Your advice would be much appreciated

We have all been let down in our lives.  It's not because we were/are obese (although I must admit that in my life, that's what I blamed it on).  It's that we are human.  We all make mistakes, we all have been on the receiving end of others making mistakes.  We get disappointed, we disappoint.  We've each suffered from or been on the receiving end of rejection.  Whether we want to admit it, we've also rejected others. Knowing how I experienced plastics, depression is a very real side effect.  It can also cloud our judgment and thinking.  I even had myself a good pity party, and cried.  When Mike, and Susan also said that they experienced the same depression after their surgery, I saw that I was "normal".  I've also spent some time on plastic surgery forums where I hear the same thing. I had an idea that might help, since our thoughts can be clouded by how we feel.  You could look at facts.  Write out a list of support group members.  Place a check by their name if they did call, send email, post about you on the board (you can look back on older posts since your surgery), did they come to visit you in the hospital, come visit once you returned home, provide any products for you such as protein, send flowers, cards?  I think you will be suprised at what you will see. But then ask yourself a question.  If there are people who did one of the above, and you still feel disappointed in them, what were your expectations?  Did that individual(s) know your expectations?  Were your expectations too high? I know that in the past, and still presently, people disappoint me...  but when I look at it in a logical way, aside from how I feel, I see that I expected too much from them.  Just a thought. Having said all of that, I do believe that this is a support group who cares.  I believe however, that there are support group members here right now who are struggling with their own problems...  some so much in fact, they are unable to reach out or help anyone else.  Perhaps they too are suffering with depression, others financial burdens.  Some of their problems we cannot fix.  We still listen.  We still post how sorry we are.  We try our best to show our support to one another.  But sometimes we don't get our needs met here. I hope this works, but I want to add the links for subjects about you while you were gone or getting ready. Shelia B Support Good Morning Everyone Talked To Todd Update on Shelia Update on Shelia #2 Shelia Update Shelia Update #2 I Am Home Update and Thank You Update on Shelia Latest Shelia Update Holy tamoli! My fingers are getting tired...  you have more friends than I do...  I didn't even get to them all... 

Once again, you have put my exact thoughts into words. Beautifully said Mel!