Wow!!! You aren't gonna believe this...

Thanks for what you said at the end.  I hadn't thought of it that way but it is true.  I need to write that down.  Rachel

Hey Rachel, Hang in there!!!  They deserve each other- I know you do not want someone who does not respect you.  It is very sad ...that 2 marriiges are over.   People (men or women) who commit adultry are just plain selfish.  Typically they have never felt betrayed and do not know the pain that the innocent party is going through.  I am going thru the exact same thing..(hell!) .and I all I can say..is that every day gets better.  Yes...I miss mu husband...but he has changed !!!!  I do not want to make anyone stay with me who does not want to stay.  I hope they are happy as a clam because people who cheat, lie and deceive......they deserve to be someone who does the same thing. You sound very strong and determined.....and I know that  you have lots of support here.   Have faith, Trust God and Hang in there. The 3 F's will get you through.  Faith, Family and Friends! IF we can do anything else.........let us know Angela

Faith family and friends are the best!  Couldn't make it without them.

I am so sorry that you are going through this.  What a jerkoff.  I am so proud of you for taking control and getting out of there.  I have seen too many women stick around and take the abuse.  You go girl.  And remember... what goes around comes around.  He will definitely be getting his!

I heard a song today on the country music video show that reminded me of you.  "Stupid Boy"  by Keith Urban Deb

Here ya go Deb...

Stupid Boy lyrics Well, she was precious like a flower She grew wild, wild but innocent A perfect prayer in a desperate hour She was everything beautiful and different Stupid boy, you can't fence that in Stupid boy, it's like holding back the wind She let her heart and soul right in your hands And you stole her every dream and you crushed her plans She never even knew she had a choice and that's what happens When the only voice she hears is telling her she can't Stupid boy, stupid boy Oh So what made you think you could take a life And just pu**** pu**** around I guess you build yourself up so high You had to take her and break her down She let her heart and soul right in your hands And you stole her every dream and you crushed her plans She never even knew she had a choice and that's what happens When the only voice she hears is telling her she can't You stupid boy Oh, you always had to be right but now you've lost The only thing that ever made you feel alive Yeah, yeah Well, she let her heart and soul right in your hands And you stole her every dream and you crushed her plans Yes, ya did She never even knew she had a choice and that's what happens When the only voice she hears is telling her she can't You stupid boy, oh, I'm the same old Same old stupid boy It took awhile for her to figure out she could run But when she did, she was long gone Long gone, long gone Ah, she's gone Nobody's ever gonna love me like she loved me And she loved me, she loved me God please, just let her know I'm sorry, I'm sorry I'm sorry, I'm sorry Baby, yeah, I'm down on my knees She's never coming back to me

Thanks Tiff.  I really like that song, it says alot.  Poor Rachel. But the song seems to fit. Deb

I love that song.  It just might need to be dedicated to him sometime.  LOL!!  Thanks!!

Hi Rachel.  Sorry I am late in responding, but you know I am with you.  It is going to get better, I promise....and better and better and better.  I look at my ex now and can tell you he isn't nearly as happy as he thought he would be...and I am happier than I have ever been.  Just take care of yourself and hang in there.  My best advice is to find yourself and realize you can make it on your own.  You don't NEED anyone.....you need to WANT them. Love you and am here if you need me...just an e-mail away.

Thanks. Rachel