Bad news

My dad passed in Memphis yesterday morning. I am a mess. My sister is a mess... There is alot of hurt and hurtful feelings that we are having to deal with. Long lost relatives popping up. Please keep us in your prayers. My dad served in Vietnam where he got Malaria and almost died. In fact, they said he would. He has had health issues his whole life. He and my mom divorced when I was like 3. Being honest... he did not do his job with us and for years we have had a roller coaster ride relationship. I only recently reached out to him because of wanting him to know about D's service and hoping maybe he would be proud of D. Anyways, not long after he ended up in the hospital and was there a little over 2 months. He would imporve then something else would go wrong. I did not go see him but I wanted to. I just did not know if I could handle it. Now they are gonna hold off on a service for him and with me leaving next Weds. I am upset because I am being shut out. Please pray for me to have strength and to not let my mouth say something in haste that I can't take back. Pray that God help me to have a forgiving heart. I am really trying. I don't want to be a finger pointer... It is just so hard. I really thought he would not pass cause he is just so stubborn. I am glad he is not suffering. I may need to look into a grief support group. My emotions are all over the place. I think I am not mourning the relationship I had with my dad but the one we didn't get to have. If that makes sense... I know that may be the wrong way to look at it but I always wanted to have... well don't matter. I would just appreciate your support. Love you all and thanks for being here!

Melissa, I am very sorry for your loss.  It is hard to lose a parent.  what you are feeling is very normal and understandable.  Prayers a being lifted for you and your family. 

Melissa,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to lose your dad when you have just had the chance to get to know him. I lost my dad 3 yrs ago and it still hurts. My prayers are with you and your sister as you go through this difficult time.

Janie

Melissa,
I am so sorry about the loss of your dad.  I imagine you are mourning not only his loss but what could have been.  It is called complicated grief.  I really encourage you to get in touch with a grief counselor when you get moved.  Grief support groups are wonderful too.  My daughter is a certified grief counselor in Knoxville, of you would like her email, PM me.  Again, I am so sorry, and you are in my prayers.
Marilyn

Melissa, so sorry to here about the passing of your father. No matter how close or how far away you are from a parent it hard to lose them. My daughters lost their fathers mother in May they had not seen her in 10 years and they are not close to their father. This has been very hard for them to deal with. I had hoped that it would bring them closer to their father but it doesn't seems to have helped. I was proud of them because no matter what they were there for their father thru the funeral and visitation. No matter how were treated by a love one their still family. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so so sorry for your loss.  You will be in my prayers!!
Jen

Hey Melissa, I am so sorry for your and the rest of the family's loss. I lost my Dad when I was 16, mom and dad were allready divorced and mom and remarried. Dad's side of the family treat me and my moms side of the faimly awful. They said that since mom had remarried by then that she or any of her family was not welcomed at the funeral home, and even wet as far as having flowers from moms side removed. My step dad at the time was awesome during all of this. It was a real mess for sure. As of today I still only have contact with one of dads family and that is his sister. Sadly we found out today that she is extremely sick and they have called in Hospice. So when she passes it is really going to be hard on me, because it will be like lossing Dad all over again and really for good. So I know a little about the finger pointing and talking about you.  Just try the best you can to keep peace with everyone, it won't be easy as you know, but you sound like a strong woman. Be safe traveling and we will be praying for you.

Cheryl 

Thank you so much and know you will also be in my prayers.

Melissa, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.
                        Lisa

Melissa,

I'm so sorry.  Try to remember at a time like this that everyone's feelings are raw.  Maybe things will get better over time.  I think a grief support group would be a great idea.  I will remember your family in my prayers.

B