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Thanks everyone for all the great compliments! 
I feel great! (and young!) I am almost at Dr. Bour's goal. I figured that if I reach his goal then have the PS that I will be at MY personal goal! lol! Everyone here has always been there for me when I had a concern or question. Thanks to everyone who has helped my during my journey. I just hope that I can help all the newbies by sharing some of the stuff I have learned along the way.
The funny thing is that I have 2 daughters, ages 22 and 29 and I am only 6 pounds hevier than them! They have always known Mom as being heavy so it will tickle me to death to finally be smaller than they are LOL!
I feel great! (and young!) I am almost at Dr. Bour's goal. I figured that if I reach his goal then have the PS that I will be at MY personal goal! lol! Everyone here has always been there for me when I had a concern or question. Thanks to everyone who has helped my during my journey. I just hope that I can help all the newbies by sharing some of the stuff I have learned along the way.
The funny thing is that I have 2 daughters, ages 22 and 29 and I am only 6 pounds hevier than them! They have always known Mom as being heavy so it will tickle me to death to finally be smaller than they are LOL! 
Is there a name for the trauma that people, who were one smaller than you, now face as you become the smaller one of the group? It does seem to bring out a really bad side of people’s personality. Or is it my imagination? I feel like they see me and push a lot of negativity toward my success, such as “taking the easy way” or asking if “its” going to come back?. One frind even like to point out the bat wings and other realignments.
The only thing I can think of is JEALOUSY! LOL!! I have heard those comments, but they were in the beginning of my weight loss journey. I also heard "if you can eat small meals now, why couldn't you just have eaten them without the surgery?" The closer that I get to my daughter's weight, the more it seems to bother them. Mom has always been big to them and soon Mom will be smaller than them!! I guess it was ok as long as Mom is bigger than them! I made my choice to get a handle on my weight and get healthy and they are old enough to make their decision. Yesterday my 22 year old said "soon I will weigh more than you" (she just found out she is pregnant). Then she asked was it just her or did she just see herself as a lot smaller than she really is. I didn't answer! Of course we are less than 10 pounds apart and she is 2" taller than me but she is wearing 11s and 12s and I am getting into 16s. What a lot of people tend to forget is that we (WLS patients) generally have a lot of excess skin. People in general are cruel but we just need to thicken up our skin (no pun intended!) and ignore it. I guess we all should be used to the comments from others since I am sure we all heard them when we were a lot larger. To me i would much rather have the skin problem that the weight problem! I am planning on having a large portion of my excess skin removed but I will still have the "bat wings" and probably some on the inside of my legs. If your "friend" made those comments about you then certainly they are not your true friend. I guess I am very blessed because my friends, family and everyone at work have been very supportive.
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