I've Changed!

My mother and I were sitting on the porch and we were approached by a person that my family has knows for a long time, he is really an old friend of my oldest brothers. I spoke to him and he asked how I was doing, so I proceeded to tell him how much better I feel now that I have dropped a considerable amount of weight. He wanted to hug me but I rejected him because he had this loud, reeking smell of alcohol on him and I can't stand to smell certain things any more, without them making me sick. Well, that just opened a can of worms, he had the audacity to tell me that I've changed.........I laughed and mocked him to my mother, but he continued to say the same thing. He finally left with that intoxicated off the wall talk that he had going on for himself, as he walked off he told me and my mother that he loved us.............yeah right.

I wonder, as many times in the past as he has seen me, why is it that he wanted to hug me now and make a big deal out of it because I rejected him?! Well, he said I changed, so I guess I have. He was being so judgemental and yet he wanted to argue with me as he thought I was rejecting him because I think I'm better than him. Wow!!!! Some people. He wasn't thinking but I never judged him for not wanting to hug me when I weighed over 300 pounds. Oh, and he called me Miss High and Mighty, that was funny.

We, as WLS patients, try not to change but it's really hard when you think about how the "socially acceptable" people have treated us, the obese, as the underdogs and outcasts of the world and then when we get this chance of change they all of a sudden want to be our "friends". No thanks, I have enough friends right here on this board and we have all fallen from the same tree.

Diane

I would be more inclined to think that was the alcohol talking for him rather than you changing.

I can't stand the smell of liquor either and go out of my way to avoid people who I know have a drinking problem.

Does that make me a snob? Perhaps. Do I care? Nope!!

Change? yep Damn Right!

 You've CHANGED and I've CHANGED!

Hopefully not our core beliefs and what makes you, you and me, me, but change yep!

 We've worked hard, very hard to achieve change, change to take back our lives, change to get healthy, change to look good. There's not a darn thing wrong with acknowledging the change we have and are going through.

 Sometimes its hard for others to accept us for who we've become, heck sometimes its hard for us to except us for who we've become. But its all good!

 You see the lives this change has touched, Scott & Beth they'll be here to hold their grandchildren (sorry Beth not trying to marry him off before High School), Juanita she has the energy to keep up with two great girls, Trina who now seeks out those starting their journey and offers unconditional support, Susan who keeps the monthly social going, and all that post on IDGOMB that Change has given the ability and desire to exercise.

So take that Badge of Change and wear it proudly.

I sure will!

C'ya Bob 

Bob, WELL SAID my good friend!!

Sometimes you have to stand back and say, it's time  for a change.That is what this new journey is, oh man what a change, you are right it doesn't make you better, just more alert in life as to what you need and want out of life.  A FUTURE!!! MyNiceSpace.comBarb

Changed?  I haven't changed I've just become "better" at the person I already was...it's often the others on the outside looking that's "changed"....because you messed their perception of who they wanted to "box" you in as...  you are doing great!