OT: HOW DO I HANDLE THIS ONE?

I lost my dad in October of last year.  We went through Thanksgiving, his birthday, Christmas and New Years and made it okay.  Today is mom's birthday and she seems to be okay.  This coming Monday would've been their anniversary.  How do I handle this?  Do I still say, "happy anniversary?".  Do I acknowledge it at all, and if so, how?  Anybody been in this situation?  Tell me what you did to help ease the pain......

Hi,  I have had a good bit of loss in my life.  The best thing you can do for your mom is acknowledge her pain.  Maybe instead of saying Happy Anniversary, you take her a bunch of flowers from the grocery store and tell her you remember what day it is.  Maybe offer to take her to the cemetary or something.  For me, anytime someone remembers a special day, it helps. Marilyn

I think that is a great idea, thanks for the reply!

I agree, try to remember something....with a card or flowers.  When my dad was alive he would get flowers for my step-mom and a card.  Since his death I will make every effort to make sure she still gets a card from us and maybe a dinner out with the other members of the family.  A time to remember the "Happy Days".  We all my cry some tears, but of happy memories instead of lonely feelings. Sherry PS.  I lost my mother when I was 18 to cancer and I used to get her a flower or flowers for her birthday each year as I was growing up.   Now, I still take her flowers-to her grave even after 27 years.....it makes me feel better.