People just dont understand

Living well is the best avenge to all of the nay-sayers.  Goodness, if we could just eat less & exercise to get this off, we would.  I love the Oprah example.  True, true, true.

 We understand you...don't let them get cha down. Micheala.

It is ignorance. People are always negative about things they don't really understand. I'm sorry your boss is being an ass. Ignore him and remember that it is no one elses place to question the decisions you make about your life.
Good luck
Karen

I am sorry you are experiencing this.  I just brought this up out a WLS group a couple of weeks ago.  It drives me insane that people feel like chosing WLS is an easy decision or is TOO RISKY.   I mean we are adults are we not capable of making good educated decisions.  I was very fortunate that my friends, fmaily and co-workers all supported me.   But I hear too many people who are not as lucky.  It makes me so mad.  I mean when over 60% of the population is OBESE and for goodness sake they are talking about the "fat tax" ....but people like us that take control and find the solution that is right for us "it is ridiculous."  Nope ridiculous is the label.  WLS is risky but so is any surgery.  I had mine back in August in Mexico.  Everything went without a hitch.  I feel great and every day I am more thankful that I went forward with the surgery.    Make sure to do your research and make the call that is best for you.  And don't let anyone scare you or tell you it is a bad choice.  As long as you get a good surgeon and listen to what he/she tells you, follow the dieticitian advice and take care of yourself. 

Also understand that although some people are more than happy to make fun of "fat" people and put them down they are also usually the first ones to find anyway to be negative.  Besides do you really need anyone's approval?  Do what is best for YOU!

Funny you should mention that.  I just posted something on my blog today about others opinions.  *The overall jist of the matter... who cares what they think?  It's YOUR life and health...  Here is what it said:

Have you taken a sick day lately?  Better yet, had a bad weather day?  And what happens when you are at home, bored out of your mind?  You channel surf!  This usually consists of sitting on the sofa, drink in one hand and remote in the other, moving the channels back and forth, up and down, back and forth again...  you just want something exciting to make the day pass quicker.  That's kind of my day even though I'm not at home.  So I did some channel surfing of my own - on the internet.

 

I found a few forums that I haven't visited in a very long time.  Though they are not necessarily weight loss surgery oriented, there are some portions of the boards assigned to wls patients.  I am amused at some of the trains of thought that folks have.  There are those who judge weight loss surgery and condemn it.... spewing out their ridiculously uneducated opinions!  Then others want to tell their horror stories of "I knew someone who knew someone who had  THAT surgery... "   Oh then the Pandora's Box gets opened with scenario after scenario where wls has gone awry.

 

Then I visit my friend's website...  Bariatric Girl...  She takes a positive approach to weight loss surgery, instead of all the ugly that could/should/would happen.  I like that!  But basically I come out of the entire channel surfing experience with two words.  WHO CARES?  Not me.  I could care less what Suzy Homemaker a street over thinks about gastric bypass surgery.  I don't care if Mr. Smith believes its the easy way out, and only the lazy people who were unwilling to diet and exercise take that route.  I really don't care if my best friend believes that I have made the worst decision of my life... 

 

They do not have to live my life.  They do not know or understand the struggles that I have endured.  I am the one who walks in my shoes.  I am the one who must reap the consequences of my decisions whether they be incredibly wonderful, or tremendously horrific.  This journey is mine...  and for the record, should anyone inquire, I'm happy with the journey thus far.  It has afforded me new opportunities, a voice that can be heard, and given me a life that I otherwise did not/probably would not have had.

 

Right on Mel!   Like Joe South said in his song:

If I could be you, if you could be me for just one hour
If we could find a way to get inside each other's mind,
If you could see you through my eyes instead of your ego
I believe you'd be surprised to see that you've been blind,

Walk a mile in my shoes, walk a mile in my shoes
Hey, before you abuse, criticize and accuse
Walk a mile in my shoes

HEY MEL!!!! Someone told me you said something nice about me and I just had to stop by and say hello.  I sorta had a "WOW" moment concerning this a couple of days ago and I think I'm ready to blog on it!  I too have been so disturbed by those that continue to rant about our taking the "easy way out" and I did realize that it's THEIR problem and it's not really about me.  It comes from something within them that feels a need to control my life.  I know one woman in particular that is eaten up with blogging against WLS and for the life of me I can't understand why she would choose to live her life in this negativity every day.  

I use to tell people this:
Why would it matter what I did to go from 30 years of obesity to 7 years as a thin person??? Then I realized that it's really not about what I did but about what they feel is lacking in their lives.  When other people feel a need to "drive my bus" I have to forget it.  My best action is to live successfully and be an example for those that wish to partake from my well of experience. (only if they want to) 

I KNOW I couldn't lose it any other way.  I had totally messed up my metabolism years ago and the proof for that is the 2 years I was thin in college.  I literally turned anorexic for 2 years and starved myself to death and yet I was a normal size.  Of course that just wrecked my metabolism even more. 

So Mel, you are right.  The journey IS yours.  Let others gripe, complain ....even some in our own community..... and when it happens, I turn and face the people just like you.  My sistah!!!

Hey, we just put up the new WLS News segment this morning.  Leslie is cute as a drill sargent.
You can see it HERE!

Thanks so much for your kind words.  You are the bestest!!!
Blessings, Y