understand what you are going through. ( I watch the Locator also Love it) I did get to meet my biological father in 2004 actually found him by a fluke. Well to make a long story short, I did the PI no luck, put adds in the local newspaper( I was born in Indiania) called all the people with my real last name. ( My mother was supportive , my adopted father died in 2000, she gave me the last name and the town they were from.) No luck. THen my sister lives in Michigan and received a call from a man with the same last name that I had at birth calling to order a part and he lived in Lafayette Indiana ( same town i was from) so she told him this may sound weird and I am not insane but " Did you have a daughter in 1967 that you gave up for adoption" He said yes and she told him i was looking for my father and the story she called me here in Texas and gave me his number and said he was expecting my call. I waited about 2 hours after crying and talking to my husband then called, I emailed and sent photos then meet him a year later and we are still in contact. This was a great decision that I will never regret , I have found out lots of medical history that now I see is relevant.

Good luck in your quest....

Jenn

Jenn,

What a bizarre story but one that ultimately ended well.  I am so happy to hear this for you.

thank you for sharing your story and now I feel that I have a bit of a deeper connection with you.  The medical history is something very important to me.  If that would be all I could get if would be perfect.

I do hope we get to meet soon since we are pretty much one of my closest neighbors. 

Hugs