Surgery is tomorrow... stressed out and nervous

I have been experiencing every emotion that God ever created for the past week or so. It's caused a lot of fights between me and my husband... I've done a lot of apologizing. To add to it a friend of mine died yesterday. I have a one year old so who I'm not going to be able to really hold or anything after surgery for 6 weeks. I know he won't understand why... it makes me sad.

My family hasn't been very supportive. Either they've said things out of pure ignorance or some how have it thought up that their negative opinions need to be interjected everything they talk or e-mail me. I haven't said anything in response to any of it. I just try and either educate or just keep my mouth shut and let it pass. That is not like me, I'm quite the firecracker when it comes to people being stupid like that... but I know that in the end it doesn't matter what words come out of their mouth... either they'll be in my life after this or they won't - their decision. I already made mine up a few months ago and I'm sticking to it.

I hate the 'alone' feeling I've been having more than anything else... my husband wasn't ready for my neck fusion surgery a few years back and that just about destroyed us... then i got pregnant and he wasn't ready for that either... spent a lot of my pregnancy alone and in tears... but when our son was born... he was a changed man. I just hope that he can deal with this emotionally a lot better than he has with other things in the past.

And then there's that hindering thought of not coming out of surgery alive. I'm not so much worried about that - if I don't while things would be really screwed up here on earth.. I'd be with God. I'm at peace about the surgery itself... never nervous about that really just all the things and cir****tances surrounding it...

Thanks for listening... please pray for me and my surgeons tomorrow... we all know Monday mornings can be a lil rough ( lol ).

I will be praying for you and I trust that God will bring you thru.  I am on an emotional roller coaster myself but it helps to know that others feel the same fears. Karen

the emotions you are having are completely normal!! take a breath.. and try to relax.. it will be okay i promise!  It is alot more stressful having any surgery with young children, but more so for an "Elective' surgery as they call it.. I think its necessary for health, not elective.. but you know! lol.. i had a 3 yr old and an 11 mth old when i had my RNY.. It wasnt very bad really! i was able to hold them on one side with pillows around my "boo-boo"s while sitting down, someone would give them to me, and explain be careful with mommy's booboos.. you are investing in their future by having this surgery and being able to live a healthy and active life for them.. Im so sorry for the loss of your friend yesterday :(  Once you get through the surgery.. the first few days will be rough, you will be sore and gassy. .Get up and walk it will help with the gas pains, every day will get better and better by the end of week 1 you will be well on your way.. (((((((((HUGS))))))))))) good luck ill be praying for you!

Everyone goes through a lot of emotions the days before surgery.  Please know that we will all be there for you and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.  Some people are supportive and some aren't. You will be fine...just hang in there and enjo the ride.  Most of the people on this site will tell you this is the best thing we have ever done. Good luck!

We will be praying for you, your family and the doctors...please keep us posted when you can!

Thank you all so much for your responses... it's a mere few hours before i have to get up and get ready to go... i should be sleeping right now but who can sleep on the night before their surgery?! I enjoyed spending time with my husband and my son today.. it made me feel better. I went out and got a comfy pair of sweatpants to wear to the hospital... it will all be ok... i just feel at peace and that is God's work ... it has to be. Thank you all for your prayers and support... (((HuGs)))