emotional wreck

Hi guys. I am 10 days post op. I just needed to vent. I'm having major emotional issues. Basicly I feel like an outcast in my family. They went to the water park today while I stayed home. When my husband came home today he said "hun what's for dinner" My 12 year old said mom can't cook. He said If she wants. Yeah If she wants. Sure I'll cook a steak, baked potatoe, rolls and then I'll want to eat. I told my husband that I told him that this is a very emotional time. He said that if it happens again he will just leave the room or take the kids out. Not once has somebody asked, "Mom, when was the last time you ate?", or "Mom, do you need more water?" All I hear is "Mom, can I have one of your popsicle?" I know that this too shall pass. I just needed to vent because obviously my family has no clue. I have a sister in law that is 3 years out. I call her often. My sister and her boys are coming tomorrow for 2 weeks. They will be more helpful Thanks for hearing me out Wendy

Hi Wendy. I am sorry to hear you are having so many problems. My down pat answer to "What's for Dinner" is Dominoes Delivers......... Hope you feel better soon. I am just down the street so if I can help at all let me know and I will be happy to. Keep your chin up and you will get past this. Susann

AWWWWWW Wendy,it will pass hun.I was the same way and you do feel like your losing it.I didnt realize that it would effect not just me but my whole family.I remember easter dinner with all my in-laws..I was only about a month out and they all stuffed in the kitchen eating while I sat in the livingroom,so that I wouldnt see them eat.It made me feel like an outcast.It is a hard adjustment and I hate to say it but you will have more to over come in the next weeks to come.Just remember why you did this and think about the BIG picture. LOL that is so funny what you said about the popsicles,my nephew was here with me after surgery(he's 12) and with everything he had in there to eat he wanted my popsicles and SF jello(damn kids) lol.Anyways sweetie iy will get better,reach out to ppl that have had WLS because your right,ppl dont get it and it can feel very lonley.Im here if you need to vent,plz plz xall me anytime..Renee 803-808-3372

Thanks Renee. That's my oldest daughter's name. I went to church today and feel a little more human. Here's my number 843 879 0246 Thanks again Wendy

Wendy i know how you feel but it will get better soon...sending you a big((((hug)))) I promise in a month you will have more energy then you will know what to do with when you start feeling bummed out take a little walk....The more you walk the better you will feel....

Hi Wendy - Sorry your family isn't being more helpful and supportive. I have not had surgery yet but my husband asked me a question that relates to your situation. He asked me what happens when he wanted something for dinner that I can not have and I told him that he can cook it or I wouldn't mind cooking it if he asked me too... and I would eat/drink what I have to. He asked if I would rip his head off and I said "I hope not" LOL! This is something I will have to try and prepare for I agree that your family could Definitely be more helpful toward your needs and your hubby can either cook for himself or order out... instead of just asking "What's for dinner". I really hope this improves for you!! ~Shannon

Wendy, I guess I was lucky in a way my husband cooked dinner the first couple of nights... but..I was very emotional because I really wanted to eat what they were eating.. I even went so far as to going into the bathroom and closing the door and crying. I was not seconding guessing my choice of having the operation just that I wanted that Steak and Potaotes!!!!! I found out that keeping a journal really helped me through the rough times. I learned a trick from a friend , that if you want to write something that you dont want any one to know what it means just use the first letter of the word. This way you can sand blast that loved one who has really gottnen on your nerves and they will never be the wiser. ANd you will feel so much better. Take care of your self. It will become easier. Nan

Hi Wendy, all I can say is WOW!! I can't believe that he has been that insensitive. Here are {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} for you and we aren't far apart, so if you wanna get together sometime sounds good to me. I am still pre-op, surgery isn't until 9/12. Britt

I am sooooooo sorry your family isnt being sensitive..maybe you need to join a support group and make them go with you to a meeting. It will pass in time though i assure you. I was weird after my surgery....I became a huge cooker..haha.....I wanted to feed everyone..I guess since I couldnt eat I wanted everyone else to eat.......Then my first big holiday, Thanksgiving, 8 months after my surgery i fell apart and cried like a baby when everyone was eating because i still couldnt eat do to some major complications that i went through......I am now a year and a half post op and happy to say that even though i still cant eat worth a darn I am satisfied just to feed everyone else............guess if I was rich I would start a new feed the world campaign......and do all the cooking..........GOOD LUCK......