Need some advice

Ok, I know this seems very shallow and bad, but I need some advice. My bf and I met 3 months ago and have been getting pretty serious. When we met I was a size 16 and he was plump but not bad at all. He was on a diet of low carbs and no sugars. I have contiued to loose weight and am now down to a 12, but the opposite has happened to him. Ever since we met, he has put on sooo much weight. He eats all the time. He shovels in junk food and eats way to much during regular meals. He makes comments all the time that he has gained and agrees one day to start his diet again, but then the next day he will go to a convience store he brings back junk food. Not just one thing but 3-4 things and he sits down and devores it in one sitting. It just reminds me of...well..me last year. I understand what it feels like to want food, but when I started this relationship, I thought he was in it with me on the journey of weight loss and healthy living. I want to support him, but I don't want to be with a person that will weaken my self control either. Am I being stupid??? I feel like a heel. Jeanie Post-Op: 10/12/04 Loss to date: 175 lbs

Jeanie, Your last sentence packs a powerful thought. You have worked so hard, you don't want to be falling into bad habits or routines again. It is not easy living with someone that is going in the opposite direction as you are. My best suggestion is to be open and honest. Tell him how you feel. Use "I" statements and say something like "I feel ____________ when you eat and eat because it makes me struggle harder so I don't fall off the wagon, and also because I worry about your health and I want us both to be healthy. We sometimes think those closest to us know how we feel, and that is not always the case, especially with men. They have a different way of interpreting things, signals, etc. and unless they are directly addressed, their point of view can be totally opposite of what we are thinking. With the "I" statements you take if off of him. He may not know how you are struggling when he is eating, or how you worry about if you make wrong choices with the items he brings home. Just some thoughts, hope it helps. Lori

ditto on what Lori said. Britt