Getting past the mental part....suggestions?
Congrats on the 75 lbs. and being more than 1/2 way there! It's a great feeling.
With regard to your stall, shake things up. I know I tended to stick to the foods I knew the nutritionals on by heart and my exercise would get in a rut and I'd do the same workout over and over. If your body stalls, it needs some change. Eat different foods, take a dance class instead of getting on the treadmill. Anything to change things up.
I also totally understand the fear of "OMG! This is the smallest I've ever been. Am I done?" Every significant event in my life - high school and college graduations, wedding day, Dad's funeral, etc. - I weighed 172 lbs. I stalled at 172 lbs. It scared the hell out of me that I'd gone to this extreme to only lose 81 lbs. But, I upped my protein, tried some new foods, changed up those workouts and pushed through it. From that point on, every pound I lost I thought would be my last. But I kept pushing, following the protocol and doing the right things, working the tool.
I can't help you on seeing the new you. I'm 3.5 years out from RNY and 1.5 years out from plastics and I still don't see the reality in the mirror. Photos are a good gut check for me.
Good luck and keep posting. There's lots of good experience here. We don't always have the answer, but we can tell you you're not crazy or the only one that's ever felt this way.
With regard to your stall, shake things up. I know I tended to stick to the foods I knew the nutritionals on by heart and my exercise would get in a rut and I'd do the same workout over and over. If your body stalls, it needs some change. Eat different foods, take a dance class instead of getting on the treadmill. Anything to change things up.
I also totally understand the fear of "OMG! This is the smallest I've ever been. Am I done?" Every significant event in my life - high school and college graduations, wedding day, Dad's funeral, etc. - I weighed 172 lbs. I stalled at 172 lbs. It scared the hell out of me that I'd gone to this extreme to only lose 81 lbs. But, I upped my protein, tried some new foods, changed up those workouts and pushed through it. From that point on, every pound I lost I thought would be my last. But I kept pushing, following the protocol and doing the right things, working the tool.
I can't help you on seeing the new you. I'm 3.5 years out from RNY and 1.5 years out from plastics and I still don't see the reality in the mirror. Photos are a good gut check for me.
Good luck and keep posting. There's lots of good experience here. We don't always have the answer, but we can tell you you're not crazy or the only one that's ever felt this way.
Blessings, Jennifer
253 / 140 (below goal)
If I were lying, wouldn't my pants be on fire?!?
253 / 140 (below goal)
If I were lying, wouldn't my pants be on fire?!?
Yup, we've all been right where you are!! I remember writing about stalls in my profile and saying "someday I'm gonna look back at this and laugh" and guess what, I have. I am at goal and FINALLY see myself CLOSE to what other people see me at but it took a LONG time. One of the things that still surprises me is when I pass a "window" and see my reflection-a mirror you expect but a window catches me off guard and I'm shocked at how "little" I am.
Also, no need to apologize, vent away my dear, that's what we're here for.
~Stephanie~
RNY revision from lapband 7/30/07...TT/BL 10/9/08 and at GOAL
I've had RNY and am 6.3 months out and have lost 86 lbs. I lose about 7-10 lbs. a month for the past 3 months. I'll stall at same weight for like 2 weeks or more and I've had to learn not to obsess about the scale. You lose inches during those times. Its normal to plateau and then it picks up again.
I know about the body image thing -- its harder to see yourself as thinner because you see yourself everyday. I put before and after pics on the fridge and that helps me.
I still have to lose about 79 more lbs. to get to my goal weight. You'll do ok -- just talk about it with your therapist and a whole new body image acceptance will occur.
I know about the body image thing -- its harder to see yourself as thinner because you see yourself everyday. I put before and after pics on the fridge and that helps me.
I still have to lose about 79 more lbs. to get to my goal weight. You'll do ok -- just talk about it with your therapist and a whole new body image acceptance will occur.
I PROMISE you that you aren't "done" yet - it is just a stall. You may need to increase your exercise to kick start your weight loss again.
It takes a while for your mind to adjust to your new size and for those close to you to get used to it too. And as long as you are still shrinking they keep having to adjust LOL.
This past weekend I picked up a cute sundress at the clothing exchange and put it down 3 times because there was NO WAY I was that tiny. I finally put it on over my clothes and it fit - I was shocked. And by tiny I just mean tiny for me because I am not thin, ha ha.
When people make comments that you have lost too much it is usually about THEM, not you. Losing weight tends to bring out women's insecurities about their own weight and body image.
It takes a while for your mind to adjust to your new size and for those close to you to get used to it too. And as long as you are still shrinking they keep having to adjust LOL.
This past weekend I picked up a cute sundress at the clothing exchange and put it down 3 times because there was NO WAY I was that tiny. I finally put it on over my clothes and it fit - I was shocked. And by tiny I just mean tiny for me because I am not thin, ha ha.
When people make comments that you have lost too much it is usually about THEM, not you. Losing weight tends to bring out women's insecurities about their own weight and body image.
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