Ever feel like you've made 2 steps forward and 1 back?

Last week I worked diligently on eating right.  I only drank protein shakes for 2 days to get all the carbs out of my system then I only did soft protein for a couple of days.  I didn't snack at all, and I drank plenty of liquids.  I never drink plain water because I hate it, but I drink plenty of hot tea and decaf coffee, more than 64 ounces a day.  By Saturday, I had lost 5 pounds.  Yea, right? Then yesterday, I grazed all day.  Here is what I ate yesterday:
Protein coffee
low fat multigrain waffles with Joseph's sugar free syrup
8 low fat crackers with low fat cheese
3 Murrays SF cookies
1 cherry pie Larabar
1 SF Russell Stover's candy
1/3 baked pork chop with 1/3 c stuffing
1/3 c roasted veggies
1/4 c sweet potato casserole made w Davinchi syrup
SF cheesecake
2 more Murrays SF cookies

I figure owning up to my grazing..naming it, and being honest about it has to help somehow, right?  I am putting the cheesecake in the freezer and throwing the candy away.  Hubby is diabetic so I can't throw away his cookies, but I am going to ask him to move them to a higher shelf or something.  This is rediculous!  I have 29 pounds left to lose, and I really want to lose it and keep it off.  I have printed out photos of me at my largest and taped them to the fridge and the pantry!  Any other ideas, and is anyone else struggling or is it just me?

Marilyn, you must remember that "low fat" does not mean that they are bariatric friendly.  We are not on low fat diets.  We are on low carb diets.  And low sugar.  If there is no fat, they have to make up the taste somewhere, so usually carbs/sugars are added.  Please be cautious of these.

And, looks like you had a lot of carbs.  After being on a liquid protein diet, you should have decarbed your body but then turned around and carbed it all back up again.  Honestly, there are only a few things on your list of food that I would consider friendly.  The baked pork chop, sweet potato.  That's about it.  I would have stopped at 2 sugar free cookies. 

Murray's sf cookies have lots of calories.  I say it all the time, but sugar free does not mean CALORIE, CARB free.  You are shooting your self in the foot...  You took 1 step forward, but 2 steps back. 

Marilyn,
I totally agree with Melinda and I will go one step further.  It seems a lot of your posts talk about how you are making a "sugar-free" dessert or a "low-sugar" dessert and then a few days later you will post about how you are frustrated with your lack of weight loss.  At this point, I would suggest you seek some counseling. You seem to be struggling and as you know, none of us got to be overweight because we ate correctly - we became overweight because we have a food addiction.  I think it would be in your best interest to explore the underlying issues of why you might still have such a strong desire to "graze" and not eat what is appropriate for someone that has had RNY.

Best of luck.

Hi Marilyn,

 

I don't think you made any steps backwards at all.  I think you are headed in the right direction...  Let me esplain......

 

This is a "lifestyle" change.  We are not on diets.  I am not on a low fat diet, I am not on a low carb diet.  I took the list provided by my surgeon and nutritionist, studied it, reviewed it, learned it.  Then I took those items and recommended portions and incorporated them into a lifestyle.  I learned and am still learning what a good carb is and what a not so good carb is...  I am learning what a good fat is and what a not so good fat is. 

 

Thank you so much for your honesty.  I applaud you...  Many others on the board invite us to read their blogs and they post the same exact struggles that you did...  They make sweets and eat them all in one sitting... They struggle with trying to detox..  etc.. etc... etc... See, you are not alone... We are all in this together...  And we want desperately to see one another succeed... 

 

In the past you have also been very open with your struggles with food addictions...  I am an addict too....  I love how you are always trying to find ways to overcome this.  You know your own personal struggles.  Grief can do huge awful things to us emotionally  You have experienced a level of grief with the death of a child that no one should ever ever ever have to endear.  But what always stands out to me about you is that you keep fighting....

 

You are a fighter...  You did not take any steps backwards.  You laid out here what was done... Assesed the damage and took steps forward to prevent this from happeneing again in the future...  WOW..  Look at You.... You Rock....

Trina, you are correct in that we all struggle.  And, speaking of folks who blog, I am just going to assume you are taking a stab at me.  You know, think back when you had your surgery.  This board USED to be a place where we received counsel, advice, honest opinions.  We knew that if we ate crap, someone would say "What the hell are you doing that for?"  Minus the cussing, but still...  a person was instructed.  NOT because we like being the carb cops.  But because we all want one another to succeed. 

I could justify all day long WHY I eat too much, why I overeat, why I ate the wrong food...  all of us could.  But Marilyn threw out her dilemma and I was trying to point out some things that could help her.  Why? Because I think I know all the answers? Lord no.  I learn something new every single day by visiting these forums.  I see errors that I have made in the past, and make today. 

It seems that the forum has become just a social place.  Who cares if we don't get to goal?  Who cares if we stop losing, or better yet, gain.  As long as we all feel good, pat one another on the backs for a job not so well done, and justify our poor eating choices?  No.  So go ahead and take your stabs at me for being honest, but that used to be what the board was all about. 

Look around.  Most of the old folks are gone.  Why? Because the board has changed and people don't like it.

Hi Melinda,

 

Wow, I am not sure why my post to Marilyn upset you so much.  I was talking about OH blogs.  We receive notices from great people all the time saying they have posted or updated their blogs and ask what we think.  What are you talking about?

I knew of only a few on the board who have their own blogs (external that is). And since I was the first one to respond to Marilyn, and the only one *****sponded who had a blog, it appeared that you were taking a jab at me.  But, I am glad you clarified OH blogs in general.  It did not even cross my mind you were speaking of those because, I never called them blogs.  I thought they were "profiles".  Sorry I misunderstood what you were trying to say.

Hi Melinda,

 

That is okay.  Thank you very much for apologizing.  I would never take a jab at anybody...  I can't take a splinter out of anyone's eye due to the fact that I have a big stick stuck in my own eye. 

 

On the top of the page where a profile is located it reads so and so's blog.

 Sounds like you had a pretty good week, followed by one bad day.
Don't be too discouraged, you will make your goal. Your ticker shows that you have come a long way and I do think that if you can continue to lose 4-5 lbs in a week you will be at your goal by spring.
Yesterday is behind us, nothing we can do or say will change it. Today is the only thing we can change, focus on what you have been doing thats worked for you. You will succeed. 

Marilyn, you have read my many posts about me getting off track, heck I am off track more than I am on. But, I am getting better especially since I am getting fills again and getting back to the "Y". You have done and are doing great. One of my problems is the SF pudding, I use to make it myself and that wasn't a good thing. I have started buying the ready made and that has helped some, but I still tend to eat them more than I should. I also "thought" I was doing good when I would want a snack I would eat Clementines, I love them and I would eat two or three a day somedays, but I thought they are small and they are fruit, so it must be a good thing. Then I found out they have more carbs that I would have thought. So even though I love them to death, I have cut them out to where I only have them two or three times a week if that. I have also cut down on my milk, that will sneak up on you too.

Just keep your head up and you will get those last few pounds off before you know it. This is just a bump in the road for you.

Cheryl