Experiencing Cold-shoulder from Friends?

Has anyone else had the problem of friends not being able to handle your weight loss and pretty much start to ignore you. I don't know what to do. I guess I'll find new friends! This makes me so sad. The one friend told me (before I had the surgery) that I would change. I told her that I wouldn't. I was right. She changed....I didn't.

Hi Amy. I'm still pre-op but I'm expecting the same thing to happen. Folks have a hard time dealing with change. I think part of is that they don't know what to say or do. Some of it is ignorance. I went through it when I got divorced. All my old friends drifted (some ran) away. It hurt but eventually I found new ones. I expect it will happen again when I'm post-op. All we can do is pray for the strength and courage it takes to move forward in our journey. I read the Serenity Prayer a lot. It's true. Keep your chin up. You'll be fine. Spread your wings. I'm sure you'll find all the right people that will love you no matter what. Lotsa love .....

Amy--- I'm dealing with that now from 2 friends. It REALLY hurts. I haven't changed. Its only been 13 days since my surgery. They won't return calls and one said I was changing even before I HAD the surgery. People are insecure. I know its their problem, but it hurts just the same. Cheri

hi, I have a friend that I work with who was all the time giving me compliments about how good I looked and she was always asking how much weight I had lost, but lately she hasn't said much and I believe it is b/c I now am smaller than her. I dont talk about my weight loss around her, only if she asks, but I can tell a change in her attitude. Its sad b/c friends should be happy for you, but I can remember how sensitive I was about my weight before I had my surgery I didnt wont to talk to about weight to anyone. Hopefully they will realize that we still think of them as friends and they we haven't changed.