We Had To Laugh
I love my mother's dear cousin Jackie, she stopped by to see us today and she was surprised at the weight I have lost, it does feel good, but as you, my OH family know, we as patients can lose the weight but it doesn't stay gone without the help of this tool, so I wanted to share her comments with you, my very supportive family.
"Oh my you look so good, you have lost so much weight, I'm glad you didn't have that stupid surgery.' I continued to conversate with her on her level, and I mentioned that after I have lost a whole lot more weight I was going to have a lot of saggy skin that will have to be removed. Her response to that was......"don't worry about that". Oh cousin Jackie I love you but you just don't understand, after she left me and momma had a good laugh about it, and momma said oh yes you are going to have that surgery and we laughed again.
I'm working hard at this because I know that after I have this surgery I will be less likely to regain the weight back, if I didn't have this to look forward to I would see this as just another failed diet attempt, but I have so much more to look forward to and some don't even understand, but they will see. For a person that weighed 190 in the 5th grade and continued to balloon all thru school, only I know how miserable I have been and no one else but God and He is giving me a chance that I never had, He sees fit to bless me now and I will not give this up for anything.
I just had to tell you guys and dolls what happened and how supportive my mother has become of the whole thing. Thanks for listening!
Diane
"Oh my you look so good, you have lost so much weight, I'm glad you didn't have that stupid surgery.' I continued to conversate with her on her level, and I mentioned that after I have lost a whole lot more weight I was going to have a lot of saggy skin that will have to be removed. Her response to that was......"don't worry about that". Oh cousin Jackie I love you but you just don't understand, after she left me and momma had a good laugh about it, and momma said oh yes you are going to have that surgery and we laughed again.
I'm working hard at this because I know that after I have this surgery I will be less likely to regain the weight back, if I didn't have this to look forward to I would see this as just another failed diet attempt, but I have so much more to look forward to and some don't even understand, but they will see. For a person that weighed 190 in the 5th grade and continued to balloon all thru school, only I know how miserable I have been and no one else but God and He is giving me a chance that I never had, He sees fit to bless me now and I will not give this up for anything.
I just had to tell you guys and dolls what happened and how supportive my mother has become of the whole thing. Thanks for listening!
Diane
I'm glad you have your mother there for support. It would be much harder to try on your own I think. I'm very thankful for my husband and children who are standing by me all the way. My mother just isn't ever really supportive of anything I do. We are very different people but at least she isnt ranting and raving against it like others I have heard about. I really mostly think of my husband and my kids as my family now and they are all I need. I"m sorry your cousin just doesnt get it. I know we all will probably have some of that cross our paths. I hope I handle it as well as you did.
Blessings,
Karen
Hello Karen! Thank you for your response. I am sorry about your relationship with your mother, mine hasn't always been the easiest but we have a bond now.
It wasn't easy trying to explain this surgery and the need for it to her at first but she finally got the idea and now she understands, some days I think she's more excited about it than I am. I just got tired of trying to argue with people and as the old saying goes you can't "make" anyone do anything or understand anything for that matter. I do hope things get better for you but at least you have somebody in your life that understands and accepts our journey.
Diane
It wasn't easy trying to explain this surgery and the need for it to her at first but she finally got the idea and now she understands, some days I think she's more excited about it than I am. I just got tired of trying to argue with people and as the old saying goes you can't "make" anyone do anything or understand anything for that matter. I do hope things get better for you but at least you have somebody in your life that understands and accepts our journey.
Diane
Thanks, Diane. I do have a wonderful support system and there was a lot of healing that took place when I met my husband. He gives me the unconditional love that was always lacking before. He and my kids mean everything to me. I love my mother, but she has always made me feel bad about myself. I don't see her often, but we never fight. If I get upset with her I just dont call for a while or go there. I haven't been up to her place in months. She always feels obligated to cook things I'm not allowed to have on my diet. A lot of stress involved in visiting her. It is easier just to see her occassionally.
I'm glad you and your mom are getting closer.
Blessings,
Karen
Just smile and nod when dealing with the uninformed. Family...ya gotta love em!
I am so glad your mother is there as a strong support for you. You are going to be even more gorgeous than you are now!
Just one more month to go.
Susan (AKA bilsrib)
300/135/135 - Plastics February 2008 - Dr. Lois Wagstrom
P E A C E - It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.
Hey Susan!
You "know" what I'm talking about when it comes to uninformed people, especially family, they're funny in some way but in another they're sad.
Thank you, you are so sweet! I think we, as WLS patients, are even more attractive than some that have been at normal weight all of their lives. I know I've been checking out the profiles and we look good!!!!! LOL
I can't wait for July to begin!
Diane
You "know" what I'm talking about when it comes to uninformed people, especially family, they're funny in some way but in another they're sad.
Thank you, you are so sweet! I think we, as WLS patients, are even more attractive than some that have been at normal weight all of their lives. I know I've been checking out the profiles and we look good!!!!! LOL
I can't wait for July to begin!
Diane
I so understand Diane J. My church family told me I didn't need to lose anymore weight. Hello......I've just started losing weight. I've only lost 80 lbs. at 4 months out and have about 90 lbs to go. lol I still weigh 270, so you better believe I'll be working this tool to the fullest. I'm glad you have a supportive mom.
Oh Neena, it must have been for me to post this and get a reply from you because not only is Jackie my mother's cousin but she is also part of my church family. My pastor's wife is the worst one about it, she is actually afraid of me having this surgery, I haven't been there in a couple of months and she hasn't seen me and I want to keep it that way until after July 21st.
Work the tool, that's all we have to work and from what I've seen there's been some good results.
You will do this and succeed like I will.
Diane
Work the tool, that's all we have to work and from what I've seen there's been some good results.
You will do this and succeed like I will.
Diane
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