Wow!!! You aren't gonna believe this...

Wow Ladies!!  You are not gonna believe this!!!!  You were all right...he did have another woman on the side since June.  It makes me want to puke to think about the counseling we were going through at the time and he was screwing another woman - again with a husband and 2 children.    This time he fell in love with her.   I spent the entire day yesterday in the attorney's office (and I got a maneater ball buster attorney!!!).  He will be served with separation papers on WEdnesday of next week and he has no idea.  He is out of the house.   I thought the pain would get easier but it seems to be harder this time because he loved this girl.  ALthough statistics show that only 1% of marriages make it after they begin as affairs.   Wow life is hell sometimes.  How do we manage to make it through. Rachel

It was THAT girl wasn't it? I hope her husband kicks his ass. Love you Rachel!!

Men wear "GUILTY" like my 3 yr old wears lip gloss... ALL OVER THEIR FACES!!! ok... so he thinks hes moved on, found himself a trophy girlfriend and life is all good. I bet she wont be so "in love" when her husband finds out. That is ONE good thing about SC... adultery doesnt pay when it comes to representing yourself in court.  Rachel,  Dont ever invest so much of yourself in someone who cant give back. Its just not worth it. You are worth so much more than that. Dont ever discount yourself, its just not worth it. With that said, dont run into the arms of ANYONE else ANYTIME soon...you gotta be LILY WHITE through this process! Dont give him any mud to sling your way! 

My attorney warned me about keeping my nose clean.  She said to do most of my partying at home or in large groups if men are present.  She said he will be looking for mud...not gonna let him have any.  Thanks for the advice. Rachel

i just replied to your email.. but DAMN HIM!!!! I hope you get alimony and everything that goes with it girl!!! my replacement cell finally came in so you can call me when u can. Like crystal said, dont jump into anything anytime soon.. ENJOY This time to yourself!!! i can think of several fun things we can do real quick like!!! divorce party anyone?  love you girl!! keep your head up youre beautiful!!!!

No alimony possible because he is a broke a$$ banker like I am a teacher.  Only benefit of proving guilt is that he has to pay my attorney fees which saves me a ton.  I will def. have a divorce party!!!  Thanks  I love all of you. Rachel

Rachel,    I just read this.  I love you and you're gonna make it just fine.  Come to Charleston soon Mary

Thanks.....I would love to come to Charleston soon.  I'll be in touch!!!

I am sorry for all you are going thru, we are here for you! Love Ya, Patti

Thanks!  Love ya 2!!