Let Go Of Perfect Thinking (My Story)

Hi Juanita,

  Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.  They mean more than you could ever know.   Thank you for being proud of me too...  Those words are good to hear and especially from someone as sincere as you are.. I value our times we have spent together and look forward to many more just like them. 

Trina,
What a brave, courageous woman you are to share your story with us.  Just remember, God only gives us each day one at a time and that is the way we have to deal with it.  Sometimes, we have to break those days down into little bitty moments and take them that way - whatever works.  You are strong and have a lot of support, so, I know you will get on top of this and come out a winner and be successful.  You have come to far in your journey not to kick this.  If you need anything, we are all here for you and you can reach out to any of us.  Sometimes, it helps just to give someone a call and talk.  So, if you need to talk, PM me and I'll give you my phone number and then you can give me a call whenever you need to.

Take care and know that my prayers are with you always.

Wendy

Trina,

I'm so proud of you.  You have done three very difficult things:  admitting you have a problem, seeking help, and being open about it.  My husband was an alcoholic for many years.  On 1-5-05 he poured out his last drink and never took another.  I don't know how he did it without going into treatment but he did.  He became a very active member of AA.  While those years were very difficult ones for us and our children the last four have been the best years of my life.  I don't understand why God took Jim now when we were like newly weds again, but I'm just thankful he gave us those 4 years.

I'm very active in Al-Anon (a program for family and friends of people of drink).  These two programs helped us heal and learn to love each other again.  Jim became once again the man I fell in love with. 

I tell you this to give you hope.  I know what it is like to hit your bottom.  I hit mine before Jim hit his.  But our story shows that there is recovery and a new life is our there waiting for you.  Jim died a happy, loving, and sober man.  He left behind a family who loved him very much.  He also touched so many lives.

If you or anyone else on this Board wants any information on either AA or Al-Anon or just to talk please PM me.  I will talk to you any time day or night.  Sometimes the nights are the hardest so when you send me a message I will give you my phone number.  Call me even if its 2:00 am.  I'm been there and I know what you are going though.

love ya,

Baboo

Hi Barbara,

  I can't begin to tell you how sorry I was to hear about your loss of Jim.  I did receive word about your loss  and I was greatly saddened that I could not be here to support you. 

  Talk about being brave and being proud of someone, You are such an inspiration to me.   I cannot imagine how you still must be feeling.  Losing the love of your life must be devastating.  I cannot imagine a day without Kevin.  I can't fathom the thought of losing Kevin.  There is no way I could wrap my mind around that.  He is my soul-mate and my best friend and has been for 25 years.  

 

Trina,

First I am glad to hear from you.  Welcome back.  We have all missed you and were very concerned.  We know its not like you to stay away from us too long...  I wanted to say also that we did not miss your 2 year surgiversary.  Since you did not get to celebrate it, we will just pretend that its today and we say "Happy surgiversary!"  How would that be?

It was very brave of you to post your story.  We do love you and are concerned for you.  You're right, none of us are perfect.  I have been struggling with things too, and I'm certain that all of us have something that we are struggling with, whether its food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, emotional distress, depression, the list is endless but one thing is certain.  We all struggle.  It was a HUGE step for you to come here and admit the things that you did, and hopefully we can help provide a safe place, not judgment or anything other than love and support.

We're glad to see you back

Hi Trina. I am glad you are back and will be praying for you. Just know you have made lots of freinds here and we will be there for you. It takes a very strong person to admit a problem and get help for it. I always knew you were that strong and although it will be a struggle just keep remembering how strong you are. It sounds like you havea great support system.
Happy Belated Surgiversary!  You have accomplished so much these past 2 years and should be very proud of how far you have come.

Hugs!

Hi Misty,

  Thank you for the welcome back and the prayers.  Both are greatly appreciated.  Yes, I have an awesome support system in my family.  Without them, I would not be where I am today.  I am truly blessed.

    I hope you and the baby are doing well...  I can't wait to get to see her.... Remember take lots and lots of pictures and give lots and lots of kisses.....

Welcome back, Trina!

Honey...we all struggle.  Just take a breath at a time and try to keep going.  You're a strong lady and I know you can whip this.  We're here when you need us. 

Big hug!
Freddie

Hi My Freddieness,

  Wow, I have really missed your chipper self.  LOL....  You bring sunshine to anyone's dark day.... 

    Thanks for offering to be there....

My Dear Trina,

I know how very hard that was for you!   I am so very, very proud of you for being honest with everyone, including yourself.  You have come a long way and I know you have the desire and drive inside to continue.  Just keep on keeping on, one day at a time.   I love you SO much. 

Stuckintexas