The Love Dare

Anybody read it? Practiced it?

Reviews welcome.

Okay girl, now i'm all intrigued..   If it involves LOVE, i'm all over it.  So what is this all about?

From what I understand it's based on or from the movie Fireproof.  It's supposed to help you evaluate your marriage and make it stronger .... maybe ..... I don't know.  That's why I'm asking.

oh okay.  Well I can't help with that one.

Bet someone on here has read it and knows about it.

Hi Jodie!

LOVED IT!!!!!!!! 

We watched the movie Fireproof first and then found out that our adult Sabbath school class was doing the Fireproof Your Marriage and joined that.  Our leader said he was doing the Love Dare that the movie mentioned and that anyone who wanted to join him was welcome.  So, I took him up on it. 

Let me clarify here by saying, I have been married for 15 short years and my marriage is solid as a rock.  I don't have the most romantically inclined hubby, but he is absolutely wonderful non the less.  I didn't do the Love Dare because I felt like I had a failing marriage, but there were several in our group that did.  One lady coming to the group was on the verge of filing for divorce, but thought she would try the study to see if it helped.  3 months later (it sometimes takes longer than 40 days!) they are preparing for a recommital ceremony!

Okay, back to Love Dare.  It is 40 days at the least and is designed to help you show love to your spouse.  You should NOT expect anything in return.  It is sometimes said that in order to love someone you should do loving things for them, thereby making you love them.  The Love Dare is exactly that.  It puts you back in touch with doing the little, considerate things that we sometimes forget.  It isn't always easy and there will be times when you don't want to do it at all, but the results can be amazing!

I went to this website: http://www.40daylovedare.com/ as well.  It has a forum that people post what they did for each day of the dare.  It helps give you ideas of things to do.  Lots of fun, but also some very sad stories. 

If you read it and do it, I hope you really enjoy it!  I sure have!  My marriage is stronger than ever, and there is a lot more FUN as well! (wink, wink)

Jodie, I haven't done it but would love too.  One of my coworkers has the movie Fireproof and bought the books.  I think the biggest thing is both parties have to be willing to give of themselves, one sided it may work but to get the full recommittment and reestablish the "connection" two of you need to commit.

I haven't approached Blane with it yet, I am more Christian than he is but it's on my "want to do list".

JODIE-my sister and her husband finished the series recently. They have been married almost 25 years and say they now act like newlyweds. I didn't ask for details...

My husband and I have been married for 21 years and we did the Love Dare.  We already had a solid marriage with 2 great kids, but it just enriched our marriage so much.  It is great for any marriage.  In the movie he does the Love Dare and she doesn't know anything about it, so it doesn't have to be done "together".  My husband and I got separate books so we could journal in ours and keep notes without worrying about the other's feelings.  I highly recommend it to everyone. 

Thanks, everyone for the responses.  I'm going to see if I can find it this week.

Dana - I hear you on the Christian part.  Raymond and I both are Christain, but neither practice like we should.  I don't know if I'll ever get him to read the book, but there's always hope.

It is not written in book format.  It is more of a daily journal that has a mini-devotion.  For instance:  Day 1 "Love is Patient"  Then it has a couple of pages about what that means.  Then the Day-1 Challenge:  "The first part of this dare is fairly simple.  Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart.  For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all.  If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything.  It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret." 

And then at the bottom is written:  "Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate?  Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out in words?"  Then there is a blank page for you to take notes on.