2ND THOUGHTS-SCARED

Hi everyone, I am new to the site.  I am scheduled for surgery June 4th with Dr. Byrne.  I am really having second thoughts.  I have been working on getting this surgery approved for 4 years and now that it has, I am scared.  I know this is normal.  Just need some support on how this was the best option for you.  I think it is the thought that I could not make it thru surgery.  I trust Dr Byrne and his staff.   I really need to find a support group in Charleston.  Beside the one at MUSC.  I used to go to one on Wednesday nights in N. Charleston, but they have stopped meeting, does anyone know if there is another support group?  I would love to help organize one.  We just went to our 1st nutrition meeting and a little overwhelmed with the whole counting thing.  Just need some moral support. J

Hi there, It's ok to be scared....that means your taking it serious...as it should be. Dr Byrne is fantastic and I'm a nurse at MUSC so I'm biased, but it's a great place to have surgery, especially now that it's in the brand new ART building. We did have a wonderful group that met every Thursday (don't know about the wed group) but we have gotten out of having meetings , which is a real shame as we all need support at every stage after this surgery. I guess you can't please everyone!!! I recently got engaged (my fiance also had lap RNY surgery) and a few of the girls were at our party and we spoke about trying to resurect the group so hopefully that will happen....anyway keep posting we are out there ...mostly lurking but we will be glad to give you any advise Take care Lesley

Thanks for the kind words.  I guess it is normal.  I've had numerous surgies before, so I am not scared of that.  I am glad to hear about Dr. Byrne.  I worked at MUSC years ago and I know what a great place it is.   Please let me know if anyone starts up a support group, or I would love to help out with one.  I really liked knowing that there was one every week.  The clothing exchange was great.  I will keep up the positive attitude.    JoAnn

Scared to some extent is normal.... But living life miserably to me was more scarey. When I had my surgery it was do it and be happy or dont do it and die..... The surgery has come so far , now I am more scare with the extra energy that I will wear myself out. Yesterday I bought a pedometer and by the end of the day I walked 7.6 miles.... You will do fine... smile . I organized many groups and also found friends all over the country....enjoy it... I tell every one sit down smile and enjoy the ride.... I have no regrets..... except I didnt do it earlier..... good luck ....ron

It's DEFINITELY normal to be afraid & apprehensive regarding the surgery.  Every single one of us has been thru that.  My inspiration was spending hours & hours & hours looking at the Before and After pictures here on the website.  The people in those pictures were me & I kept telling myself that I'll be there one day.  Well, I haven't reached goal, but I have lost 124 pounds so far.  Please keep reading, learning, sharing, and praying.  We're with ya' - all the way!  

That's what I did too Hellen!  Those Before & After pictures do the trick!