I CALL UNCLE!!!!!!

SCOTT O.
on 9/30/08 12:21 pm, edited 10/1/08 1:12 am - Nashville, TN

After much thought and consideration, I have to decided it was time to speak out! In other words, do you remember the game you use to play as kids...the one where your older brother would torture you until you uttered that magic word...UNCLE!!!

Well, it's time I said UNCLE, enough is enough, time to give up, put it to bed, the fat lady is singing! You could use whatever little saying you like. It's time to speak up!

      For the last week several of my friends, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart, have been at odds over a petty and minute incident. Now the incident in question does not matter. The he said, she said does not matter. The post that have been flying back and forth does not matter.

      What matters? Let me tell you. You are what matters! By you, I mean the person on the other end of this computer who is reading theses post! This is not normal behavior on the Tenn Boards!

For the new people that stumble across this support mechanism, you are what matters. You came here for a reason. Maybe someone suggested this really cool website where the people really care about you. Maybe they told you that there are some neat people *****ally know what support is all about. Perhaps your Dr. or the seminar you attended said, Hey check this out! For some reason, you are here, and because of that...YOU MATTER!!!!!

      For the person who is jumping through the insurance hoops, this is a great place to help you on the journey. For the group of people who have just been approved, this place will guide you when you ask those panicky questions that arises in the middle of the night like, "OMG what do I need to have at home after surgery". For the post op, this is a place that has a wealth of knowledge on protein and what you can eat. For the veterans, you can find that support that only comes from someone who has walked the path before you. For those who are going through plastic surgery, you can find out what it feels like to wear that binder afterwords!

      So you see, this board is all about you. It's not about me, it's about you. It's about what the board can offer you. I am truly caught in the middle, both physically and emotionally. I consider all those that are involved in this charade my friends!

Answers.com defines friends as:
1) A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
2) A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
3) A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
4) One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement:

      That is what I consider each and every one of you...friends! And I don't want to change that.

So, therefore, I scream UNCLE! Stop twisting words, stop stirring the pot, STOP, STOP, STOP!

Let's get back to being what we are...an on-line support group for you, not me!!!!!

Scott

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melsreturn
on 9/30/08 8:58 pm - Madison, TN

RNY on 10/10/06

These past few days I have tried to get back to posting responses to threads, and you know, it feels good. I was staying away from the board and hardly posted for several months and it hurt my heart. I love to talk to people about wls. I love to hear about their experiences, and I also equally love to share my own. I am really hoping that we can resurrect the board to what it used to be.

Scott is right. People need this board regardless of what stage of the journey they are on. Some are just starting, others are caught smack dab in the middle and need help, and then there are those who are facing shifts who need to re-evaluate diets, etc (such a****ting maintenance, or those who have developed low blood sugar).

I know that bitterness is an ugly thing. Once it gets into a heart, it eats away from the inside out. I hope that we can all move forward, and set aside our feelings in that we will not read every post wondering "What is he/she really saying?" I will work very hard to set aside my feelings when or as they arise. I want this to be a safe haven for wls folks.

Misty A.
on 9/30/08 11:58 pm - White House, TN

RNY on 06/22/06

UNCLE! Nicely said Scott. I just want all the lurkers and newbies to know that this is not typical of this board. We are truly a big family here and like any other family, we will go through our boughts of arguments and feelings get hurt. I do truly think it is unintentional when someone gets their feelings hurt. But we will mend and move on (at least my optimistic and sometimes naive self thinks so). Many of us have known each other for over a year or 2 and it will just happen from time to time.

Oh yeah- and like any other family, we do have our dysfunctional members - no names (cough cough BamaBob! cough) - hehehe. LOL Just playing.