MY MOM KNOWS ABOUT MY SURGERY- GUESS WHAT SHE SAID??

For everyone that has been praying for me about telling my mother about my surgery....I finally did yesterday.  I was so relieved when I got the words out.  She is a typical mother that worries about me all the time!  I knew that she would not be very excited about the surgery and would probably be very frustrated with me for having the surgery.  I didn't elaborate on the surgery...just a few details. She really didn't say much except for for OH ME! OH ME!! That was her way of saying "What are you doing?"   She doesn't really know much about the surgery so I figured I would share as she asked questions.  Thanks again for your support and prayers!!!!!!!!!!  GOD IS SO GOOD!!

Good Morning Friend...

  I know that it feels so much better for you now that you told your mom. 

  When I told my mom that I was going to have WLS she was not thrilled with the idea at all.  She was always good about it though.  She listened to me each time that I would call her and tell her all the great wonderful information that I learned about the WLS (she would be on the other end of the phone saying...uhhumm...uhhummm.. that is nice dear), and then she would be her great wonderful self each time that I would call her sobbing and tell her that the insurance denied me and I had to reapply and the WLS center was not helping me at all and I was having to fight an uphill battle all alone (she would be on the other end of the phone saying..well, Trina I really hate to be the one to tell you this but maybe God is sending you a sign to not have WLS)...   Okay, so I had to hang up the phone abruptly over that one to regain my composure to continue my uphill battle....

  Her last attempt to stop me was when she called me one day to let me know that there was a new Acupuncture technique that hordes of people were lining up at the local shopping Mall to have performed to help them lose weight..  She said they were stapling the ear and this caused people to not be hungry..  She continued that maybe I should have my ear stapled first and give that a try...   (uhhummm...uhhumm.. okay you know my routine here by now, I hang up the phone abruptly, and go look for my composure again, trying to remember where I laid it down before the phone rang)..and continue my battle that by now had turned into a full fledged war.... 

  But being the wonderful mom that she is she took a leave from her full time job, traveled 15 hours by car all alone, helped get me up at 4:30 A.M. and gather my belongings and necessities to go to the hospital and she never left my side the seven days I was in the hospital..even though I told her I would only be in the hospital tops maybe 3 days...(I had a complication....she was wonderful about that too..)  I would never have made it without her...  

Trina, thanks for your encouraging words!  I do wish my mom was like your mom.  She is much older than me and she will not be able to travel the two hours to Nashville for my surgery.  I know that she would WANT to be there but can't physically.  Nevertheless, she will be SPIRITUALLY!  I also know that she will PRAY, PRAY, PRAY! She can just be so negative about situations that occur.  She has always been that way so you would think that I would be use to it.  It has always hurt my feelings and I .....like you would slam the phone down making her mad if we were having a phone conversation.  My emotions would just take over. Considering I haven't told her about eating afterwards with the liquid and pureed diet, that will be another experience in itself.  However, the MAIN obstacle.....telling her is over!!!

Yourfriend, I certainly feel your pain. My mom and siblings called me fat all of my life even when I wasn't but I sure thought I was. Then when I told her that I was having the surgery she said, "You ain't big as a minute, why would you do that?" lol At 355lbs, I looked thin but when I was 190 lbs, I was called an elephant or hippo. My mom has dementia so it will not make sense to her now. She was expecting me to come out of surgery thin. My mom and dad's pastor drove them the almost 2 hrs. to the hospital to be with me on my day of surgery. My parents still don't understand about this surgery at all. I went home this weekend and daddy would go to KFC and tell me I could eat the potatoes and baked beans because I told him I couldn't eat fried chicken. I come here for support and get it from my hubby and kids. You'll do fine and know that you're not alone.

Neenaj, Thanks so much for you support.  It is amazing to hear how mu*****ommon our parents actually do have.  My mom would tell me the SAME thing.  One day I am too big and need to loose weight and the next minute I don't need to loose a pound.  My mom has told me over the past years that if I ever lost weight, I didn't need to loose much!  I'm not for sure how much I will loose; nevertheless, I am sure she will tell me that a few times with the WLS surgery.  Currently, I am 278 and I am 5'6".  Who knows how much I will loose???  Thanks again!

Okay, the hardest part is over, you've told her. Perhaps she will take some time to think it over and come back with questions and support instead of negativity. You know she's going to worry. It doesn't matter how old we get, our moms are still going to worry about us. It was so nice to meet you last night. I'm glad you enjoyed the group. Isn't Paula da BOMB?!

OH MY GOSH....PAULA!!!  She is absolutley adorable!!  It was great meeting you last night.  You have so much knowledge about RNY.  Have you ever thought about writing a book from a patients point of view??  I sure bet you would see them.  Of couse, we would all still expect FREE advice..Ha Ha.  Can't wait for your protein ideas next month! I do think mom will think and ask questions as she feels the need. ONE STEP AT A TIME!