I would like to know if a...

I would like to know if any one is expriencing the some kind of dought and self-questioning that I am. I have just celebrated my 1 year anniversery of having the by operation and I have only lost 100 pounds. Others that have had the operation before me have lost much more... I some times feel that I have failed. I am embarrassed by the large amounts of skin that hang from my arms and legs when I go to the gym to exercise I feel like people are looking at me laughing ..... I still get the same well meaning comment from people that haven't seen me .. oh your face is so pretty... they don't realize that hurts so much!!! I guess the reason I am writing this is to get things off my chest and maybe find a kindred soul out there who is going through the some thing I am.. I have a very supportive family.. My husband and daughters are great...except when he tries to tell me what I should and should not eat...oh well thanks for listening.

Hi, I am sorry that you are going through this. I am still pre-op and I am not sure what to expect. Hugs

You are not alone.......I am 1.5 yrs post op...I have lost 188 pounds.but 20 of that was from a tummy tuck in May........I had the same excess skin hanging, swinging, sagging from everywhere. I was soooooo embarassed all the time. I couldnt see the person who had lost all this weight, I just saw the 362 pound woman I was before. The more good comments I got from people the sadder I got. I thought getting rid of the excess skin by tummy tuck would help...WRONG!!!! I feel just as bad as before. I am single and have men flirt with me alot now, tell me I am beautiful..but i still feel large and ugly........WHY I ASK AND YOU ASK????? I personally believe that when you carry that weight so long you get it in your head that you are always gonna look a certain way and no matter how we change in our minds we still see the same person. I guess in our own ways we are being kind of shallow. We need to focus on the inner, heal that then maybe we can start enjoying our new looks.......losing 100 pounds is a big accomplishment. not everyone loses on the same level or same speed. God didnt intend for us to do everything or be the same............Bless each day you have been given...and each pound you have lost...................If you want to, read my profile.......then email me.....I would love to talk to you.....I am always here to listen.......

Thanks for your words of Encouragement Tina! I know That I was Having A PITY party.. which was really the worng thing to do ... I should be thankful ... since I posted the note I have lost four pounds by drinking more water and eating more protien. I am toning up now by exercing at the gym three times a week.. I feel great ... I feel like you were sent to me for a reason... keep in touch. thanks again!!!! Nan